And some from my mother.
I told Mother when I was 17, and asked her to not tell ANYONE as it was still very uncomfortable and painful for me.
A few days after I told her she rang me and said…
“I was talking to my flatmate about what happened and her daughter has had the same thing happen, we think you should get together and have a chat”
She continued to tell my grandparents, her friends, most of the many borders/flatmates she has had and the people at her work about it.
Upon confronting her finally and telling her how much it hurt me that she kept telling people (some that I didn’t even know) even tho I asked her not to she said…
“Do you know how much this has effected me! You cant tell me something like that and expect me to keep it to myself, I need to get it out” Yes because its all about how it affects YOU.
Multiple times over the past three years…
“Get over it”
“Move on with your life, your just letting him win”
And many comments about me not having a job. Makes it so much harder not having your own mothers support
The conversation of children came up, I told her the thought of having children scared me and didn’t want to bring an innocent child into this world. She said “Oh great so I guess your not going to give me grandkids” again its all about HER
She rings up drunk a lot and just a few weeks ago she said...
“You are lying to me about who raped you, it was **** (little brothers father)
Wasn’t it and your lying to protect him” He wasn't even there so I have no idea why that would even occur to her.
Not a stupid comment but a stupid/insensitive thing she did. She invited me and my bf around for a “movie night” with a few of her weird friends. The movie was about rape and incest and she didn’t tell me. My bf stood up and walked me out within the first 5min as I was crying and shaking. My mother rang up the next day and asked me “why I walked out” Some people just have no idea... and I still don't know why they were even watching that sort of shit.
Telling my mother was the worst thing I did, every day I wish I hadn’t.