and I don't want to ever hurt somebody, especially someone here who has already been hurt so cruelly.
I worry about this. If you compare the "Top 10 Stupidest Comments" thread with the "Kind words" threads, it's obvious that what one person finds comforting, cuts another to the core.
Obviously this fear doesn't silence me, but it's a scary thing, connecting with wounded people, even if you have been wounded in a similar way yourself. It can be like dealing with a burn victim when you don't know how deep the damage goes - touching them is the only way to help them, but your touch will probably hurt.
I guess I get past that fear with the knowledge that, although all relationships can and do cause some pain - not because of abuse, but because even the most supportive friends are tired and snappish or otherwise out of tune with each other sometimes - most people manage to heal from SA through relationships anyhow.
And it seems to me that often relationships are necessary for healing. And I know when I post, I hope someone will reach out to me, so I figure other posters hope for the same.
But there's no obligation to post; people also post here to be heard, and that hearing is a supportive act, too.
Not posting is only sad when someone wants to post, but can't bring themselves to do it.