Louise Posted July 30, 2005 Share Posted July 30, 2005 Okay, I'm probably having a mild co-dependent crisis here, but I just wanted to clarify something and also get member's thoughts. The "Wonderful Threads" forum was created so we could save important, pithy and popular survivor topics for people to read, be helped by, share in, feel less isolated etc. I feel a bit concerned that pople who post in older and very big threads are making great contributions but missing out on being actively supported. For example, in the "Stupid Comments" thread, there are lots of very sad, shocking secondary wounds being shared, but replies to specific posters about their posts have gotten thinner as time has gone by, which of course usually happens in older threads - I just don't want anybody to feel unheard. I suppose I wanted to just sound a reminder that people who are needing active support beyond just sharing should feel very okay about starting new threads on any of these topics in "my voice" or other relevant forum. What do others think? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Stephanie Posted July 30, 2005 Share Posted July 30, 2005 Personal choice I reckon - sometimes I like to add to a large thread - just to add my thoughts on that topic. If it was something I wanted support on I would post a seperate topic in my voice. I don't think old threads should be locked and retired - those threads are valuable resources and I often refer people to them when replying to posts. I think it is enough to make sure that people know that it is perfectly alright to add their thoughts to an old long thread and start a new thread in My Voice if they need specific support for something. Steph Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kimby Posted August 4, 2005 Share Posted August 4, 2005 I get confused by some of the older threads because they seem to have a lot of quotes that come from nowhere... maybe I'm doing it wrong but when I go to page 1 looking for the original post, it will often contain a series of quotes as if it wasn't actually the original post. So I've somewhat given up on trying to read them. Is there something I should be doing differently? Maybe it would be better to keep them locked but still open to viewing as a resource. I also tend to avoid posting in the public arena because it feels uncomfortable to me. Kimby Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cathy Posted August 4, 2005 Share Posted August 4, 2005 Kimby, When we switched to this board (or another earlier one, I can't really remember) a lot of the older threads got messed up. In order for them to be correct again, someone would have to go through and edit them and such. The original post is usually still there (I think), but it's no longer the first one, as you might have noticed. It's usually still on the first page, but down a bit. So, no, it's not anything you are doing wrong. Blame it on the gremlins. Cathy Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tracy Posted August 4, 2005 Share Posted August 4, 2005 The original post is usually still there (I think), but it's no longer the first one, as you might have noticed. It's usually still on the first page, but down a bit. yep. I went back looking at some old threads just a few days ago and never found the original thread that started it...weird... board gremlins. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kimby Posted August 5, 2005 Share Posted August 5, 2005 Nasty gremlins! Kimby Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MatthewJ123 Posted September 14, 2005 Share Posted September 14, 2005 are they the same ones that live in your washer, and eat your one sock out of the pair? mel Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NancyPS Posted May 19, 2007 Share Posted May 19, 2007 Hi, I am new here and I agree it's a little confusing to follow some of the threads of the topics, but I am learning, and I hope it will get easier. I am just grateful this place exists. I have found myself the past few days wanting to come to this site first even before I read my email which is a huge change for me. I suppose that means I just need to feel supported at the moment, since there is a lot of stuff going on in my real world including the wait for my abuser to be sentenced. Thanks for being there. Nancy Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
blondie2002 Posted August 16, 2007 Share Posted August 16, 2007 about the "sock monster". I'm glad I'm not the only one that thinks there "is" one! blondie24 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
squirrelfish Posted November 23, 2010 Share Posted November 23, 2010 Replying to an old thread, after reading through it made me a) feel so much less alone and helped me to understand my issues and their origins better and b) allowed me to put things into words as practice for telling someone in 3D for the first time. Sharing has helped a lot. I saw as I read through the post that not many people were getting direct responses, I assumed the threads had become sounding grounds. And hope that my words might help someone else to feel less alone in the future. That said I do find making new threads really difficult, rather scary, and so generally avoid it. sf Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Cherysh Posted June 27, 2018 Share Posted June 27, 2018 I think Louise, going back & replying to older threads can be a bit counter-productive But having said that, it can allow others to support & reply to the thread starter; or anyone else for that matter Finally I would like to say a big thankyou to Admins & Mods for allowing guest posting on this sub forum Wonderful Thread I'm still awaiting email activation code to become a member, but no probs as you allow guest posting here Incidentally thanks for deleting my duplicate posts xx Cherysh xx Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Wantamiracle Posted January 22, 2019 Share Posted January 22, 2019 Yes Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Colonial Girl Posted June 22, 2020 Share Posted June 22, 2020 Hello. I am hoping that this forum might be a place where THE SPOUSE of an abuse survivor can go to receive support FOR HIMSELF. Every spousal support site I've checked is about how the spouse can support the survivor which, clearly, is key. However, I know of a couple in which the spouse feels drained. Is anyone out there in a similar situation and can offer COMFORT to the spouse? Thank you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jenny Posted June 22, 2020 Share Posted June 22, 2020 41 minutes ago, Guest Colonial Girl said: Hello. I am hoping that this forum might be a place where THE SPOUSE of an abuse survivor can go to receive support FOR HIMSELF. Every spousal support site I've checked is about how the spouse can support the survivor which, clearly, is key. However, I know of a couple in which the spouse feels drained. Is anyone out there in a similar situation and can offer COMFORT to the spouse? Thank you. You would be very welcome to sign up here as a secondary survivor member. Some areas of Pandys wont be open to you, but others will. It is important to reach out for your own needs as well, and you will be listened to here. Take care, Jenny Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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