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Afraid to post? For yourself or for others
#62
Posted 15 August 2002 - 03:24 AM
It doesn't seem like it tonight, but it IS hard to post when you're new. I just don't want to upset anyone by saying the wrong thing, especially when replying to posts because it's so personal. This seems like such a wonderful place and I worry that I might muck it up.
#63 Guest__*
Posted 06 October 2002 - 04:38 PM
Just to say to out there that I am so exhausted of all the hurt and pain and I am so tired of recovery. Its been a long,long time.
#64 Guest__*
Posted 11 January 2002 - 10:17 AM
Here is <a href="http://www.welcometobarbados.org/CGI-BIN/ikonboard/topic.cgi?forum=9&topic=9"><b> a welcome message</b></a> that we pulled together a while age.
Welcome to the board Samantha.
:)
Aoife
#65
Posted 12 January 2002 - 10:33 AM
ok . . I just wanted to say that alot . .ok almost everything that has been said here I have been going thru . . . . .
working on it though
mingo
#66 Guest__*
Posted 06 October 2002 - 03:35 AM
I think I might be able to find a way to post. Its easier if I come back and check replies after some time..I am very scared of the responses but I think posting is one thing and then noting a response requires something else.Like someone has seen me and that has always been difficult because I did not know it before the last while and I need to get used to that. Itis a lovely autumn morning here in ireland. Wishing all happy sleeps.
#67 Guest__*
Posted 27 August 2002 - 11:40 AM
i am 3 days new here-i haven't posted because i am afraid to write anything that will conjure up or trigger my own emotions-feelings---i have been in chat-that seems to be different for me when i can talk to others-but writing in here feels like writing to myself-not that others would or wouldn't respond-it has nothing to do with other responses-
i had to write a report -the'happening' when i reported it to the authorities-so -for now that was enough till i can begin to let out my feelings & emotions -i am so scared & yet want to release it or at least some of it (feelings).
this initial post may help me-thank you for the opportunity w/in 'afraid to post'.
#68 Guest__*
Posted 11 January 2002 - 01:21 PM
<i>Sometimes it seems like if your post is in one of the other categories, esp. toward the bottem, that virtually no one is going to read it or reply. Or if your post is in this category it's going to quickly end up beneath a bunch of others. </i>
That is very true. Unfortunately that's the way the board works. The new forums have not been in place for very long, and traffic is picking up in them.
I guess it comes down to why you post. If you post because you're trying to work things out for you, or looking for words from others. I think that as time goes by, the replies of others become less important, as you start to feel more at home. I think that many many of us do have co-dependency issues, and that these can be severely exacerbated by the number of replies we get to posts.
<i>Also, sometimes I feel like there is a clique here of people who really know each other well and I feel like I'm not really part of it and that makes it kind of hard to post. </i>
It is true that lots of people here know others well. However, I don't think that there is anyone who wouldn't like to have more friends. Reach out to others, and you will quickly find friends.
Lollie, thanks for reaching out to so many in the SI forum. It is appreciated.
:)
Aoife
#69 Guest__*
Posted 12 January 2002 - 12:37 PM
I hope that everyone who posted in here will quickly feel comfortable to post wherever their heart desires.
If anyone is interested there is a thread called <a href="http://www.welcometobarbados.org/CGI-BIN/ikonboard/topic.cgi?forum=9&topic=8"><b> Who are we? </b></a> which contains brief profiles of a lot of the members. Please consider adding yours to it. In case you don't know, mine is under 'crying angel' [my old, sucky name].
:)
Aoife
#70
- Jes-us Almost
- Group: Administrator
- Posts: 15,696
- Joined: 15-November 01
Posted 27 August 2002 - 12:52 PM
Hey Bramma,
Take your time, okay? This board is here for *you* to use in whatever way will help you heal the most.
Post whenever you feel ready, but please don't feel pressure to do it before then.
Welcome to the board!
Hugs,
Jes
#72 Guest_noreid_*
Posted 03 January 2003 - 11:21 AM
i feel too inadequate and useless to respond to people's posts, even when i know i have something i really would like to say: i think it is very selfish of me and i am sure i would drain. i am intensely shy and scared to post, a fear of rejection or something like that. same in real life just sorta quiet. i dunno. i feel stupid even posting this.. like i feel guilty, im so stupid. i just do not want to make fuss or go on when there are so many people who really are in pain i feel like i have no right, if that makes sense.
#73 Guest__*
Posted 11 January 2002 - 01:12 PM
I agree with just about everything I've read in this thread. There have been a few posts where I've gotten a lot of supportive replies and a few that seemed to just die. Sometimes it seems like if your post is in one of the other categories, esp. toward the bottem, that virtually no one is going to read it or reply. Or if your post is in this category it's going to quickly end up beneath a bunch of others.
It's really risky for me every time I post because I don't know if anyone will read it or reply and even though I can tell myself that it's nothing against me personally if no one responds, it still feels like rejection to me.
Also, sometimes I feel like there is a clique here of people who really know each other well and I feel like I'm not really part of it and that makes it kind of hard to post.
Thanks for this great thread.
#74
Posted 12 January 2002 - 11:50 AM
:) its funny. i have been feeling this a LOT these days..
i do feel unwanted and like im not important and that could be cause of how i grew up always feeling like no one cared about anything i had to say and that i just am not smart enough to even help a soul out. let alone help myself..
i do feel unwanted and like im not important and that could be cause of how i grew up always feeling like no one cared about anything i had to say and that i just am not smart enough to even help a soul out. let alone help myself..
thanks for this though, just wish i could stop feeling like everything i say is stupid and worthless..
#75
- Jes-us Almost
- Group: Administrator
- Posts: 15,696
- Joined: 15-November 01
Posted 27 August 2002 - 12:56 PM
Hey Bramma,
Take your time, okay? This board is here for *you* to use in whatever way will help you heal the most.
Post whenever you feel ready, but please don't feel pressure to do it before then.
Welcome to the board!
Hugs,
Jes
