thriver Posted March 14, 2006 Share Posted March 14, 2006 I've worked on so many of my triggers. Maybe I need some more trauma processing, because new triggers just come out of nowhere sometimes. I was at a yoga class recently and we did a move where we had our wrists pressed together--BIG TRIGGER! Had to leave the class and ground myself. Another trigger I would not have guessed, when my little boy innocently plugged my nose goofing around. One that I hate that I still haven't worked on is the feel (or sound) of the satin trim of a blanket. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rylee Posted March 14, 2006 Share Posted March 14, 2006 (edited) The smell of alcohol. R*pe scenes on tv and in movies. Joking about rape. 'Gangsta rap' and any sexually graphic songs. Jokes about women being inferior. I dont know how to discribe this other then 'to much testosterone in the room/air/atmosphere'. My cat cleaning her private parts near me or where I can see her. *shudder* The news. Sometimes Pandy's. Edited May 16, 2006 by Dagny Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Elle_MNOP Posted March 21, 2006 Share Posted March 21, 2006 (edited) - the smell of Head & Shoulders shampoo - wet hair - the smell of BudLight beer - being alone with two men - crocheted blankets - having my facial cheeks pinched - men's pajama pants - being scratched - being physically overpowered - being held down - crying in front of people - singing in front of people - giving oral sex - hearing anyone with the same first name - the 'r' word - starting a new sexual relationship - sleeping on a couch wow who knew there were so many? Edited March 21, 2006 by elle_belle Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sheblynn Posted March 22, 2006 Share Posted March 22, 2006 another one i didnot think about until i saw someone else had said it but usein the word ra*e in the wrong context example " we got rap*d in that game" i beleive thats close to what the other person who had posted said, it drives me nuts makes me feel like being made fun of or something you know Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
desert_willow Posted March 23, 2006 Share Posted March 23, 2006 another one i didnot think about until i saw someone else had said it but usein the word ra*e in the wrong context example " we got rap*d in that game" i beleive thats close to what the other person who had posted said, it drives me nuts makes me feel like being made fun of or something you know That is another one of mine too! I HATE HATE HATE that! It's awful. I've heard it also in the context of referring to something cool as in, "That just totally rapes" when they mean "that's just totally cool." ON WHAT PLANET could rape be equated with COOL?!?! Oh yeah. This one. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Frenchy Posted March 23, 2006 Share Posted March 23, 2006 Weird Triggers?? Hmmmm Well, I guess mine would be plain m&m's and those little dixie cups people hang in their bathrooms. Now to me that is a weird trigger. lol Much love, Frances Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Aylin Posted March 24, 2006 Share Posted March 24, 2006 hey some of my triggers are *Gardens like the public kind with bushes and barkmalch *Stair cases *The sex position doggy style *any wierd noise when I'm alone in my house *anybody who grabs my right arm and guides me somewhere *french language *anyone but me un zipping my jacket *30-40 year old east indian men with short hair and a bit on the large side *anyone with a heavy Punjabi accent (though i'm getting used to it because i work with a lot of people who speak Punjabi oddly enough unless it's really graphic i don't have a problem with rape scenes in movies and on tv, unless the girl is a traveller in a forgien country Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lalababie Posted April 4, 2006 Share Posted April 4, 2006 i dont know if mine are weird -seeing BJ Penn or even hearing him talk...i swear he looks just like him -smelling certain alcohols -jamaican rum -the smell of a cig when u accidentally light the wrong end -short, stocky pacific islander men -certain accents... -guys flirting with me -the movie motorcycle diaries...although i've never seen it and want to see it -the names "victor" "carlotta" or any mention of hurricane rita -my birthday (crappy huh?) -white trucks Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kate Posted April 4, 2006 Share Posted April 4, 2006 Hmm... strange triggers. I have the usual consort that everybody has but some of the weirder ones (or the ones that annoy me the most) are: I get triggered at certain time of day. Almost every day at about 2ish, if I'm not doing something to occupy myself I will get triggered simply because it's 2pm. I know it's related to the time when my abuse would occur but it's still strange! I also get triggered by the brightness of daylight, anything that resembles the kind of light that would be around at 2pm triggers me, and also the way in which light shines through a window. There's a certain way that reminds me of how it was when I was abused and it always triggers me. I am also triggered by little girls. They make me think about how I looked when I was their age and what people did to me. I am triggered by the sounds people make with their mouths when they are chewing food, especially with their mouth open. I am triggered by brushing my teeth and when people are in the room at the same time or are watching me. I have to lock the