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To latter Wonderful Threads posters hope you aren't missing out.

#1 User is offline   Louise 

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Posted 30 July 2005 - 03:43 AM

Okay, I'm probably having a mild co-dependent crisis here, but I just wanted to clarify something and also get member's thoughts.

The "Wonderful Threads" forum was created so we could save important, pithy and popular survivor topics for people to read, be helped by, share in, feel less isolated etc.

I feel a bit concerned that pople who post in older and very big threads are making great contributions but missing out on being actively supported. For example, in the "Stupid Comments" thread, there are lots of very sad, shocking secondary wounds being shared, but replies to specific posters about their posts have gotten thinner as time has gone by, which of course usually happens in older threads - I just don't want anybody to feel unheard.

I suppose I wanted to just sound a reminder that people who are needing active support beyond just sharing should feel very okay about starting new threads on any of these topics in "my voice" or other relevant forum.

What do others think?

#2 User is offline   Stephanie 

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Posted 30 July 2005 - 12:21 PM

Personal choice I reckon - sometimes I like to add to a large thread - just to add my thoughts on that topic. If it was something I wanted support on I would post a seperate topic in my voice. I don't think old threads should be locked and retired - those threads are valuable resources and I often refer people to them when replying to posts. I think it is enough to make sure that people know that it is perfectly alright to add their thoughts to an old long thread and start a new thread in My Voice if they need specific support for something.

Steph

#3 User is offline   Kimby 

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Posted 03 August 2005 - 09:02 PM

I get confused by some of the older threads because they seem to have a lot of quotes that come from nowhere... maybe I'm doing it wrong but when I go to page 1 looking for the original post, it will often contain a series of quotes as if it wasn't actually the original post. So I've somewhat given up on trying to read them. Is there something I should be doing differently?

Maybe it would be better to keep them locked but still open to viewing as a resource. I also tend to avoid posting in the public arena because it feels uncomfortable to me.

Kimby

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Posted 04 August 2005 - 06:26 AM

Kimby,

When we switched to this board (or another earlier one, I can't really remember) a lot of the older threads got messed up. In order for them to be correct again, someone would have to go through and edit them and such. The original post is usually still there (I think), but it's no longer the first one, as you might have noticed. It's usually still on the first page, but down a bit.

So, no, it's not anything you are doing wrong. Blame it on the gremlins. :P/>

Cathy

#5 User is offline   Tracy 

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Posted 04 August 2005 - 01:08 PM

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The original post is usually still there (I think), but it's no longer the first one, as you might have noticed. It's usually still on the first page, but down a bit.


yep.

I went back looking at some old threads just a few days ago and never found the original thread that started it...weird...

board gremlins.

#6 User is offline   Kimby 

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Posted 05 August 2005 - 03:55 AM

Nasty gremlins!

:alien:/>

Kimby

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Posted 14 September 2005 - 04:50 AM

are they the same ones that live in your washer, and eat your one sock out of the pair?

mel

#8 User is offline   NancyPS 

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Posted 19 May 2007 - 03:55 PM

Hi,
I am new here and I agree it's a little confusing to follow some of the threads of the topics, but I am learning, and I hope it will get easier.
I am just grateful this place exists.
I have found myself the past few days wanting to come to this site first even before I read my email which is a huge change for me.
I suppose that means I just need to feel supported at the moment, since there is a lot of stuff going on in my real world including the wait for my abuser to be sentenced.
Thanks for being there.
Nancy

#9 User is offline   blondie2002 

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Posted 16 August 2007 - 08:35 AM

:lol:/> about the "sock monster". :P/> I'm glad I'm not the only one that thinks there "is" one! :alien:/> blondie24

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Posted 23 November 2010 - 02:56 AM

Replying to an old thread, after reading through it made me a) feel so much less alone and helped me to understand my issues and their origins better and b) allowed me to put things into words as practice for telling someone in 3D for the first time.

Sharing has helped a lot. I saw as I read through the post that not many people were getting direct responses, I assumed the threads had become sounding grounds. And hope that my words might help someone else to feel less alone in the future. That said I do find making new threads really difficult, rather scary, and so generally avoid it.

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