lupa42 Posted March 19, 2014 Report Share Posted March 19, 2014 His last name bf flirting with other people being turned down for sex by bf for any reason feeling cornered during an argument with anyone anything that seems like a person might not be telling the truth anyone belittling/downplaying rape or rape victims, especially rape in a relationship talking about open relationships Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Salemkitty Posted March 26, 2014 Report Share Posted March 26, 2014 Jurassic Park one and two. The bathroom fan. City inspections and landlords. Pressure. People telling me what I should do or what I have to do, criticism, unhelpful professors, therapists and counsellors, having a low income, the neighbor who keeps trying to let us know that he wants us to move so that his daughter can move in our apartment, and that he's a buddy of the landlord, the landlord moving my plants on the patio to see if that would cause us to leave I think. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
anonymousmale93 Posted March 26, 2014 Report Share Posted March 26, 2014 I've not been exposed to much since it first happened so the only ones I've noticed is I don't like my doorbell going off, my phone going off or leaving the house while its light out. I kinda want to get out unseen and get on with going to the shop and get back quick. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
lucy Posted March 26, 2014 Report Share Posted March 26, 2014 Hello anonymousmale93, I can relate to wanting to get out unseen, I think that you are very brave for sharing here. Take gentle care Lucy x Quote Link to post Share on other sites
shamefree Posted March 28, 2014 Report Share Posted March 28, 2014 I hate being touched when I'm not expecting it. Especially from just below my armpits to my hips. I jump out of my skin, practically, even if it's my spouse. And if it's from behind, I practically jump. I've nearly hit people before just out of reflex. Leaving my house if neighbors are outside. Coming home and walking into the house from the car if any neighbors are outside. I feel really vulnerable then. Public restrooms, especially stand-up urinals where I have my back facing the room. A stall-type toilet, especially if someone is in the next stall. Locker rooms at the gym; changing clothes there. Pumping gasoline. Really quiet, introverted men. Being told what to do. Even if the other person is right. I'm not sure how many of these are weird. But they're mine. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
beezinbusy Posted April 2, 2014 Report Share Posted April 2, 2014 Ajax Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Mindyay1983 Posted April 4, 2014 Report Share Posted April 4, 2014 My weird triggers. Don't quite seem as weird anymore, knowing I'm not alone. I have just been reading through everyone's posts & I love the fact that someone started this site. Makes things a little easier. Anyone touching or grabbing at my neck & shoulders Men touching my hair Confrontation of any sort Giving a man oral sex People making molestation jokes Older men Swallowing medication Quote Link to post Share on other sites
POODLE Posted April 4, 2014 Report Share Posted April 4, 2014 Alligator clips or anything resembling them Anyone touching the back of my head anyone touching my hair (less now it is short and I have to go to the hairdresser) Having my ears touched Any one whispering in my ear, even includes my little granddaughter Rope Drunk men Any one shouting or getting abusive Confrontation Steak knives Catheters Anyone coming up behind me All high days and holidays Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Cherline Posted April 5, 2014 Report Share Posted April 5, 2014 People with authority in uniform. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
bluebutterfly Posted April 8, 2014 Report Share Posted April 8, 2014 Schoolbuses. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Danie Posted May 24, 2014 Report Share Posted May 24, 2014 (edited) Ginger men Being alone with Men Someone walking behind me when I'm out (even if I'm with friends) Alcohol (including drunk men) Ginger in any food or drink People putting their arm around my shoulders or waist Holding hands Sleeping in the same bed of as a man or sometimes men sleeping in my house I don't know very well Rape jokes Cuddling men People whispering Night clubs Edited May 24, 2014 by Danie Quote Link to post Share on other sites
amy66 Posted June 2, 2014 Report Share Posted June 2, 2014 Great thread ok here goes Small red cars Chanel chance perfume Radox shower gel My neck being touched Bruises on legs Brut aftershave Quote Link to post Share on other sites
8888 Posted June 3, 2014 Report Share Posted June 3, 2014 Discovered a new weird trigger recently, wood paneling. Only light colored wood if it looks or smells a certain way. Not sure why. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Desertfox Posted June 27, 2014 Report Share Posted June 27, 2014 Little kids screaming like they have been hurt certain music sunbathing golden retrievers Being humiliated on purpose Being locked in Smell of my old room My grandmother Being held by both wrists Old men Quote Link to post Share on other sites
ciaraw566 Posted June 28, 2014 Report Share Posted June 28, 2014 This was a great idea My triggers: Someone hugging me from behind Being called beautiful Thought of sex Seeing a male and female have sex. Touching my face Touching my legs Orgasming Someone touching my neck. The sound of guys moaning. Seeing a penis Seeing for play Male heavy breathing Someone hovering over me. Caressing my shoulders. Someone mentioning smoking pot( he smoked pot) Being naked. Sleeping on a mattress without a bed sheet. Sleeping next to someone. Seeing my friends kiss, the thought of people being lucky. Scrawny guys without a shirt on. Someone touching my hair. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
NavaChadash Posted July 21, 2014 Report Share Posted July 21, 2014 I just recently joined this group, but this post makes me feel less alone. To the general public nobody understands why I freak out when they touch me even though I know they don't mean any harm. It's unfortunate but reading that many of you have the same triggers as me helps me feel less alone. any physical contact without permission even innocent anybody coming up behind me significant others trying to touch me or be intimate ie holding hands or hands on waist in public anybody's hands on my shoulders, neck, head, arms, waist seeing other people with their significant other's arms around their neck or around their waist my neck being wet or moist churches dimly lit outdoor corridors laying on my stomach thinking about certain sexual acts or positions Quote Link to post Share on other sites
