Posted 14 November 2003 - 01:02 PM
I do so much more than i ever have before, and it IS starting to rub off in RL, i find myself beginning to voice my opinions and trust MY voice
I think this is the ultimate goal of this group. Finding support here is so important. So many of us have been frightened to use our voices in life, that this message board is a safe haven. It's really my hope that some of the skills and abilities we use here, like expressing ourselves and our needs, will be carried over to real life.
I feel, I have a zip on my mouth re, my own issues, so not been able to voice anything about me at all, although I am struggling really hard, but feel, so useless, when I try to answer a post, I know what I want to say, but feel scared to post, incase I upset anyone or anger them with whatever I want to say, so then I delete it, or erase it. And just send safe gentle hugs,
To let the person know, I am thinking of them.
Your words more than make sense. I suspect that many people agree with you. It's so frightening to put ourselves out there because we might experience disapproval, which will further teach us that our voices are not worthy or wanted. I think a lot of people feel it is better to stay silent.
However, it's important to recognize that all of the members of this board and it's moderators are fallible, imperfect humans. We can't expect perfection from ourselves and we can't expect it from others.
It's terribly difficult to accept that we are all good enough, isn't it?