bathroom door when I do it! I brush twice a day so it's pretty frustrating. Kate Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MayStar Posted April 9, 2006 Share Posted April 9, 2006 Not sure that I have unsually weird triggers, but here are some anyways: -any music by slaughter, aerosmith etc. -pepper -jeans (denim) (although I have forced myself to wear them) -sunglasses (I do not wear them) -kissing on the neck -touching of the neck or chin -beards -the smell of hamburger helper -light houses -bre*sts get hard (nipples) (happens when you get cold usually) -the smell of alcohol on a guys breath -dove soap -downy there are many others but these are the major ones that stand out right now! The sad thing is I have to deal with many of these on a daily basis since I am married and have 2 kids. Melissa Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rosa Posted April 10, 2006 Share Posted April 10, 2006 I did my best to read most but I found my own triggers creeping up on me.. heres some of mine Fat men Old men (over 50) - stupid really my boyfriends 47 Hairy big hands Beards/facial hair - men who look like pavarotti Pavarotti penises but only when soft testicles my face being wet people kissing the sides or back of my neck i freak and just want to run being held/tied down brushing my teeth - i did this right after an oral r*pe being licked/slobbery kisses being called 'slut' Being in the car with my boyfriend Little girls - my r*pist had me watch child p*rn the smell of semen/sweat my breasts being touched my anus being touched oral s*x having anything put in my mouth women called Julia men called Lez or Brian or Barry or Martin or David of John-Joe any talk of puberty in boys - i dont recall what happened but it was SOMETHING involving a boy this age talk of me having a son - because of the above trigger any r*pe scenes in movies, any movies where theres an older man and a younger girl alone i worry what he will do Anyone waying the word r*pe, abuse, child abuse etc. bloomin heck I have a lot Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rosa Posted April 10, 2006 Share Posted April 10, 2006 I walked into the living room and put on the TV, the new Nike commercial (in the uk) I got triggered, I also just remember trucks, truck drivers especially EST big purple trucks as I was r*ped in one of them. I think the list is endless iv never realised there were so many before, and upon thinking about it Newcastle's Theatre Royal as I was r*ped in the truck behind here. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dew_drops Posted April 23, 2006 Share Posted April 23, 2006 My triggers are: -Hard Rock T-shirts -Folder Clips -Super 8 Motels -Kmart -Any movie regarding a hero that kills the man who attacked the woman he loves Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
slgctrs Posted April 24, 2006 Share Posted April 24, 2006 Thought of some but I'm not sure how weird they are: That one certain word (Bitch) Someone touching my neck Touching or tickling my feet Being held down Being scared (like somone jumping out at you and saying BOO) Men who are drunk or even drinking at all unless I am really really comfortable with them Oral sex or having anything in my mouth (like French kissing- sometimes) When my phone rings at home and especially when people don't leave a message Saying I love you to somone Being woken up by somone Not knowing exactly where my clothes/jacket or shoes are (so I can escape if I have to) Any mention at all of anal sex Kissing someone who smokes Cant think of any more at the moment Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
twylightmyst Posted April 26, 2006 Share Posted April 26, 2006 I'm still finding out I have more then I thought. *light passing under doors *the sound of footsteps on hard flooring *not being able to get out(of a corner) *oral sex * being told you like that *being told all I'm good for is ... *anal SEX * men's rough voices * speaking about it *someone else in the bathroom with me *Wearing dresses/skirts *certain men(even the mention of their names) *my ex-husband(for him to even be in the same house) *someone breathing in my face,on my neck, downthere *slang terms for down there male / female *the sound of slaps or fists on flesh *people yelling/screaming I think there's more but thats all I can handle for now Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MayStar Posted May 15, 2006 Share Posted May 15, 2006 Here are some more that I have felt more comfortable to share: -AIRPLANES -BASEBALL GAMES/BATS/BALLS -TOILET PAPER HOLDERS (I DO NOT USE THEM) -VIDEO CAMERAS (REGULAR CAMERAS ARE OK) -NATURAL LIGHT BEER -HEAVY METAL MUSIC -ANY MOVIE WITH ANY OF THE ABOVE IN THEM -DENIM -KISS, THE BAND -HAMMER, NAILS, SCREWDRIVERS (BUT OF COURSE I HAVE TO USE THEM SOMETIMES) -BATH ROBE (NOPE I DO NOT OWN ONE) -BATH MATTS THAT GO IN THE SHOWER -FLANNEL -WINDOW AIR CONDITIONING UNITS (I KNOW THIS IS STRANGE) -VIBRATORS OR ANY OTHER SEX TOY -HOTEL BED LINENS -FRUIT BASKETS -SPIDERS Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
scarlettbegonia Posted May 15, 2006 Share Posted May 15, 2006 (edited) old spice cologne being touched in my sleep the dark the quiet white conversion vans any mention of the fire department or navy the word kitty people in my space, too close public restrooms or changing rooms...I feel vulnerable and like I am being watched, which is something he would do Edited May 24, 2006 by scarlettbegonia Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