LeahInCalifornia Posted July 23, 2014 Report Share Posted July 23, 2014 Ditto -- just joined this site because I'm getting triggered (32 years later!), for the first time in years, by upcoming gynecological surgery. It's a wonderful resource. Thank you everyone for what you've written. My triggers: -anyone trying to control my breathing *including* meditation leaders ("now breathe in; now breathe out"), etc. -people standing over me -the thought of being naked and unconscious with a bunch of people with knives standing over me (in other words, surgery!) Quote Link to post Share on other sites
bluefiremama Posted August 20, 2014 Report Share Posted August 20, 2014 This is the reason I came here today. I recently started going through and unpacking boxes, things that I have had for a while are triggering me in several ways. The old stuff is triggering memories and then the memories are triggering dissociation. I am taking a break, think a lovely cup of coffee is in order. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
zacjeslin Posted August 20, 2014 Report Share Posted August 20, 2014 Coast soap movies that I saw with ex - especially ones with sex scenes a certain tone in voice - like I'm in trouble, have done something wrong being flipped over (from face to face to face to floor) telling me what I can drink telling me how to dress or insulting what I have on if I picked it out smell of sex pictures of ex being pinned down so I can't get up want to puke thinking about these. Probably make no sense to anyone else... struggling with what it all means/what the hell happened to me? Quote Link to post Share on other sites
bluefiremama Posted August 21, 2014 Report Share Posted August 21, 2014 Coast soap movies that I saw with ex - especially ones with sex scenes a certain tone in voice - like I'm in trouble, have done something wrong being flipped over (from face to face to face to floor) telling me what I can drink telling me how to dress or insulting what I have on if I picked it out smell of sex pictures of ex being pinned down so I can't get up want to puke thinking about these. Probably make no sense to anyone else... struggling with what it all means/what the hell happened to me? I often feel nauseated when triggered and when the invasive memories come. Sometimes I feel so sick to my stomach when I have to talk to my EX/Perp (he is the father of my children) that I have gotten in my car and drove away right in the middle of his sentence. Either that or puke right on his shoes! That is my experience. I feel you are having a normal reaction to someone else's horrible actions again you. I am sorry you are struggling. Try to be gentle to yourself. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
zacjeslin Posted August 21, 2014 Report Share Posted August 21, 2014 Bluefiremama - thank you for the encouragement; it's much appreciated! Quote Link to post Share on other sites
RosesAndNettles Posted September 30, 2014 Report Share Posted September 30, 2014 -People touching my waist -Cats rubbing against my legs -Crowded rooms -People whispering (in my ear or to others) -Adverts with families/couples -Touching skin with other people -People going to the toilet for too long (don't ask) There's some of mine ? Quote Link to post Share on other sites
rosiej~9 Posted November 5, 2014 Report Share Posted November 5, 2014 White Ford Trucks Men with big bellies Ringing in my ears The buffeting of fans/steady ticking noises Someone tickling my feet Someone grabbing my wrist Someone pinching my butt Loud footsteps Men in bootcut jeans Someone continuing to do something - anything - after I have said "stop." Coors Light The phrase "I don't have a problem with it." A marijuana high Certain Depeche Mode songs Sexist comments, particularly in which a woman is sexualized Someone rubbing my shoulders from behind One Deadmau5 song Incredibly light touches on my legs (if my boyfriend is more intentional with his touches it causes no problems. It is only this feather-light, almost fearful touch.) Many of these things I have worked on, and now only cause a bit of alarm before I can regain composure. About half of these things still cause panic attacks, or uncontrollable anger where I'll fight, yell, and thrash in an attempt to hit someone. I'm not sure where some of these triggers came from - and the ones I'm unsure about are largely the ones that cause the most problems for me still. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
2ndtrombone Posted January 17, 2015 Report Share Posted January 17, 2015 cleaning the bathtub, making sandwiches, cooking pork chops, deciding what to wear to a party, big, shouty men with large hand gestures, my drawer of tea towels, shaving my legs, late night phone calls, and loads of stuff just starting Quote Link to post Share on other sites
GrlOnFire Posted January 24, 2015 Report Share Posted January 24, 2015 I don't know about "weird" ones but I have some standard ones. They're standard to me at least. I don't think I have any from the actual molestation becaise I've repressed most of that. But I remember much of the environment and events around it or afterwards. When Hawaii comes up in conversation, especially Oahu (where it happened) The movie Mommy Dearest (it was on TV and we watched it briefly around the time it happened) When I get a kiss on the back of the head especially unexpectedly and repeatedly (precursor to the molestation) Loft condos or apartments, the kind where the bedroom is up some stairs but has no door or a closed wall so you can look down into the living room below Family pictures that he is in My grandma's house and the front entrance way 6th grade When someone refers to him The notebook I have that I wrote in while in Hawaii Usually when I'm triggered I just try to push the thought away and think of something else. Except when I find old family pictures. Those I delete. They piss me off. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
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