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Top 10 Stupidest Comments
Posted 23 September 2011 - 04:03 PM
"You know, you don't live in a third world country, you don't know what it's really like to struggle"
"You're young, young people are stupid, they don't know anything, you're no exception"
not the worst, but not great either.
Posted 25 September 2011 - 12:35 AM
.or from my dad "I'm not the guy who raped you"even tho he was he was just too drunk to remember ..or my friend "you need to be in 3b" it's the psych Ward here. From my brother "all guys like to do with u is f*** n ditch. All ur worth" ...from my friend "ur so depressed it's annoying. Suicide. Do it."...from my brother "no one likes you. Especially not me." And "tramp"...last but not least from my mom "couldn't u just push him off u?" All these hurt me so much ...ty for letting me get them out of my head!
Posted 28 September 2011 - 12:10 AM
Posted 02 October 2011 - 06:51 AM
Out of the mouth of my mother after finding out I confided in someone I had been abused by my dad as a young child..... "You'd better not come around anymore. It's my job to protect your father from YOU."
Posted 01 November 2011 - 11:24 AM
"can't you just get over it?"
"you were only raped by one guy, it's not that bad"
"just get over it, stop letting it effect you."
These were all from my "friends"
But it feels good to get them out :)/>
Posted 13 November 2011 - 05:58 PM
Posted 13 December 2011 - 02:20 PM
You know my opinion of him, why were you even hanging out with him? (screaming in my head: BECAUSE HE WAS MY FRIEND! AND I DIDN'T PLAN FOR HIM TO GO OUT AND ATTACK ME!)
Why didn't you push him off? (BECAUSE I'VE BEEN WEAK FROM MY BLEEDING CONDITION AND I HAD BEEN DRINKING, AGAIN, I DIDN'T EXACTLY PLAN IT!)
Where was P****? *my partner* (AT HOME, BECAUSE WE'RE NOT JOINED AT THE HIP)...maybe if he went with you, it wouldn't have happened.
You know we need to talk about the family situation a little more than we need to talk about this. At least ring on Christmas Eve because the whole family will be there, and say sorry to everyone, you've hurt a lot of people. Your grandparents are wondering if they'll die before you ever get in touch. (MY RAPIST COULD HAVE KILLED ME Y'KNOW. SO ME DOING SOME CLEANING IN YOUR HOUSE AND ALSO BEING SUICIDAL IN THE PAST IS MORE IMPORTANT THAN BEING RAPED ON FRIDAY?)
Got a good one from my father-in-law on the way back from the video statement, and these include my answers that I said out loud.
P''l *brother in law* isn't happy that you've put it on facebook. (It's my body and my choice to talk about it, I shouldn't be made to feel ashamed for something I didn't do.) Also a lot of evidence from witnesses has come via my facebook inboxes...almost 60 pages of evidence.
Posted 14 December 2011 - 09:52 PM
Posted 19 December 2011 - 09:41 AM
Mum: As your mother, I think I have a right to know exactly what happened to you.
Me: All right: oral sex, mutual masturbation, and genital contact.
Mum: At least there wasn't any penetration. And are you sure you know what those terms mean? I'm not sure you know what you're talking about, and the "abuse" couldn't have been that bad.