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What are your healing ACCOMPLISHMENTS? give me at least one - you can do ir
Posted 24 January 2003 - 05:42 PM
PS. I'm also shame<i>lessly</i> boosting this because it's an awesome thread that I just now looked into. (((((shell))))) you rock. :)
(Edited by cera at 6:48 pm on Jan. 24, 2003)
(Edited by cera at 6:50 pm on Jan. 24, 2003)
Posted 16 September 2002 - 06:45 PM
I broke the silence with a friend I'd met at a retreat who happened to have gone through similar things. That's when the healing started.
I can look at myself as an overcomer and not as a victim.
I'm beginning to be able to go places alone w/o the fear of being attacked by the first male I see.
I'm beginning to work with others who've experienced *sa*
I opened up through my poetry on here.
Wow...so much more I could say, so little time....
Posted 23 September 2002 - 07:46 AM
there are A LOT of you that I would expect to be posting here and you haven't yet. Come on! You all have come here to Pandys so that is an accomplishment. It doesn't matter how small it is.
Come on. Accomplishments may be things that you think have no meaning - you can do it!
Shell ( who has probably accomplished annoying the heck out of everyone)
Posted 11 October 2002 - 11:57 AM
Hey Jenster, are you saying I am a pain????
Yes, I am.
I have another accomplishment.
I posted about my abusive ex in Share Your Story.
Come on people!
You have all had accomplishments!
Shelly the pain
Posted 05 November 2002 - 10:52 PM
Nice thread, thanks! :)
*I made my first close male friend since my ab*se. I trusted him. He didn't live up to that trust all the time. I lived.
*I've said that I don't want to discuss things to keep myself safe.
*I've started using the word "abuse" to describe what happened to me without stumbling over it.
To all my my Pandy's sisters and brothers, you rock! Every list I read here touched me...
(((((hugs to all who want them)))))
Posted 08 January 2003 - 10:56 AM
I posted the other day in the "Surving Together" forum and I was really, really proud of myself. More or less lately I feel as though I am at a sort of crossroads in my healing. I am gently letting go of the "Lisa" I was before the r*pe, I am unmasking the "me" I created after the r*pe in order to survive and I am embracing the me that I am becoming. I have so much more that I want to say about this but am saving it for a more long-winded post! :) Anyway, so I am really proud of myself for seeing these things in myself and accepting them. Thanks for allowing me to share. This really is a powerfully "boostable" thread!
Posted 25 May 2003 - 09:47 PM
1. I posted my picture in 'My Voice' which is something I never thought I'd be able to do.
2. I've reached out to some people lately, and feel good about it. An on-line friend of mine (who I just KNEW had been sexually abused, even though she didn't realize it yet) talked to me and a few others the other night about how her father sexually abused her as a teen. Her telling was partially a result of me sharing my story.
3. I went back to the places where the rapes/abuse took place.
4. I pitched my book idea and outed myself entirely in the process.
5. I confided more stuff to Chris, whether he appreciated it or not at the time. He obviously didn't, from the lack of response, but that doesn't make it any less courageous, so to #### with him. It's an accomplishment either way.
6. I called the oral rape what it was.
7. I recovered some new memories, and have been working on making sense of them.
8. I called those new memories what they are - abuse.
OK, I guess that's all for now.
Posted 12 July 2003 - 04:55 PM
1) I have begun to be able to see that I was not to blame -- at all and to begin to love myself again.
2) I have begun to be able to stop hating the rapists and the evil system that lets them-- and others-- get by with what they have done.
3) I am beginning to re-realize that when people behave towards someone else, as they have me, they are the ones they truly injure.
4) I am beginning to build a relationship with myself that is truly awesome.
5) I am beginning to give myself permission to heal.
6) I am beginning to realize I deserve to heal.
7) I can now say, "I was raped," without feeling shame for it (most of the time).
8) I now understand what PTSD is and how it affects me, and how to counteract it, at times.
9) I am beginning to see that I have come a long way on the journey of healing, even though I still have a long way to go.
10) I am beginning to realize that rape is a weapon used by some men against women, and not take it personally anymore.
11) I am beginning to see myself truly as the worthwhile person I really am.
12) I am beginning to work on my own healing, by posting here, by helping and encouragement to others here, as well as receiving help and encouragement from them.
13)I am beginning to work on my own healing by becoming more active in feminist groups, in order to try to improve the situation for women, in general.
14)I am beginning to work on my own healing by making it a priority in my life.
15) I am beginning to work on my own healing through writing, not just a journal but a book to help the cause of women,as well as short stories about rape, as it really is.