blondie2002 Posted May 5, 2008 Share Posted May 5, 2008 Just being in my apt. http://www.pandys.org/forums/public/style_emoticons/#EMO_DIR#/sad.gif http://www.pandys.org/forums/public/style_emoticons/#EMO_DIR#/weep.gif The sad thing is, I can't afford to move. I just noticed that I "didn't" list all my :trigger:s. Here they are... self adheisve scrap-book stamps. ("The psycho" stuffed those in my mouth so I wouldn't scream.) The phrase " I'm a b****". " B made me call myself that while he ****d me :bawling:I also can't stand the smell of ciggarettes, I'm almost forced to deal with that http://www.pandys.org/forums/public/style_emoticons/#EMO_DIR#/trigger.gif though because almost everyone in my family smokes. Being on my ***** and ***** on my bed. Heck just being on my ***** and ***** period bothers me. Being patted on my behind. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pcmva Posted May 15, 2008 Share Posted May 15, 2008 my triggers are *rooms with no windows *people looking out at windows that are behind me *sitting in chairs whose backs aren't high enough for me to put my head against them *seeing young girls *people touching my neck *paved paths through the woods *pink ties for men *traffic lights *carrot cake *not knowing where my cell phone is *black bras *boiled potatoes Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
VenusInRealLife Posted June 3, 2008 Share Posted June 3, 2008 My triggers (some are from physically abusive relationship): -Corvettes (mainly antiques, or black ones) -Strange men looking at me or getting too close -Being alone in a room with a guy (except my husband) -Getting in a car with a guy (won't do it unless someone I trust is with me) -Dark dead end roads -Hands around my neck or too close to it (even a neck massage sometimes) -My husband being too close to me if we are arguing -Hearing his name -Too many people in a room (although I think this is more my anxiety than anything) -Being around people I don't know that well when they are drinking (I won't let anyone drink in my house unless I have seen how they react to it somewhere else) -Hearing something similar to my experience I'm sure there's more, I just can't think of them all... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
enfysmoon Posted June 3, 2008 Share Posted June 3, 2008 white toyota hilux utes velcro strapped shoes keys n coins jangling in peoples pockets old men (especially the ones that stare on the train) most men in general daughters hugging their dads people coming into my room when im asleep Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tokidoki Posted June 4, 2008 Share Posted June 4, 2008 Wow, I have a lot of weird ones: goth clothes goth music FTM transmen (male) bisexuals polygamy long nails black lipstick black nailpolish dog collars his name people grabbing or moving my hand/wrist people leaning forward to talk to me poet's blouses knifes blood, corpses ace bandages, white tank tops silk boxers overweight people (especially with double chins) blank stares handjobs watching people play videogames/be on the computer Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Zarathustra Posted June 4, 2008 Share Posted June 4, 2008 *Large, fattish men in their thirties *People coming up behind me *Being grabbed-- ugh, my big brother loves to grab me and pick me up and spin me around, and I haven't been able to get him to stop... to make matters worse, he always says "You know you liked it." *Men staring at me. This, unfortunately, happens to me constantly. It feels like I'm never not being looked at. *Any suggestion that I should be more feminine. *The words "But you're just too hot..." Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
changeofheart Posted June 5, 2008 Share Posted June 5, 2008 Being closed in Not being able to leave somewhere Knowing that I'm doing something I'm not supposed to People being taller than me [especially while I'm sitting] Being bumped into, especially in my butt area Seeing people take of their shoes and socks. Big hands Being told not to tell Being told to shut up I gag alot. Especially when I drink any kind of liquid or gum. People laying on top of me Being tickled Some smell, that I don't exactly know what it is. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
no_not_again Posted June 12, 2008 Share Posted June 12, 2008 bunk beds are one of my biggest triggers Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JustaMelody Posted June 13, 2008 Share Posted June 13, 2008 The biggest trigger I have yet to conquer would be when someone puts their hand on my leg unexpectedly. I've already posted in this thread, but most triggers I had in the past aren't really there anymore. I still have the issues with that touching though. If I'm expecting it, then it's alright, but if it just kinda happens, then I jump. It unfortunately happens a lot with my family. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
steff Posted June 15, 2008 Share Posted June 15, 2008 i was thinking so hard about this yesterday. because i know i have triggers... ive just never really known what they are. and i came to the conclusion that its brown. i hate brown. and then i had a flashback and realised why. brown, ESPECIALLY like... wood paneled walls, yanno? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
suzystillindarkness Posted June 15, 2008 Share Posted June 15, 2008 Large crowds of strangers - I always think about how many sexual predators/abusers there are amongst us Young girls - I envy their seeming innocence and wonder how many of them are being abused Photographs of children in public forums, such as a newspaper - I think about how many perverts are cutting out their photos to add to their collections His name His wife Christmas, because that was always a "special" day for me This forum Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest ab333 Posted June 16, 2008 Share Posted June 16, 2008 being cold ... Van Halen CD's and music ... coffee cups ... the color red ... