Anybody else have weird triggers?


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bf flirting with other people

being turned down for sex by bf for any reason

feeling cornered during an argument with anyone

anything that seems like a person might not be telling the truth

anyone belittling/downplaying rape or rape victims, especially rape in a relationship

talking about open relationships

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anonymousmale93

I've not been exposed to much since it first happened so the only ones I've noticed is I don't like my doorbell going off, my phone going off or leaving the house while its light out. I kinda want to get out unseen and get on with going to the shop and get back quick.

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Hello anonymousmale93,

I can relate to wanting to get out unseen, I think that you are very brave for sharing here.

:metoyou:

Take gentle care

Lucy x

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  • I hate being touched when I'm not expecting it. Especially from just below my armpits to my hips. I jump out of my skin, practically, even if it's my spouse. And if it's from behind, I practically jump. I've nearly hit people before just out of reflex.
  • Leaving my house if neighbors are outside. Coming home and walking into the house from the car if any neighbors are outside. I feel really vulnerable then.
  • Public restrooms, especially stand-up urinals where I have my back facing the room. A stall-type toilet, especially if someone is in the next stall.
  • Locker rooms at the gym; changing clothes there.
  • Pumping gasoline.
  • Really quiet, introverted men.
  • Being told what to do. Even if the other person is right.

I'm not sure how many of these are weird. But they're mine.

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Mindyay1983

My weird triggers. Don't quite seem as weird anymore, knowing I'm not alone. I have just been reading through everyone's posts & I love the fact that someone started this site. Makes things a little easier.

Anyone touching or grabbing at my neck & shoulders

Men touching my hair

Confrontation of any sort

Giving a man oral sex

People making molestation jokes

Older men

Swallowing medication

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Alligator clips or anything resembling them

Anyone touching the back of my head

anyone touching my hair (less now it is short and I have to go to the hairdresser)

Having my ears touched

Any one whispering in my ear, even includes my little granddaughter weep.gif

Rope

Drunk men

Any one shouting or getting abusive

Confrontation

Steak knives

Catheters

Anyone coming up behind me

All high days and holidays

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People with authority in uniform.

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Ginger men

Being alone with Men

Someone walking behind me when I'm out (even if I'm with friends)

Alcohol (including drunk men)

Ginger in any food or drink

People putting their arm around my shoulders or waist

Holding hands

Sleeping in the same bed of as a man or sometimes men sleeping in my house I don't know very well

Rape jokes

Cuddling men

People whispering

Night clubs

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Discovered a new weird trigger recently, wood paneling. Only light colored wood if it looks or smells a certain way. Not sure why.

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Little kids screaming like they have been hurt

certain music

sunbathing

golden retrievers

Being humiliated on purpose

Being locked in

Smell of my old room

My grandmother

Being held by both wrists

Old men

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This was a great idea :)

My triggers:

Someone hugging me from behind

Being called beautiful

Thought of sex

Seeing a male and female have sex.

Touching my face

Touching my legs

Orgasming

Someone touching my neck.

The sound of guys moaning.

Seeing a penis

Seeing for play

Male heavy breathing

Someone hovering over me.

Caressing my shoulders.

Someone mentioning smoking pot( he smoked pot)

Being naked.

Sleeping on a mattress without a bed sheet.

Sleeping next to someone.

Seeing my friends kiss, the thought of people being lucky.

Scrawny guys without a shirt on.

Someone touching my hair.

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NavaChadash

I just recently joined this group, but this post makes me feel less alone. To the general public nobody understands why I freak out when they touch me even though I know they don't mean any harm.

It's unfortunate but reading that many of you have the same triggers as me helps me feel less alone.

  • any physical contact without permission even innocent
  • anybody coming up behind me
  • significant others trying to touch me or be intimate ie holding hands or hands on waist in public
  • anybody's hands on my shoulders, neck, head, arms, waist
  • seeing other people with their significant other's arms around their neck or around their waist
  • my neck being wet or moist
  • churches
  • dimly lit outdoor corridors
  • laying on my stomach
  • thinking about certain sexual acts or positions
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LeahInCalifornia

Ditto -- just joined this site because I'm getting triggered (32 years later!), for the first time in years, by upcoming gynecological surgery. It's a wonderful resource. Thank you everyone for what you've written.

