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#76 Nikee

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Posted 07 March 2008 - 06:45 PM

If you were my sister or brother, I would tell you that you have nothing to be ashamed of, that I will always love you no matter what, and I'm sorry I couldn't do more for you.

#77 Hales

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Posted 11 March 2008 - 10:19 AM

If you were my sister or brother I would say that it was not your fault and you have nothing to feel ashamed of. You are a strong person and you will make it through. That I have beliefe in you and that I'm always here for you.

#78 coldwarrior

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Posted 14 March 2008 - 03:00 PM

I would tell you

That you can be what you want to be, not what some want you to believe you are.
That you are wonderful, both inside & outside.
That I am so glad you are alive.

#79 Maren

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Posted 14 April 2008 - 05:16 AM

If you were my sister I would tell you

"you make my world a better place"

#80 blondie2002

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Posted 05 May 2008 - 07:39 PM

If you were my sister or brother, I'd say: Keep your head held high and don't let nothing get you down.

#81 Sound

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Posted 25 August 2008 - 04:45 PM

This thread is absolutly beautiful :love:

If you were my sister or brother I would let you know you were not alone, none of this was your fault, and remind you of just how wonderful and beautiful you really are.

and ofcourse offer many :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug:


#82 protectingmychildren

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Posted 26 August 2008 - 04:45 PM

If I were your sister or brother, I would tell you:

I believe you. I love you, and I will be there for you. I will listen to you and stand by your side through this whole journey. And I believe in you. You can do this. It's going to be hard, but I will help you in any way I can. Yes, it hurts. It hurts terribly. Cry on my shoulder. Together we can walk this rocky path.

#83 janiedeland

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Posted 02 January 2009 - 04:07 PM

If you were my sister this is what I would say:

You are not alone on your journey of healing, take back the power that belongs to you not the perpetrator, because he/she is the guilty one, not you. Know you are a beautiful individual created by GOD, to be blessed with many things. Take things a minute at a time if necessary, but take them, don't ignore them. I would tell you you are more my sister than my blood sisters because you know where I have been and how difficult it is some days to cope. WE ARE SURVIVORS. :yay:

#84 nolongerhelpless

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Posted 16 October 2009 - 01:33 PM

if you were my sister or brother i would tell you how happy i was to say that i was related to you. that every time i thought of you, i would smile bc im just so proud of you for what you are. no matter what happened in the past, no matter what will happen, i love you. you are an angel in my eyes. and just knowing that an amazing person like you is on this world, gives me a another reason to live.

#85 IllAlwaysBeHere

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Posted 28 October 2009 - 10:54 PM

If you were my sister (which you are!) i would listen. i would let you scream, cry, talk.. i would give you your space. i would tell you that i love you, and that i will always be here for you.. no matter what.. no matter when.. forever. I would tell you you're beautiful. and that you're amazing. i would tell you that you are stronger than you think.. i would tell you how proud i am to be related to you. i would do everything i could to help you make it through and i would hold your hand every step of the way. I'd remind you how much i care about you and how my life is so much more meaningful because you are in it. i would tell you that you are not less of a person because someone hurt you, and its not your fault. i would tell you not to listen to what everyone else thinks and do what is best for you, because you are what matters most. i would do whatever it takes to make sure you stay strong, and never give up.

#86 Tim1962

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Posted 06 December 2009 - 03:44 PM

Brother or sister, I would:

* Say that I'm so very sorry, that I love you, and that I will be here to support you no matter what

* Say that I'm here to listen to every last detail (if you want to share), because sometimes it's one or two things that we just can't bring ourselves to say, and these are the things that are most damaging (like, that it happened more than once)

* Say that I'm sorry I was not there to stand up with you, and if there is anything I could have/should have done I'm here for you to say that. And that we'll get through this together -- it's what true brothers are for

Edited by Tim1962, 06 December 2009 - 04:28 PM.

