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#1 Lacrymosa

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Posted 24 May 2014 - 05:16 AM

I don't know if this is in the right place but I'm really worried bout a fellow survivor how can I find out if she's ok?

#2 mbholly

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Posted 24 May 2014 - 06:53 AM

Hi jan,
I am sorry you are feeling worried. I don't really know the answer to your question. I'm not sure there is a way because members have a right to their privacy. If the person you are concerned about posted something specific like a plan for suicide you would report the post and let the board mods handle it. I know I'm not much help here, but wanted to let you know you are not alone in having those kinds of worried feelings about other members.

I personally kind of think you just have to hope for the best for them and try to let the worry go. Sometimes people need a break from Pandy's because it can be triggering. Sometimes people who are struggling seek treatment /hospitalization and don't share that here. Often people come back and explain why they were gone. I know it can be stressful.

I hope the person you are concerned about is okay and that you hear from her soon.

Thinking of you,
Mary Beth

#3 jmy3sns

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Posted 24 May 2014 - 07:07 AM

Yes janh I understand that worry but like Marybeth said sometimes people have to step away because it is so triggering on this site sometimes . I have often needed to take a break. I hope the member is ok and you hear from them soon.

#4 Susan

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Posted 24 May 2014 - 07:27 AM

Hi jan,

You've already received some really sound advice. I'm not sure what I can add. Self care is an important part of healing so knowing when to take time out for yourself, go in patient if needing more intensive care is often a good thing. If there is a specific post you're concerned about please do report it. I hope your friend will be okay!


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#5 blondie2002

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Posted 25 May 2014 - 09:03 PM

I agree

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