My triggers:

-anyone trying to control my breathing *including* meditation leaders ("now breathe in; now breathe out"), etc.

-people standing over me

-the thought of being naked and unconscious with a bunch of people with knives standing over me (in other words, surgery!)

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bluefiremama

This is the reason I came here today.

I recently started going through and unpacking boxes, things that I have had for a while are triggering me in several ways. The old stuff is triggering memories and then the memories are triggering dissociation. I am taking a break, think a lovely cup of coffee is in order.

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Coast soap

movies that I saw with ex - especially ones with sex scenes

a certain tone in voice - like I'm in trouble, have done something wrong

being flipped over (from face to face to face to floor)

telling me what I can drink

telling me how to dress or insulting what I have on if I picked it out

smell of sex

pictures of ex

being pinned down so I can't get up

want to puke thinking about these. Probably make no sense to anyone else... struggling with what it all means/what the hell happened to me?

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bluefiremama

Coast soap

movies that I saw with ex - especially ones with sex scenes

a certain tone in voice - like I'm in trouble, have done something wrong

being flipped over (from face to face to face to floor)

telling me what I can drink

telling me how to dress or insulting what I have on if I picked it out

smell of sex

pictures of ex

being pinned down so I can't get up

want to puke thinking about these. Probably make no sense to anyone else... struggling with what it all means/what the hell happened to me?

I often feel nauseated when triggered and when the invasive memories come. Sometimes I feel so sick to my stomach when I have to talk to my EX/Perp (he is the father of my children) that I have gotten in my car and drove away right in the middle of his sentence. Either that or puke right on his shoes! That is my experience. I feel you are having a normal reaction to someone else's horrible actions again you. I am sorry you are struggling. Try to be gentle to yourself.

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Bluefiremama - thank you for the encouragement; it's much appreciated!

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RosesAndNettles

-People touching my waist

-Cats rubbing against my legs

-Crowded rooms

-People whispering (in my ear or to others)

-Adverts with families/couples

-Touching skin with other people

-People going to the toilet for too long (don't ask)

There's some of mine ?

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White Ford Trucks

Men with big bellies

Ringing in my ears

The buffeting of fans/steady ticking noises

Someone tickling my feet

Someone grabbing my wrist

Someone pinching my butt

Loud footsteps

Men in bootcut jeans

Someone continuing to do something - anything - after I have said "stop."

Coors Light

The phrase "I don't have a problem with it."

A marijuana high

Certain Depeche Mode songs

Sexist comments, particularly in which a woman is sexualized

Someone rubbing my shoulders from behind

One Deadmau5 song

Incredibly light touches on my legs (if my boyfriend is more intentional with his touches it causes no problems. It is only this feather-light, almost fearful touch.)

Many of these things I have worked on, and now only cause a bit of alarm before I can regain composure. About half of these things still cause panic attacks, or uncontrollable anger where I'll fight, yell, and thrash in an attempt to hit someone. I'm not sure where some of these triggers came from - and the ones I'm unsure about are largely the ones that cause the most problems for me still.

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cleaning the bathtub, making sandwiches, cooking pork chops, deciding what to wear to a party, big, shouty men with large hand gestures, my drawer of tea towels, shaving my legs, late night phone calls,

and loads of stuff just starting confused1.gif

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I don't know about "weird" ones but I have some standard ones. They're standard to me at least.

I don't think I have any from the actual molestation becaise I've repressed most of that. But I remember much of the environment and events around it or afterwards.

When Hawaii comes up in conversation, especially Oahu (where it happened)

The movie Mommy Dearest (it was on TV and we watched it briefly around the time it happened)

When I get a kiss on the back of the head especially unexpectedly and repeatedly (precursor to the molestation)

Loft condos or apartments, the kind where the bedroom is up some stairs but has no door or a closed wall so you can look down into the living room below

Family pictures that he is in

My grandma's house and the front entrance way

6th grade

When someone refers to him

The notebook I have that I wrote in while in Hawaii

Usually when I'm triggered I just try to push the thought away and think of something else. Except when I find old family pictures. Those I delete. They piss me off.

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