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kittykat Posted June 16, 2008 Share Posted June 16, 2008 here's mine *trigger warning* obviously. Stale sweat, on anyone, can't bear it. I have been accused of being tactless by work collegues for offering them deoderent. People I don't know being behind me. I am ok with close friends/family but still have hyper awareness of their location. Shopping/being anywhere there are lots of people milling about drunk people when they are getting loud and over bearing being drunk myself certain songs of which there are a few being held down. being sat on (unfortunately this also sometimes includes my children. Most of the time it's fine but sometimes I have to sit them next to me not on me) Movies, tv, news. I avoid it all except certain things that I know are fine. anger whether directed at me or not dissapointment being made to feel like I have let someone down my monthly every time getting blood on me whether mine or someone else's. If someone else is hurt I can look after them so long as I don't get it on myself medical appointments police my real name though this is mild in comparison to how it was using peoples names. I find it difficult to say anyones name to them. I can do it but I have to think about it first snow enclosed spaces. lifts etc. anywhere I may be in close quarters with someone with only one exit. overbearing people that will not accept that I have personal space issues pain There are probably more but that's all I can think of for now Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lmv512 Posted June 16, 2008 Share Posted June 16, 2008 My Triggers~ men feeling dirty a certain smell I can't describe vaulted ceilings unclean hands being touched (by anyone) unfinished basements my grandma's house movies or shows with sex scenes small spaces with stangers ex. elevators seeing little girls (around the age 9) more but can't think right now.. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Everybody_Else's_Girl Posted June 20, 2008 Share Posted June 20, 2008 (edited) people chewing gum. i don't know why, i don't know what it represents exactly. the sound of it just makes me want to crawl out of my skin and become spontaneously violent. nothing else causes this reaction in me, just people chewing gum (or making similar mouth noises). eta: actually, i thought of one more. i hate pursuing games (hide and seek, tag, even pacman). ive been made fun of for losing at pacman on purpose, but i just can't handle the anxiety that comes with running away. just catch me already and get it over with! Edited June 20, 2008 by Everybody_Else's_Girl Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dezcar1 Posted July 1, 2008 Share Posted July 1, 2008 Some of mine are. the smell of a candle after it has been blow out, small attic like spaces, a certain kind of breeze, there is actually a lot that I have noticed though out the years. These are the ones that set me off most. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
nadinewales1927 Posted July 1, 2008 Share Posted July 1, 2008 My weird trigger is balloons While i was being raped i spent the whole time watching a balloon that was tied to a fence near by, now whenever i see one i just freak out. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lloergan Posted July 2, 2008 Share Posted July 2, 2008 (edited) someone touching my right shoulder if the person's behind me. not alot anymore but I found these phrases triggering: say thank you (not anymore but awhile ago but since I had kids I tell them to say thanks all the time, over time it lessened now it doesn't bother me), good girl (it just makes me feel triggered if a male says it now). Someone touching my breasts Evening, night time the dark wooden rulers, I can't bear to go near them or touch them. My son had one in the house and I found a way of getting rid of it without him noticing (I feel slightely triggered talking about it) having someone touch my nose, or pinch it bracelets or watches on my wrists, anything metallic on my wrists the same model and colour as his car people touching my back while standing behind me stubble (not beard's just very short stubble, which is always a pain because my son's dad never shaves when he's at mine seeing his son) certain men's deodorants people pushing me (which is a problem because both of my kids push me when I'm telling them off) being on my front, lying flat. since the medical exam by the police I've had problems sleeping on my side, I find it triggering (I don't understand why) cold showers (ok, thats probably too many! So I'll stop now) Edited July 2, 2008 by Darkness Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
changeofheart Posted July 2, 2008 Share Posted July 2, 2008 (edited) Bathtubs Boats Water Being held down Having people squeeze my hands Being in bathroom when I know someone is outside the door Having my hair pulled Things in my mouth (gagging) Having my arms forced above my head Laying on my back Knives The smell of mushrooms Melted icecream Driving with someone else I'm sure there's more... Edited September 14, 2008 by changeofheart Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lucretia Posted July 6, 2008 Share Posted July 6, 2008 Triggers: watching children play softball (happens more than you think) people touching me (only other adults, not kids) any mention of abuse, sex, r*pe, violence the smell of gas furnaces, especially the kind that blow air up from the floor closed off spaces, sometimes basements too much going on at once men with long hair and beards cigarettes, anything associated with them, smell, smoke, breath Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Zarathustra Posted July 6, 2008 Share Posted July 6, 2008 Older men LOOKING at me. In fact, if a man who looks to be between the ages of, dunno, 35 and 60 is in my vicinity, I stare at him fixedly, afraid to take my eyes off him and desperately hoping he won't notice me. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
foreverafter880 Posted July 6, 2008 Share Posted July 6, 2008 i hate the way its made me feel racist. older guys of color, like my best friends dad i think thats the worst one i wish i could get rid off long car rides intamacy motels smell of unwashed skin/sweat longerie being naked taking a shower razor blades, knives Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chapstickofcherry Posted March 18, 2009 Share Posted March 18, 2009 Some of my triggers are-- being touchedcigarettessmokesmell of colognethe f-wordpeople touching my hairloud noises Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MagMill Posted March 19, 2009 Share Posted March 19, 2009 Interesting thread!! Some of mine are: Someone being behind me - even if I know them and know they are there! It's just that feeling!!! Someone coming from behind me and touching my shoulder The name of the area of my city where it happened (even if it's someone innocently referring to the local school) The word R*pe R*pe scenes on TV Other people talking about R*pe Loud sudden noises Someone saying "look at me" There are more -but they are the main ones and the ones which cause me the most distress! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MatthewJ123 Posted March 22, 2009 Share Posted March 22, 2009 being called beautiful or special... omg makes me sick every time... "a special girl" especially Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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