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Posted 19 July 2004 - 08:45 AM
The Book is written by Jane Doe and published by Vintage Canada, a division of Random House Canada. It can be ordered online - it's not distributed outside of Canada, and that is very unfortunate because although it's Canadian, the story and information in the book are really applicable everywhere. The woman who wrote the book was raped by a serial rapist in Toronto in 1986, and after learning that there was a whole lot wrong with the police investigation she sued the Toronto Police Force for negligence and gender discrimination. It took a long time, and she won. The book is very informative and I learned so much from it about rape and rape mythology. Besides being eye-opening, it's inspiring, an amazing story and a great read. Personally, reading this book so soon after I was raped helped me to understand what was going on in my life and in my head in a big way. I haven't been able to put it down.
You can read more about the book here:
Random House of Canada Ltd.
Posted 24 July 2004 - 06:29 PM
The Sacred Circle Of the Hula Hoop by Kathy Kennedy Tapp. It's a work of fiction and deals with a teenage girl who's sister is r@ped. It's a really good book for secondary survivors. It's young adult so it's an easy read.
Posted 27 July 2004 - 04:33 PM
Posted 02 August 2004 - 02:19 AM
SunshineDaydream, on Aug. 25 2003, 10:28 am, said:
"Lucky" by Alice Sebold. God this woman is my heroine. I mean she just wrote the most incredible, witty, emotionally moving account of her rape, her trial, her recovery. She brought out truths that struck home from her exceptionally violent stranger rape to my passive agressive "I'll get you while you're sleeping" partner rape. I read this book on an airplane a month after I was raped and was a sobbing hysterical mess, most of the ride. However, they were healing tears and I needed them.
"The Lovely Bones" Alice Sebold. My parents sent me this book a week or two after I had been raped and they didn't know yet. It was triggering and emotional but isnpiring and incredibly well written. I loved it.
I ordered both books from Amazon yesterday after reading excerpts, and I'm really looking forwrd to reading them! :)/>
I found poetry quite helpful in my healing process. I love completely getting lost in the language. My favorite poets are Sylvia Plath and Robert Frost.
Posted 29 October 2004 - 05:35 AM
Sabine Dardenne, victim of Belgian paedophile Marc Dutroux, has written a book - called "J’avais 12 ans, j’ai pris mon vélo et je suis partie à l’école…" in French, "Ihm in die Augen sehen" in German, and "I was 12, I took my bike and I went to school..." in English.
It's only been published yesterday, so I haven't read it yet, but I can't wait. Gosh, I admire this woman so much. And for all those of you who might think "Oh no, not another memoir, here's a short text from the publishing house that will hopefull change your mind:
« I need to write this book for three reasons : so that people stop giving me strange looks and treating me like a curiosity; so that no one asks me any more questions ever again ; and so that the judicial system never again frees a paedophile for « good behaviour ». »
This book, dignified and restrained, was written so that the victim’s voice can at last be heard. For too long the attention of the media was monopolized by her torturer, while his victim was ignored. Her testimony, free of any fascination with evil or perversity, show how utterly the lives of the victims of paedophiles are devastated, their futures destroyed – even if some, like Sabine, manage to survive and get on with their lives. It is our duty to listen.
I'll post a review as soon as possible, but I'm sure it's great.
Posted 29 October 2004 - 08:44 PM
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Posted 23 October 2005 - 09:54 AM
I have just this minute finished reading The little prisoner - Jane Elliott. I read it in 1 day. Hugely triggering, similar to the Dave Pelzer books which i've also read, but showed that with strength and courage, even the very worst and unimaginable of abuse can be overcome.
Posted 25 January 2006 - 09:53 PM
Posted 05 May 2007 - 04:22 AM
I am new to Pandora's Aquarium and I wanted to make a suggestion on a really inspiring book, which focuses on regaining your confidence and your light. The book is titled "The Power Is Within You" by Louise Hay. Before I was raped 6 weeks ago I was struggling with low-self esteem and other issues, but reading this book, has helped me considerably and I now know that I will get through this stage of my life with a positive outcome.
I am not sure if anyone out there is into New Age/alternative therapies, but I have been working with Doreen Virtue and Angel therapy for about 2 years and it is amazing. I also like to read Wayne Dwyer and Crystal Andrus' books. If you are curious, these authors all have call in radio shows on different topics. You can listen to the archive shows for free at www.hayhouseradio.com. I find that all these shows are helpful to me, I always learn something new and always come away with something to be grateful for.
Sendin you all lots of love and healing light,
Posted 13 June 2007 - 03:53 AM
My contribution to the pile is Women Who Run With The Wolves by Clarissa Pinkola Estes. This book helped me more than anything. I stumbled on it right after my own happening, and nothing has ever helped or comforted me more. That's because it's not just self help-- it's storytelling. And there's nothing more comforting in the worst times than a good story.
I think this should serve as enough explanation about the book.
For women, tears are the beginning of your initiation into the Scar Clan, that timeless tribe of women of all colors, all nations, all languages, who down through the ages have lived through a great something, and yet who stood proud and still stand proud.
Let go of the shame and self imposed silence...confront your secret fears of those betrayals, forced acts, unrequited love, rejection, broken promises, neglect, and abuse. Bring these things to the surface, feel the feelings, cry the tears, and cleanse yourself of the pain of holding these shameful secrets. A wound will not heal until the matter is given words and witness. The center of your heart may be pierced, no matter how injured, your soul life continues, it can rise above, and sing it's way up and out again. Then move forward, to forgiveness, of yourself and of others. It may not have turned out to be a "Happily Ever After" but most certainly there is now a fresh "Once Upon a Time" waiting for you from this day forward!
The belly laugh....it awakens the body and the emotions. The kind of unrestrained laughter that rises up from the belly bringing a burst of life. In laughter a woman breathes fully, and when she does, she may begin to feel unsanctioned feelings. And what could these feelings be? Well, they turn out not to be feelings so much as relief and remedies for feelings, often causing the release of stopped up tears...hence, I laughed until I cried! Surround yourself during this "Wild Woman" transformation with your most comical sisters, watch funny movies, anything to bring that great, healing, belly laugh.