Healing and recovery from rape, sexual abuse, and sexual assault is possible
Pandora's Aquarium, an online support group, message board, and chat room for rape and sexual assault survivors
For Friends, Family, and Partners
of Rape and Sexual Abuse Survivors

Supporting a friend, relative, or partner who has been a victim of rape, sexual assault, or sexual abuse can be incredibly difficult. Secondary survivors are welcome to join our community and seek support on the message board - your feelings and issues with respect to the survivor you care about are important. However, if the survivor you are supporting is also a member of Pandora's Aquarium, you'll need to seek permission from that person to join. You will be able to read and post in the "Healing Together" forum and all public forums, but not the other private forums which, due to the wishes of survivor members, are open to survivors only. When you join, please take time to read the guidelines in the Healing Together forum.

One supporter says this of the help he found at our message board: Pandy's has been helpful to me in a number of ways. It has been helpful to share struggles and confusions with other secondaries. A few survivors have put forth questions to secondaries and I've gained some valuable perspectives from forum discussions with them.

To all those who who are supporting a wife or husband, sister or brother, boyfriend or girlfriend, or friend who has been raped or sexually abused, thank you for being there for the special survivor in your life. Your support is endlessly appreciated.  Please consider joining the Pandora's Aquarium messsage board for help as you and your loved one heal.

Helpful Resources for Supporters
Secondary Survivors Surviving to Thriving's Secondary Page
Tips for Friends and Family of Survivors
A Guide for Friends, Family, and Partners of Survivors How to help the survivor and how to help yourself
RCIP's How to Help a Survivor and Partners of Survivors
Herodes' Cave Spring Board & Live Chat Room This community for secondaries was started by supporters here at Pandy's. It is small right now but growing and full of resources.

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