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Anybody else have weird triggers? Want to list them? (yes, *trigger warn*)
Posted 13 July 2004 - 12:18 PM
Harvey Keitel [he did a movie called, "Fingers" and he's abusive to some women in it].
Anyone/anything Iranian [the guy who r@ped me was Iranian].
Most other black men [two black babysitters molested me when I was younger, so I'm into the interracial thing]. Ironically, my parents thought it was safer to trust your own race and they didn't know this was happening while they were away.
Christmas [when the r@pe happened]
When any male points a finger in my face.
The words, "You liked it" in reference to anything.
Being hit upon by anyone, especially men.
Hearing someone's breathing near me.
Being alone around men.
When a man closes a door behind us and locks it.
Every waking moment.
When anyone brings up the topic of sexual harassment/abuse.
Judgement about r@pe survivors.
After I'm aroused, the trigger kills it.
Kobe Bryant, Michael Jackson, Timothy Busfield, Scott Bairstow, Jeffery Jones and any other celebrity accused of a sexual violation.
The List will get longer in my head.
Posted 01 August 2004 - 07:06 PM
Black men of any age
Taco Bell, seeing one or hearing a commerical
Seeing a Taco Bell ad or garbage
loud noises (of course)
Having to wait in my car for someone or something
When I reach for something, someone yanking it away
The sound of a lighter being flicked
My grandfather (I was not abused by him, though)
Homeless men (serious trigger)
Anyone coming up to my driver's side window
Many many more...
I'm a mess. :D/>
#79 Guest_loveless aphrodite_*
Posted 05 August 2004 - 04:39 PM
Of course, to see a father and daughter together creeps me out but at the same time I kinda feel envious of their relationship.
Also, I too have a scene on a movie that I hate and is so scary to me. In The Color Purple.... when the main character has sex w/ 'her husband'.... it just gives me a feeling of disgust for all men.
I am the only person in my office and I hate to have to deal with having a man in there with me alone. In my line of work I run background checks for anyone that comes through my doors and it is really scary when there is a sex offender alone with me in there.
Showing too much of my body - although I don't wear anything skimpy.
Sure there are other things, but these are my wierdest and scariest.
Posted 05 August 2004 - 11:47 PM
the words "suicide", "psych ward", or "15 minutes"
the hospital smell
the movie "Gothica"
anyone touching or holding onto my wrists
laying in bed with my ears uncovered
anyone telling me I'm a "bad girl"
the city where it happened
talking to a certain one of my guy friends
seeing the people that left me alone in the place it happened
oddly enough the biggest one for me recently was being pulled over and getting a speeding ticket
Posted 12 September 2004 - 03:09 PM
*cheap "protien & balsm" shampoo like Suave or V05
*the smell of freshly cut grass
*weepy willow trees (he had a huge one in his yard),they smell weird
*Marshal Mathers aka; Eminem because he looks EXACTLY like him. Or did.
*People snaeking up on me. I know they think it's just a joke but that's a huge trigger for me and I've tried to beat the crap outta people for doing it.
Posted 15 September 2004 - 01:54 AM
Any of those scenes on tv
Boyf saying my name during sex
Autum and leaves falling from trees
Boyf kissing my kneck
noises in the night when trying to sleep
the bedroom door being open at night
walking down stairs in the dark
orange street lights at night
Police vans, cars, people...
blue n white trainers, red fleece jacket, black lace dress...
I could go on, a very helpful exercise, thanks.
New here, Laura
Posted 15 September 2004 - 05:28 AM
White cars/vans - this one FREAKS me out!!!!!!
Cars - esp white - pull up next to me on the street
His car/s make/s
His very common first name
His last name
Any topic on r*pe/abuse
the "r" words or other words
People not listening to me when i say "no!"
Young, happy, innocent girls!!!
Once when his last name appeared randomly on a very boring grammar test at school
Posted 29 September 2004 - 09:24 PM
hospital tests;mri's, c.t's, echo's, etc
lying flat on my back
overexaggerated mafioso dialects
a stream of light
rape scenes or innuendos
having my face covered
being told i'm beautiful :sleepy:/>
Posted 30 September 2004 - 01:24 AM
whenever i was in bed with my (ex) partner he had gotten so used to it that when he wanted to give oral (another trigger for me) he would cover my top half before uncovering my lower half. [i used to say i was cold :P/> but niether of us believed that]
it's a huge issue in any thoughts of meeting someone new...that i'll have to let them know somehow :P/>
Posted 07 November 2004 - 08:47 AM
being yelled at or hearing people yell or argue or fight etc
hearing his name
having my hands held unwilling
anything around my neck
rape scenes in movies
anything that looks smiliar to what i or he was wearing
deep voices on males
the word biatch
the movie from hell
any pain i feel down there
any talk of sex or things to do with sex
pat rafter (same name and looks like him)
enclosed and dark places
the smell of grass
innocent young girls, I wonder if it will ever happen to them or if they are being abused especially when I see them around men and worry that I canít protect them.
People walking outside my bedroom while trying to sleep
Weird a lot of them I know
Posted 25 November 2004 - 03:22 AM
The color white
Tables without chairs
Any kind of rope or string or chain
When someone touches my sides
Chewing tobacco breath...