Oh man, i can't believe there is actual people that have said stupid things like that.
I haven't had any comments really because i am very privy of what happened to me. It is already enought to hear people around me say some shitty comment regarding abused women to know that i should NEVER say anything. For example:
1. my dear granny, ever since i was a kid she would say (when we heard of a girl being abused) "well a man only goes as far as a woman allows him to" really grandma? i bet you also wanted grandpa to give you those beatings everytime he got mad at you. You should have never allowed that.
2. Granny again "your mother deserves your father talks to her that way, after all she is a bad wife" Excuse me? can we go back to point number 1. again talking about grandpa? maybe you didn't serve his soup warm enough and that is why you deserved a sucker punch in the face.
3. Ohhhh granny again. She was visiting me for a summer and we had a fight because i was making plans to go out with one of my girlfriends to the theatre, she kept on ranting i was not allowed to go and leave her alone and then finally she attacks me with the following "well, you live in a different country all by yourself, only God knows what you really have been doing while alone" mainly she call me a whore. She did the same to my mom when she was a teenager so when i told her what happened over the phone she was furious and told me she would help out to get the plane ticket changed so grandma would leave ASAP. How i loved my mom!
4. When my mother died, which was a year after my R (of course i was very emotionally distressed already), i was invited to a friends house just two months after the funeral, of course i had lost my only and most strong supporter which helped me get through that first year. I was feeling utterly destroyed and over coffee she goes "oh come on it has been 2 months you should just get over it, you are depressed the whole time, move forward" I just exploded and told her she didn't know what she was talking about and to shut it.
People can be really cruel.