Some of us think this way on our own.
Yeah, I was handicapped in my healing for a long time because I believed I should
"get over it" and tried to force myself to do so. But "get over it" is another way of saying "just drop it" or "don't deal with it", and not dealing with it is not going to lead to healing.
These people need to get over the fact that I'm not over it!!!!!!!!!!
I think they need to "get over" themselves
As long as people continue to want to sweep it under the rug, there will be people who will treat others with such disregard and cruelty.
Every time someone minimizes one of us, they minimize all of us. Every time someone is deliberately cruel to one of us, the world is less of a safe place for all of us. But in the same vein, every time someone is caring and supportive to one of us, the world gets a little better for all of us. The more we can feel safe in sharing who we are and how we feel, the more loving the world will become.
Exactly. The whole "get over it" thing ends up empowering the abusers.
It's a very short-sighted and selfish approach - truly, it's usually a self-protective
approach, used by people who are trying to avoid recognizing other people's pain for whatever reason; because they want to believe they could "get over it" in our place, because they don't want to recognize the pain they may have caused by acting like our abusers; because they don't want to recognize how dangerous the world they live in can be; whatever. I tend to just avoid those with the "get over it" mentality instead of challenging it, though, which can be a type of cowardice in itself.
Sometimes people who use "get over it" respond pretty well if you challenge them - those are usually the ones who use that response "on automatic", because it's the common cultural attitude, rather than people who are deliberately trying to dodge pain or responsibility with it.