Top 10 stupidest comments of my acquaintance sexual assault 4 years ago:
-perpetrator/boss/mentor: initial stages was extremely apologetic, later stating "I think it's brought us closer together" finally threatening that nobody would believe me "never happened".
-lead agent representing me to ensure there were no negative impacts to me at work after discovering I would be moving back to my home city where I purchased a condo: "Did he pay for your condo?"
ALSO when advising me when I responded to the investigator that the perp 'raped' me she said "you don't want to make that sort of accusation, don't use that word"
-Person responsible for deciding the work impact: "Well if he didn't have sex with you I won't fire him"
ALSO indicated in the future to use mediation and counseling services offered through employer to work through issues before they escalate. (guess that's what I should have been thinking about when perp forced himself on me 'oh better call a mediator to avoid the CEO having to hear about my 'personal issues')
-confide in my friends that I was having a tough time so I would be taking a few weeks off work (to avoid triggers around anniversary) friend responds: "how can just take time off like that for no reason?"
-old friend: "if he raped you why didn't you press charges?", "why did you let him in your apartment"
-man I'm foolish to love but insane to think he ever has: "Get your act together", "again with the whoa is me, it's such a turn off", "quit being so dramatic", "you should have thought about that before it happened", "you should have known, I told you he was a creepy guy", "you deserve everything that happened to you", "it's what you do, you fuck guys", "fuck off you were horny, you hung out with the guy you fucked him", "give me a break I've been there I've run the gambit of woman and how they react if they're not into it...I'm not stupid, you wanted it, it's ok", "get over it!", "how can I be with someone who tells me they can't say no", "you cheated on me, how can I trust you"
Edited to add: "just sounds like a convenient excuse to fuck guys/have a one night stand"
Edited by Why_Not, 24 January 2012 - 05:05 PM.