#87 Debs

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Posted 08 December 2009 - 01:15 AM

If you were my brother or sister i would:

Take you by the hand,and walk the rocky path with you,reassuring you,none of it was your fault.I would tell you how proud i am of you,and how grateful i am to have you as my sibling.
I would also tell you,that no matter what i would always be with you,even in thought ,if at times we were seperated. Also that you deserve a life free of the pain and hurt that you feel right now,and offer you my unconditional love.At the end of the :rainbow: you will see all the things beautiful in this world,but most importantly,see how beautiful YOU ARE.

Love to you all.xx :hug: :hug: :hug:

Edited by Debs, 08 December 2009 - 01:16 AM.

#88 nika

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Posted 11 December 2009 - 08:47 PM

i like this thread

if you were my sister i'd tell you it's ok to cry with me

#89 Knowthyself101

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Posted 13 February 2010 - 06:49 PM

What a beautiful idea.

I wrote this last night. Its my first post. It was very difficult, but a wonderful release.


Dear Soul,

I would just hug you and let you experience the full magnitude of hurt, pain, dismay, anger, suffering. I would hug you, and love you, and kiss you on the forehead. I would let your body rack with sobs, and not tell you to “shhhh”, or to hold anything in. I would say that this was not your fault. I don’t even know if there Is much that I would want to say, other than I love you, and you are dear and precious to me. That I will be there for you in anyway that I think I can be. That everything you are feeling, little soul, is ok. And normal. Even the absence of any feeling whatsoever. The numbness after what happened.

I would say, little soul, please be kind and gentle with yourself. Please don’t expect that you need to push your feelings away, or hide them to protect others. People love you, and will support you. The right people will do that. Sometimes without realizing, sometimes directly.

Little soul, what a journey you have come on ever since what happened. What a soul-wrenching, painful, truth- seeking, hopeful journey of self discovery. From the girl you were before he raped you. Before he stole your trust, invited himself into your home and stole your precious freedom and love in yourself. To the mess and confusion you were afterwards. Little soul, it was ok to be lost. It was ok to not want to let one small horrible event define your life. It was ok to push it aside, and to try to deal with things the best way you knew how.

It was ok to need somebody to look after your fall. It was ok to feel lost, to do those stupid things to people you cared the most about. To hurt people when you didn’t even realize you were doing it. Because you didn’t know who you were or what you were doing afterwards. It was ok to desperately want your sexual freedom back, and to go about it in completely the wrong way.

It was ok to completely fall to pieces after a while.

Little soul, it is ok to be slowly emerging from the fog, and deciding and declaring who you want to be next. It is normal to look back fondly to the carefree life you had before it happened. How you lived a life of no regrets, and you grabbed life and opportunity by the balls. Its ok and understandable to see this new deeper understanding as a burden, but one nonetheless which is very worth its weight in gold. Why? For the amazing depth and empathy it has brought, the compassion and stillness it has taught you.

If you were my brother or sister little soul, I would tell you that its ok to be lost, that we are all going to be ok in the end. Sometimes life is heavy, sometimes our pain leads us to our greatest gifts if we are only able to give it time. Sometimes the worst things that happen to us can be our greatest teacher, even though it wouldn’t be a path we would intentionally choose for our self.

Its ok little soul, to be still for a while. To wait in silence, and to see what the next chapter in life will bring. Its ok to ask for more, to seek happiness, to deserve it despite the lingering doubts you still harvest. One day, you will actually say that last sentence with conviction. You will once again be able to stand tall and proud, and look people truthfully in the eye.

Until then little soul, keep still. If you were my brother or sister I would hold you close, and just be there to sit beside you. No words.

Edited by Knowthyself101, 13 February 2010 - 06:51 PM.

#90 gizmo2

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Posted 21 February 2010 - 03:23 PM

if you were my sister i would tell you, you are amazing, i am so sorry any of this has happened to you sweetie, you deserve the best and nothing eles.i wish i could take it all away, but i cant but i am here for you always.(((((((((()))))))))))

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