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What are your healing ACCOMPLISHMENTS? give me at least one - you can do ir
#107
Posted 11 October 2002 - 03:59 PM
Hi (((Shell))) - you a pain? Never in million years!! Just persistent!
I just read your post in Share Your Story - big hugs.
Jen
#108 Guest_kaycee_*
Posted 05 November 2002 - 07:32 PM
((((((hugs Shelly, and allO|))))
My accomplishments:
- started therapy
- learned about CSA
- treatment for depression
- found Pandy's
- made some new friends
- told story to T, brother, folks here, and recently two
my closest friends
- continued therapy
- starting to believe CSA happened
- closer relationship with my daughter
#109 Guest__*
Posted 22 November 2002 - 10:29 AM
Yay for more posts!
And, hilary, those things you wrote ARE accomplishments!!
Accomplishments don't have to be huge - an accomplishment can be getting out of bed on a tough day. You just made it through an anni too - another accomplishment.
I see so much being done by everyone. I applaud you all! You all inspire me.
Now, come on everyone. Join in the fun. The best part about this thread is coming back and reminding yourself what you have done when you really need a boost.
Love you all,
Shell
#110
Posted 03 April 2003 - 12:16 AM
my therepist said i was displacing my anger and putting it on other people and on other places, and in the past few days ive been able to say i am mad at him beyond believe
this is for me
FUCK YOU TRAVIS!
Mary
#111
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Posted 28 May 2003 - 05:04 AM
And for my biggest accomplishment as of late - I realized it wasn't my fault. It's a good feeling. :)
#112 Guest__*
Posted 12 July 2003 - 04:56 PM
Not many accomplishment... but there are a few that I can think of:
- I started "T" two weeks ago.
- I'm thinking about joining a support group.
- I'm going to tell my boyfriend's mother sometime this
week.
- I can't really say the "r" word yet, but I can type it.
I know that's not many compared to all of you that have responded... but I'm working on it.
-Stefanie
#113 Guest__*
Posted 28 October 2003 - 12:48 AM
I am learning that I am not insane. I am a sane person responding the way anyone would to having been abused in the way I was.
I am learning that I deserve help and love and people want to give it to me.
I am learning it is okay wherever I am right now. My life is a victory!
I am learned how to "make love" as opposed to "be sc****ed". I am learning and experiencing how wonderful taht is.
I am learning to parent myself instead of hating or resenting my parents for what they don't provide. I am learning to get what I need.
I am starting to love myself not for the accomplishments I did but just because I am a person worthy of love.
I am accepting taht teh images I have seen for 15 years when having panic attacks are memories and I am not psychotic.
I am learning how to take care of myself. 0:)/>
I am learning that I deserve help and love and people want to give it to me.
I am learning it is okay wherever I am right now. My life is a victory!
I am learned how to "make love" as opposed to "be sc****ed". I am learning and experiencing how wonderful taht is.
I am learning to parent myself instead of hating or resenting my parents for what they don't provide. I am learning to get what I need.
I am starting to love myself not for the accomplishments I did but just because I am a person worthy of love.
I am accepting taht teh images I have seen for 15 years when having panic attacks are memories and I am not psychotic.
I am learning how to take care of myself. 0:)/>
#114
Posted 03 November 2003 - 11:03 AM
(((((((((((((Hugs to all)))))))))))))))
Been a while since I came in on this thread - it's great to see all the steps people are taking, me included!!
I've learnt to trust a man and let him into my life. I didn't think that was possible.
Jen
Been a while since I came in on this thread - it's great to see all the steps people are taking, me included!!
I've learnt to trust a man and let him into my life. I didn't think that was possible.
Jen
#115 Guest__*
Posted 14 November 2003 - 04:31 PM
My healing accomplishemts have been
1. I finally let go of my secrets and told my story to my T.. well most of it anyway I still have more which i will be doing in my next session on Sunday
2. I finally told my husband I was sexually abused as a child (He knew I was raped)
3. I am opening up to my friends and askign for support from them
4. I am learning to let go of the shame and the blame
5. I am slowly learning neither incident was my fault
6. I am letting go of the anger and letting myself feel the pain and hurt i never let myself feel before
1. I finally let go of my secrets and told my story to my T.. well most of it anyway I still have more which i will be doing in my next session on Sunday
2. I finally told my husband I was sexually abused as a child (He knew I was raped)
3. I am opening up to my friends and askign for support from them
4. I am learning to let go of the shame and the blame
5. I am slowly learning neither incident was my fault
6. I am letting go of the anger and letting myself feel the pain and hurt i never let myself feel before
#116
Posted 27 November 2003 - 10:55 PM
My healing accomplishment is
I am in Therapy and have shared my story with him.
