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Posted 15 June 2007 - 01:20 PM
I'd recommend Real rape real pain by our very own Louise. It's the only book I've found that focuses on the sexual abuse in relationships as well as addressing the psychological and physical abuse. It's really well written and explains things in every day language using bits from real survivors stories to illustrate things. I've been with my partner for three and a half years so obviously we've talked about my ex a lot but reading bits from this book has really helped him understand how I feel. I also found it incredibly useful, especially the way the psychology is explained and the real stories because I could identify so much with them. It's very easy to dip into so you or your hubby can just flick through and read bits if you're not up to reading the whole thing.
Posted 19 August 2007 - 09:24 PM
"The Lovely Bones"-Alice Sebold
"After Silence"-Nancy Venable Raine
"Telling"-Patricia Weaver Francisco
"Recovering from Rape"-Linda E. Ledray
"The Secret Life of Bees"-Sue Monk Kidd (just an amazing book, not about rape, but healing for me anyway)
I found all of these books to be inspiring. Every time I read one, I just feel so empowered. I think I'll start writing my own book! I just finished "Telling" (in 3 days) and Patricia Francisco is such an amazing woman. As well as Alice Sebold and Nancy Raine! These women are so strong and I hope to be just like them some day.
Good luck everyone!
Posted 26 August 2007 - 02:19 AM
The Consolation of Philosophy by Boethius
Dream Work by Mary Oliver
The Dream of a Common Language by Adrienne Rich
and, of course,
I Can't Get over It: A Handbook for Trauma Survivors by Aphrodite Matsakis
Posted 23 September 2007 - 03:12 AM
by Vinka Jackson
True life story of her childhood incest by her father.
Se writes the story 30 years later, as a psychologist, finishing her years of therapy.
Even though it's in Spanish, I think a few of you Spanish speakers could benefit from it.
But watch out, some parts might be triggering.
Posted 29 December 2007 - 11:46 PM
Also the book "Boundaries" by Cloud & Townsend... it's not mainly on the subject of abuse, but there are certain chapters and sections that really touched a place in me that needed healing... mainly my ability to say NO to the bad and yes to the good, I had such screwed up boundaries and now they are definitely on their way to becoming normal once again! :)/>
Posted 30 December 2007 - 03:48 PM
Also, I like Secret Survivors by E. Sue Blume, Courage to Heal- kind of the survivors' Bible- and many of the books others have mentioned: Beauty for Ashes, Lucky, Secret Life of Bees.
Posted 01 January 2008 - 02:53 PM
The Survivor's Guide to Sex: How to Have an Empowered Sex Life After Child Sexual Abuse
Here's an amazon url The Survivor's Guide to Sex
Posted 11 January 2008 - 07:04 AM
Healing the shame that binds you. by john bradshaw
I'll tell you how I feel about it later right now it's pretty strait forward and hitting close to home, stirring up emotions I don't know how to deal with but I haven't got to the chapters that help deal with them.
I don't like the title but he explains it and it makes since
Posted 11 January 2008 - 07:36 AM
You're all so much stronger than I've been; reading about other accounts still triggers me.
So the books that I've found most helpful deal with healing and forgiveness, rather than rape and sexual abuse per se...
Thich Nhat Hanh's _The Heart of Understanding_ and _Peace is Every Step_ are real treasures in my library.
Stephen Mitchell's _The Gospel According to Jesus_ transformed my understanding of healing and liberation, epecially his introduction.
Julia Cameron's _The Artist's Way_ has given me so much: a daily journaling practice, a deep understanding of the power of positive affirmations, and the strength and courage to identify as an artist.
Sharon Olds is one of my favorite poets. She has survived so much, and reading her books, I feel I am walking beside her on her journey from childhood abuse to a life transformed by love and acceptance. Powerful medicine, though. I can only read her in bits and pieces.
A good friend continues to give me books on healing, but I still cry whenever I look at their titles.
I think one of them, _Waking the Tiger_ was listed here. Another title is _There is nothing wrong with you!_ Haven't read them, but I trust my friend's advice.
_The Highly Sensitive Person_ helps me to say "no" to things I don't want to do, to conversations I don't want to have...