samealdo Posted June 23, 2006 Share Posted June 23, 2006 My pants that I wore that night French Kissing When I'm driving through that town or near the house Any Sublime song (Which I find upsetting because they are (were?) my favorite band The song Crazy Bitch by Buckcherry Seeing people "grind" on each other anyone joking about being "butt fucked" The weirdest one though is a pirate flag That is all I know of right now Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sheblynn Posted June 28, 2006 Share Posted June 28, 2006 (edited) ohhhhh another 2 i have is aerosmiths song "dream on" and eminems song "sing for the moment" don't get me started on those two i actually have made myself listen to both of those songs on numerous occaions can't watch the video sing for the moment another song is thank you by dido only the first part triggers me cause she sings the same versus in a song called stan but that song doesnot trigger me Edited July 8, 2006 by sheblynn Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BeakerS Posted August 14, 2006 Share Posted August 14, 2006 When someone says or tells me to "Relax". Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest zasspa Posted August 14, 2006 Share Posted August 14, 2006 (edited) Bare feet Chest hair Anything to do with Geelong footy team Authority figures of any description Anything that insinuates that I am a woman - ie. dressing up, makeup, physical features People calling me a woman Parents kissing their children (even very young ones) on the lips Mini skirts - especially when the person also has barefeet/open shoes People walking in when Im sleeping Snoring People seeing me sleep People saying to me 'hey stranger' Dancing Edited August 14, 2006 by zasspa Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
alli Posted August 14, 2006 Share Posted August 14, 2006 (edited) -R*pe scenes in film/tv/books; and any scenes where the woman is being overpowered physically or verbally -My husband drunk and trying to have s*x; Drunk men in general -Darkness -Polygamy, or open marriages (saw this on another list and realized it also is a trigger for me for some reason) -Any degrading discussion about women (jokes, stories etc…) -S*x; penetration -Tickling -Being surprised while sleeping, someone in room, etc… (husband was away for 2 weeks, & on the first night back I woke up in terror as I realized someone was in bed with me) -Seeing their photos, hearing their names -being blamed for something, thinking I’ve let someone down or offended -not being perfect -spring break -my biannual cervical biopsies (most recent one this July had a male ‘observer’ – a med student who made it much worse) -“it’s almost over” -idea of s*x during menstruation -men who smell of alcohol -Men staring at my chest or other features; men hitting on me Edited August 14, 2006 by alli Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Karly Posted August 15, 2006 Share Posted August 15, 2006 (edited) So far I've had a few triggers.... --Total darkness along with extreme heat...the room I was in when it happened was dark and unbearably hot --S*x with my bf If he is in control...if I'm in control I'm fine --ANY one touching me except my bf..makes my skin crawl --Being alone driving in my truck...or anywhere for that matter...I am too scared to even go to the grocery store by myself...yet I'm ok with my kids with me --Driving @night --Driving into the town it happened in..just 15 miles away..ugh --Going out to bars...it happened above a bar and I was drunk --Someone coming up behind me and touching me...almost decked a guy the other night and he's a friend --Drinking even one beer...I have given up drinking now..knowing it hinders my responses and knowing whats going on around me --Talking at all to the *friends* I was with that night...I despise them right now --Being touched while I am sleeping...my bf learned quick to say my name first..he was out of town for a week and my assault happened night 2 of him being gone --Talking to the detective in charge of my case...he triggered me badly yesterday and I'm still fighting to get back my composure Edited August 15, 2006 by Karly Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
phoenixrising06 Posted August 16, 2006 Share Posted August 16, 2006 Like so many said: being touched in my sleep. I was attacked after dozing/blacking out while drunk. I woke up to him on top of me. I sleep very sound and have been known to swing if awakened the wrong way. I tell family/friends to say my name while standing AWAY from the bed vs. just touching or shaking me. Anyone touching/grabbing my wrists Sneaking up on me People who are too familiar after just meeting me, especially men Bars w/too many people (so you are bumped when walking) and drunk aggressive men Being told "it was good" or that "I was good" in ref. to sexual activity GYN appointments Sometimes lying on my back looking up at the ceiling if I have to stay that way for a bit Certain cologne smells Complete darkness (can't see if anyone is sneaking up on me) Feeling judged, even if over small stuff. Also feeling disrespected...I go from 0 to 100 in a second. Public restrooms Being told "I love you" by a man Wow...too many. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
burninginside Posted August 18, 2006 Share Posted August 18, 2006 doing crunches (luckily that has only happened on a couple occassions). Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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