I separated from my abusive husband
I have reached out to people and been able to share some of my story with them.
Amy
I am in Therapy and have shared my story with him.
I separated from my abusive husband
I have reached out to people and been able to share some of my story with them.
Amy
#117
Posted 20 May 2004 - 06:59 PM
k, Shell has talked me into posting here. Probably b/c she didn't want to boost it again :;)/>:
So, here comes my list of not achieving:
I am trying to be nice and let go of my sarcastic and bitchy parts. Let my guards down that have taken so long to be built up. No longer be evil.
I am trying to no longer minimize what has happened to me. I have tried to say it out loud, but it hasn't worked yet. Oh well.
I have put my picture on my profile page. You can only see half of my face but I am getting there.
I am trying to post again. I am having trouble using my voice, especially concerning anything healing-related.
I am trying to help others. I am currently working on the financing of a project that we are planning, a friend and i are going to Bangladesh and do some social work there (as much as they let us as women anyway).
I have kissed someone and actually liked it without feeling guilty for anything (except that he is going out with a girl from my grade, but that is a different topic).
I am trying to (re-)discover my sexuality.
I am proud of what i have achieved and try to let go of everything i have failed at.
I am trying to put the shame where it belongs.
I have pulled myself out of a huge depression.
I have been eating ok.
I have given up when I thought that was the only way, but come back when I realized that was what I needed (though i still feel silly for that)
I have been honest with myself and others (at least to a certain extent)
Well, I guess that is it for now, I do realize that there is an I am trying in front of every sentence, but I am still working on that.
Thank you, Shell, for this thread and for showing me the way. And of course for the "preaching". You really are great.
Savannah
So, here comes my list of not achieving:
I am trying to be nice and let go of my sarcastic and bitchy parts. Let my guards down that have taken so long to be built up. No longer be evil.
I am trying to no longer minimize what has happened to me. I have tried to say it out loud, but it hasn't worked yet. Oh well.
I have put my picture on my profile page. You can only see half of my face but I am getting there.
I am trying to post again. I am having trouble using my voice, especially concerning anything healing-related.
I am trying to help others. I am currently working on the financing of a project that we are planning, a friend and i are going to Bangladesh and do some social work there (as much as they let us as women anyway).
I have kissed someone and actually liked it without feeling guilty for anything (except that he is going out with a girl from my grade, but that is a different topic).
I am trying to (re-)discover my sexuality.
I am proud of what i have achieved and try to let go of everything i have failed at.
I am trying to put the shame where it belongs.
I have pulled myself out of a huge depression.
I have been eating ok.
I have given up when I thought that was the only way, but come back when I realized that was what I needed (though i still feel silly for that)
I have been honest with myself and others (at least to a certain extent)
Well, I guess that is it for now, I do realize that there is an I am trying in front of every sentence, but I am still working on that.
Thank you, Shell, for this thread and for showing me the way. And of course for the "preaching". You really are great.
Savannah
#118
Posted 21 May 2004 - 09:31 AM
(((Savannah)))
I have a HUGE smile on my face. I am so proud of you!
Shell
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I have a HUGE smile on my face. I am so proud of you!
Shell
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#119
Posted 02 June 2004 - 04:28 AM
I dont know why i have finally decided to do this, but here are my healing accomplishments well atleast the ones i can thing of!
fully recovered from my ED
Worked through alot of my memories
fully believe it was not my fault
realise i am not worthless
forgiven my family and abusers
forgiven myself
allowed myself to feel my feelings then move past them
rediscovered the beauty in humanity and the world
learnt to trust again
feel truly grateful for my life and experiences
Know now that i have never let them win
am proud of myself and my achievements
and maybe the last one i can think of
i love and am content with myself :)/>
fully recovered from my ED
Worked through alot of my memories
fully believe it was not my fault
realise i am not worthless
forgiven my family and abusers
forgiven myself
allowed myself to feel my feelings then move past them
rediscovered the beauty in humanity and the world
learnt to trust again
feel truly grateful for my life and experiences
Know now that i have never let them win
am proud of myself and my achievements
and maybe the last one i can think of
i love and am content with myself :)/>
#120
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Posted 27 June 2004 - 12:09 AM
I survived.
I got myself into treatment.
I became an active participant in therapy.
I've started talking some about the abuse.
I've started to learn how it was not my fault.
I'm not giving up.
I got myself into treatment.
I became an active participant in therapy.
I've started talking some about the abuse.
I've started to learn how it was not my fault.
I'm not giving up.
