5 worst betrayals


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LionheartedAndrew

Guest Parents,

I am so very very sorry you were betrayed in such a manner. I am also sorry your bio-dad has a relationship with his younger child and not you as well.

Sitting with you. Safe :hug:if okay. :bouquet::metoyou:

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Hello again Kevin - I'll start here with one betrayal that still rocks me from time to time. My mother visited my rapist in jail. Even though I was used to never having her be on my side, that was a

@pursuinggrace. I'm so sorry Laura, this is all terrible and so wrong. You deserved so much better. Lou x

I It was cruel to say the least, but I was 18 and she was 26 when she said it to me. I was 9-10 when she lived with us for about a year, she was referring to that time (she was 17-18.) I didn't

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I have more to add to my list of betrayals.  I had new memories come back last week...

I was betrayed by the man my father trusted to watch me while he and mom were at the hospital. My baby brother had meningitis, and a temp of 106. They dropped me off at one house and my twin brother at another house.

The man digital an*l r*p* me 8 times over a 4 day weekend. Every night during bath time and again right after.  And then after dressed in pjs, dry hump me on his lap till he finished. I was just about 3 years old.

Also age 22 in Marines, tackled by drunk female sailor who then sa me.

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Guest Parents I can hear your pain and frustration. I'm sorry you were betrayed that way by them all and your mother retraumatized you. :bouquet:

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@LionheartedAndrew it saddens me you have so many betrayals in your life.thinking of you 🌹🌹🌹💗💐

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@Mishi, thank you...I'm pretty blown away too. To think, none of this was known to me for all these years, and now 41 years of abuse history in less than 5 months...overload!!! :bouquet::hug::holdhands::heart::wub::holdhands:💖🌹💐💞💜💛

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Safe hugs for eveyone, and anyone who wants some :hug:

I can't think about 5, but two recent ones from the same person:

1) She thought I wanted what happened to me. She tried to put some of HER logic in it. Proved she doesn't really know me. 

2) A few weeks ago, she said I didn't think know what love is... and I said: maybe you're right. Making me think again I was sellfish and I only cared for myself. 

The person who says she loves me, whi wants the best for me. Sometimes I feel lile she likes playing with my mind. Like she wsnts to get me really upset... 

She's just making me put some distance between us. The end of an era. 

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As a secondary survivor being uppermost in my mind and the reason why I am on this site, I find it confusing to be responding to this from my own personal perspective as just me but here goes;

1. my dad, for his sa of my twin whilst I was asleep next to her

2. whoever it was that gave me body trigger that I have - the memory being someone from my left attempting to (can't write the words yet) but I was very young

3. my mum for not contacting authorities sooner and more often when all the violence was going on throughout my childhood

4. my first husband who, when I woke up whilst he was attempting to rape me, broke out into violence when I responded negatively

5. my family for not having my best interests at heart, for not being in anyway trustworthy, for meeting their own needs above mine, never really listening to me, just me.

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LionheartedAndrew

@RosaRay:hug:

You mentioned several incidents that by definition make you a survivor. I am so very very sorry those things happened to you. You deserved none of it, nor your twin. :bouquet::metoyou:

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Guest Cotswolds by the Fir

This is my first comment on this board; happy to have found this place.

 

My worst betrayal came from my mom. I told her about the molestation committed by my father (ages 7-9 I think) and she sent me back upstairs. She confronted him she said. The she gave me (a 9 year old!!) the option to have him leave, but "we wouldn't have any money or anything and we'll need to move in with your grandparents." She didn't prosecute, didn't even leave. The abuse stopped and I assume she told him she would literally murder him if he touched me again. She thought it was enough just to make it stop.

As an adult, I once confronted her, asking why she didn't leave. She replied, "What was I supposed to do? I didn't have a job. Who would have supported us?" It's such a victim mentality with her. Even now, I just told her I wouldn't be bringing my kids to their house anymore on long visits (they live 15 hours away). She seemed so betrayed, as if I was keeping them from her and not just trying to keep my kids from a dangerous situation WHERE MY DAD STILL LIVES. 

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God, I have a lifetime of,betrayals I couldent pinpoint five that hurt the most 

butnhere  are a few

when i miscaryed my two precious babies, mum basically blamed me for eating too much junk food instead of supporting me and comforting me. She blamed me

when I had to bury my stillborn son, I was callopsing on the ground next to his grave, mum told me, hurry up , the man wants to fill in the hole.

when I left my ex for good, he sent me a huge long text blaming me for killing my stillborn son. 

When my dad gave me his mums inheritance money, for me to start a savings fund for a house, my ex made me put both of our names on the bank card, and I found out yrs later he had slowly drained it all and put it through the pokies. Fuck I hated him for that. That one hurt so so bad

when I was a young girl, can’t rmeber how old, but too young, my uncle was sexually assaulting me, mum went off her nut at me for having an affair with her husbane, my dad. She blamed me for having sex with my dad. It wasent happening, she was just living in a fantasy world, but she full on thought I was having an affair with my dad.

yuk, I v triggered myself sorry gotta leave this here now😳😫

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1 hour ago, Guest julia272 said:

Worst betrayal for me is that my mom knew, saw the injuries, listened- and didn't give a f*ck. 

Sending care, Julia. I am sorry your mom didn’t care or help you. You deserved better.

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