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Recommended Reading for Rape & Sexual Abuse Survivors

The following are books recommended by Pandora's Project and other trusted organizations. Each book is a link to an Amazon page where you can find more information about the book, and if you choose to purchase a book using these links, Pandora's Project will receive a share of the proceeds.

Don't forget that if you join Pandora's Aquarium survivor message board and chat, you may be able to borrow some of these titles from our Lending Library.

Relationship Abuse
Real Rape Real Pain: Help for Women Sexually Assaulted by Male Partners - Patricia Easteal & Louise McOrmond-Plummer
Why Does He Do That?: Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men - Lundy Bancroft
The Emotionally Abused Woman: Overcoming Destructive Patterns and Reclaiming Yourself - Beverley Engel
License to Rape: Sexual Abuse of Wives - D.Finkelhor & K. Yllo
Rape in Marriage - Diana E.H. Russell
When Violence Begins at Home: A comprehensive guide to understanding and ending Domestic Abuse - K.J. Wilson
The Gift of Fear - Gavin de Becker
Abused Men: The Hidden Side of Domestic Violence - P. Cook
Free Yourself from an Abusive Relationship: Seven Steps to Taking Back Your Life - Andrea Lissette & Richard Kraus
Getting Free - Ginny NiCarthy

Date / Acquaintance Rape
I Never Called It Rape: Recognizing, Fighting, and Surviving Date and Acquaintance Rape - Robin Warshaw
The Date Rape Prevention Book - Scott Lindquist
Coping With Date Rape and Acquaintance Rape - Andrea Parrot
Beauty Restored: Finding Life and Hope after Date Rape - Me Ra Koh
Acquaintance Rape: The Hidden Crime - Andrea Parrot

After Silence: Rape & My Journey Back - Nancy Venable Raine
Lucky: A Memoir - Alice Sebold
The Story of Jane Doe: A Book About Rape - Jane Doe
Telling: A Memoir of Rape and Recovery - Patricia Weaver Francisco
The Rape Poems - Frances Driscoll
Against Our Will: Men, Women, and Rape - Susan Brownmiller
The Sexual Healing Journey - Wendy Maltz
Resurrection After Rape: A Guide to Transforming from Victim to Survivor - Matt Atkinson

For Friends, Family, & Secondary Survivors
Trust After Trauma - Aphrodite Matsakis
Allies in Healing : When the Person You Love Was Sexually Abused As A Child - Laura Davis
Family Fallout : A Handbook for Families of Adult Sexual Abuse Survivors - Dorothy Beaulieu Landry
Ghosts in the Bedroom : A Guide for Partners of Incest Survivors - Ken Graber
When You Are the Partner of a Rape or Incest Survivor: A Workbook for You - Robert Barry Levine
Helping Her Get Free: A Guide for Families and Friends of Abused Women - Susan Brewster
What About Me? A Guide for Men Helping Female Partners Deal with Childhood Sexual Abuse - Grant Cameron
When Your Child Has Been Molested: A Parents Guide to Healing and Recovery - Kathryn B. Hagans
If He is Raped: A Guidebook for Partners, Spouses, Parents and Friends - Alan W. McEvoy
Little Girl Lost: One Woman's Journey Beyond Rape - Leisha Joseph

Child Sexual Abuse
Secret Survivors: Uncovering Incest and Its Aftereffects in Women - E. Sue Blume
The Courage to Heal - Ellen Bass and Laura Davis
Healing the Child Within - Charles L. Whitfield M.D.
The Right to Innocence: Healing the Trauma of Childhood Sexual Abuse - Beverly Engel
Outgrowing the Pain - A Book About Adults Abused As Children - Eliana Gil
Getting Through the Day: Strategies for Adults Hurt as Children - Nancy Napier
Incest and Sexuality: A Guide to Understanding and Healing - Wendy Maltz
Beginning to heal - Ellen Bass & Laura Davies
The Dance of Intimacy - H. Lerner

For Men
Wounded Boys, Heroic Men: A Man's Guide To Recovering From Child Abuse - Daniel Jay Sonkin.
Recovery For Male Victims Of Child Sexual Abuse - Hank Estrada
Leaping Upon the Mountains: Men Proclaiming Victory over Sexual Child Abuse - Mike Lew
Speaking Our Truth: Voices of Courage and Healing for Male Survivors of Child Sexual Abuse - N. King
The Male Survivor: The Impact of Sexual Abuse - Matthew Parynik Mendel
Victims No Longer The Classic Guide for Men Recovering from Sexual Child Abuse - M. Lew
Men in My Town - Kevin Smith

For Young Survivors
Speak - Laurie Halse Anderson
Invisible Girls - Patti Feuereisen and Caroline Pincus
In Love and In Danger: A Teen's Guide to Breaking Free of Abusive Relationships - Barrie Levy
Sarah's Waterfall: A Healing Story about Sexual Abuse - Ellery Akers
Strong at the Heart - Carolyn Lehman
When She Hollers - Cynthia Voigt
A Safe Place: Beyond Sexual Abuse - Jan Morrison
Teen to Teen: Personal Safety and Sexual Abuse Prevention - H. Catalina
It Happened to Me: a Teen's Guide to Overcoming Sexual Abuse - W. Lee Carter
How long does it hurt? Mather, Debye, and Wood
We are not alone: a teenage boy's personal account of child sexual abuse - J. Angelica
We are not alone: a teenage girl's personal account of incest - J. Angelica
When something feels wrong: a survival guide about abuse for young people - Deanna Pledge
Too close for comfort: a book about teenagers who have been sexually abused within their families - J. Hayward & D. Carlyle

Same-Sex Rape & Abuse
Violent Betrayal: Partner Abuse in Lesbian Relationships - Claire Renzetti
Intimate Betrayal: Domestic Violence in Lesbian Relationships - Ellyn Kaschak
Naming the Violence- Speaking out about Lesbian Battering - K. Lobel
Male On Male Rape: The Hidden Toll Of Stigma And Shame - Michael Scarce
Woman to Woman Sexual Violence: Does She Call it Rape? - L. Girshick
Violence in Gay and Lesbian Domestic Partnerships - Claire M Renzetti

PTSD and Rape Trauma

No Comfort Zone: Notes on Living with Post Traumatic Stress Disorder - Marla Handy (Also please see the DVD Making Peace with Chronic PTSD - Marla's Story in which Marla has a conversation with Pyschiatrist and Trauma expert Dr. Frank Ochberg)
Trauma and Recovery: The Aftermath of Violence--from Domestic Abuse to Political Terror - Judith L. Herman
I Can't Get over It: A Handbook for Trauma Survivors - Aphrodite Matsakis
Recovering From Rape - Linda Ledray
The PTSD Workbook- Mary Beth William & Soili Poijula
Angela Shelton's Warrior Workbook - Angela Shelton