This might be over-sensitive, over-attentive and impractical, but I struggle with these things so please let me know gently if I'm going off on one!
I haven't been on Pandy's all that long but I love it as both a place I can talk to people who understand what I'm going through, and somewhere to get support when I'm in a bad place. Just being here for a couple of months has changed my outlook on what happened to me so much, and I feel like I've been able to help people along the way, and that makes me so happy and content. I have noticed one thing that I think could be made better... I'm just not sure if it's what Pandy's is about.
I see a lot of people posting in My Voice looking for people to sit with them, give them hugs and just be there for them, in the moment when they're feeling horrible. By the nature of the site, sometimes there are no people there for them, and they can be left waiting for support that comes hours later. I personally struggle with being over-sensitive and people-paranoid, and watching the 'view' count go up without anyone posting even to say they read makes me hurt and angry. For someone in as dark a place as some of you are when you post, I can imagine that would hurt all the more.
I was wondering if there's any possibility that something like a 'Quick Help' forum could be set up, for people who aren't looking for long, thoughtful replies or advice, but for someone to be there for them, there and then, with compassion and empathy. Obviously it couldn't be instant, nor could anyone expect that, but a different forum so that a plea for help doesn't get lost in My Voice might be a helpful thing. I realise this might not help because people might expect
a response faster, therefore be more hurt. However, I feel people would be more likely to post in a forum where they know that replies are more useful than just reading. Survivors needing hugs and empathy at that time could find each other more easily as well.
If this is just me, please let me know. If I haven't really thought this through, please let me know that as well. I'm very scared posting this, but I'd hate for someone to fight for the courage to reach out, and find nobody reaching back.
Thanks for reading... I hope I'm not being a moron.