"Just because a woman is silent does not mean she agrees…"
My contribution to the pile is Women Who Run With The Wolves
by Clarissa Pinkola Estes. This book helped me more than anything. I stumbled on it right after my own happening, and nothing has ever helped or comforted me more. That's because it's not just self help-- it's storytelling. And there's nothing more comforting in the worst times than a good story.
I think this should serve as enough explanation about the book.
Tears are like a river that take you somewhere. Weeping creates a river around the boat that carries your soul - life. Tears lift your boat off the rocks, off dry ground, carrying it down river to someplace new, someplace better. A womans crying has been considered to be quite dangerous, for it loosens the locks and bolts on the secrets she keeps. But in truth, for the sake of a woman's Wild Soul it is better to cry and cleanse yourself.
For women, tears are the beginning of your initiation into the Scar Clan, that timeless tribe of women of all colors, all nations, all languages, who down through the ages have lived through a great something, and yet who stood proud and still stand proud.
Let go of the shame and self imposed silence...confront your secret fears of those betrayals, forced acts, unrequited love, rejection, broken promises, neglect, and abuse. Bring these things to the surface, feel the feelings, cry the tears, and cleanse yourself of the pain of holding these shameful secrets. A wound will not heal until the matter is given words and witness. The center of your heart may be pierced, no matter how injured, your soul life continues, it can rise above, and sing it's way up and out again. Then move forward, to forgiveness, of yourself and of others. It may not have turned out to be a "Happily Ever After" but most certainly there is now a fresh "Once Upon a Time" waiting for you from this day forward!
The belly laugh....it awakens the body and the emotions. The kind of unrestrained laughter that rises up from the belly bringing a burst of life. In laughter a woman breathes fully, and when she does, she may begin to feel unsanctioned feelings. And what could these feelings be? Well, they turn out not to be feelings so much as relief and remedies for feelings, often causing the release of stopped up tears...hence, I laughed until I cried! Surround yourself during this "Wild Woman" transformation with your most comical sisters, watch funny movies, anything to bring that great, healing, belly laugh.