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#1 HopeStill

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Posted 17 April 2012 - 02:22 PM

Hi Mods and All, I'm very happy to be in this new place, feels really good and feels like the most natural thing I ever did.
I've got a question: this thing about members making me a friend, or making me their friend, or however you say that. If I've only just arrived here, how can people make me a friend?
I mean, its not like they've chatted with me or really 'got to know me', in a virtual sense, so why do they click on me to make me a friend.
Now its not like I'm an antisocial, although social skills are def not of my strengths. But in real life you'd get to know someone a bit before you decide to think of them as a friend. You spend time with them, share a few stories, look at what you've got in common etc. So I was thinking, it seems a bit too soon to be making friends here as I've only just arrived.
I really like that I come straight out and ask about something I'm not sure of. Well people in general are a fairly mystifying quantity, I really don't get a lot of stuff around socialising and social skills. This place where I'm living now seems to be full of people I find it really difficult to communicate with, and I come along to Pandys and in a matter of days two people want to be friends.
I'm not being cautious or suspicious, I'm just asking around what the general meaning of friends is, on this forum.
I notice I'm not accustomed to people coming up and being friendly, and was surprised and a bit overwhelmed by it.
Nice, I felt sadness in me cause I realised I'm not used to people coming up to me to be friends, this board is going to be very healing for me.
Thanks, Hope

Edited by HopeStill, 17 April 2012 - 02:25 PM.

#2 lucy

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Posted 17 April 2012 - 03:29 PM

Hello Hope!

I am really glad that you feel comfortable here, it is really good to know!

I've got a question: this thing about members making me a friend, or making me their friend, or however you say that. If I've only just arrived here, how can people make me a friend?

I think that different people have different reasons for adding friends here, some people like to get to know people more in depth before adding a person while others like to add people in order to get to know them.

Sorry this is a bit vague and I hope that it helps you

Take care

#3 Kate

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Posted 18 April 2012 - 05:52 AM

Hi Hope,

I wanted to echo what Lucy said! I also wanted to let you know that our board software does funny things at times. Several months ago I saw where it had automatically made everybody whose username started with "S" a friend of everybody whose username started with "T" - within the space of 3 minutes. It's a weird glitch - so sometimes the friend request you get might not actually have been sent by that member but by the board gremlins ;)


#4 starq

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Posted 18 April 2012 - 06:45 PM

wow serious kate.. n i thoight all those people that start with t added me sesssh :rolleyes: xx

#5 blondie2002

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Posted 19 April 2012 - 02:44 PM

interesting. I never would have thought of that glitch. :lol: sorry I thought it was funny.

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