[lifeontheground]

My fathers response to my anorexia, depression and cutting:

"You know, you don't live in a third world country, you don't know what it's really like to struggle"

"You're young, young people are stupid, they don't know anything, you're no exception"


not the worst, but not great either.

[jdam]

"Put it out of your mind and think of something else."

"I'm sure he's sorry, clearly he's not the same person he was and I am certain he wishes he could erase it."

...seriously?!

[JasHurts]

"All she does is whine or pity herself"...and when I tried to commit S "when you're done having a pity party then you can talk to me".....when I told a guy I liked about the rape and why I don't like kissing or hugging "well what can I do that you will like" then goes back to his exgf. Thanks.
.or from my dad "I'm not the guy who raped you"even tho he was he was just too drunk to remember ..or my friend "you need to be in 3b" it's the psych Ward here. From my brother "all guys like to do with u is f*** n ditch. All ur worth" ...from my friend "ur so depressed it's annoying. Suicide. Do it."...from my brother "no one likes you. Especially not me." And "tramp"...last but not least from my mom "couldn't u just push him off u?" All these hurt me so much ...ty for letting me get them out of my head!

[jdam]

"Are you gonna let this bother you for rest of your life?"....wtf?

[yearsoftears]

jdam, on 26 September 2011 - 11:33 AM, said:

"Are you gonna let this bother you for rest of your life?"....wtf?

Oh I HATE that one jd. I dont know how many times I have been told that one. I, like you, respond by thinking WTF?? UGH

[MelK]

jdam, on 24 September 2011 - 02:19 PM, said:

"Put it out of your mind and think of something else."

yeah, I've had "try to think of something pleasant instead".
would like to suggest back to them "try to think"

[Meggy]

Out of the mouth of my father in reference to my path of healing following being assaulted.... "Just f@*cking get over it."

Out of the mouth of my mother after finding out I confided in someone I had been abused by my dad as a young child..... "You'd better not come around anymore. It's my job to protect your father from YOU."

[fragilebrokenthings]

"yeah I know it happened, but it happened 2 years ago,"
"can't you just get over it?"
"you were only raped by one guy, it's not that bad"
"just get over it, stop letting it effect you."

These were all from my "friends"
But it feels good to get them out :)/>

[splath]

After talking to a friend and telling her that I just wanted to forget the whole thing, she reminded me that it was an excellent learning opportunity so I should try to take something away from it so it doesn't happen again. Needless to say, I haven't tried talking to anyone about it since. At least she didn't suggest anything about knitting or Chinese food though....

[splath]

I was also told by someone on the PostSecret app that I just shouldn't drink so much next time. Clearly that is the solution. Because sober people never get raped. It's my fault for being drunk. Idiot.

[Camellia]

These comments are SO MADDENING!!! UGGHHHHH! They are so infuriating!!!
I am sooo sorry that all of you got unsupportive, wrong, untrue comments!!

Take gentle care,

Camellia

[punkbabeh]

Got a great one off my mother (I rang her and told her even though we have no relationship anymore *non situation related*) she came over and all it was: Capitals are the thoughts running through my head.

You know my opinion of him, why were you even hanging out with him? (screaming in my head: BECAUSE HE WAS MY FRIEND! AND I DIDN'T PLAN FOR HIM TO GO OUT AND ATTACK ME!)
Why didn't you push him off? (BECAUSE I'VE BEEN WEAK FROM MY BLEEDING CONDITION AND I HAD BEEN DRINKING, AGAIN, I DIDN'T EXACTLY PLAN IT!)
Where was P****? *my partner* (AT HOME, BECAUSE WE'RE NOT JOINED AT THE HIP)...maybe if he went with you, it wouldn't have happened.
You know we need to talk about the family situation a little more than we need to talk about this. At least ring on Christmas Eve because the whole family will be there, and say sorry to everyone, you've hurt a lot of people. Your grandparents are wondering if they'll die before you ever get in touch. (MY RAPIST COULD HAVE KILLED ME Y'KNOW. SO ME DOING SOME CLEANING IN YOUR HOUSE AND ALSO BEING SUICIDAL IN THE PAST IS MORE IMPORTANT THAN BEING RAPED ON FRIDAY?)

Got a good one from my father-in-law on the way back from the video statement, and these include my answers that I said out loud.

P''l *brother in law* isn't happy that you've put it on facebook. (It's my body and my choice to talk about it, I shouldn't be made to feel ashamed for something I didn't do.) Also a lot of evidence from witnesses has come via my facebook inboxes...almost 60 pages of evidence.

[SakuraBloom]

"You've got to put it behind you."
"Can't you have sex yet???"

[Luna_Sol]

The first friend I told about my experience to was kind of insensitive about it when I tried talking about why it seemed really, off.. I said "I'm not really sure if it was consensual.. he was being really pushy about it" and he just said "it's not rape if you don't say no". I told him I did say no, twice, and he just told me to take it as a learning experience. I wasn't even saying it was rape, and it still feels like too strong of a word for what happened. It was technically the same day it happened. It's not the worst things anyone has said, but I have only told a couple people about it (two were in a class with me that even had a unit on SA and rape, and another had nearly the same thing happen to her). So it's really only that friend who has issues about it, he won't even let me talk about it.