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My Triggers Are:
Harvey Keitel [he did a movie called, "Fingers" and he's abusive to some women in it].
Anyone/anything Iranian [the guy who r@ped me was Iranian].
Most other black men [two black babysitters molested me when I was younger, so I'm into the interracial thing]. Ironically, my parents thought it was safer to trust your own race and they didn't know this was happening while they were away.
Christmas [when the r@pe happened]
When any male points a finger in my face.
Being naked.
The words, "You liked it" in reference to anything.
Being hit upon by anyone, especially men.
Sexual aggression.
Hearing someone's breathing near me.
Being alone around men.
When a man closes a door behind us and locks it.
Every waking moment.
When anyone brings up the topic of sexual harassment/abuse.
Judgement about r@pe survivors.
After I'm aroused, the trigger kills it.
Kobe Bryant, Michael Jackson, Timothy Busfield, Scott Bairstow, Jeffery Jones and any other celebrity accused of a sexual violation.
The List will get longer in my head.
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Anybody else have weird triggers? Want to list them? (yes, *trigger warn*)
#77 Guest_atari_*
Posted 20 July 2004 - 09:27 AM
the beach
black shorts
a few different names
lightbulbs
tommy hilfiger jeans (or just the logo)
black shorts
a few different names
lightbulbs
tommy hilfiger jeans (or just the logo)
#78
Posted 01 August 2004 - 07:06 PM
This is a great topic :)/>
Mine are:
Black men of any age
Taco Bell, seeing one or hearing a commerical
Seeing a Taco Bell ad or garbage
loud noises (of course)
Having to wait in my car for someone or something
When I reach for something, someone yanking it away
The sound of a lighter being flicked
My grandfather (I was not abused by him, though)
Homeless men (serious trigger)
Anyone coming up to my driver's side window
Many many more...
I'm a mess. :D/>
Mine are:
Black men of any age
Taco Bell, seeing one or hearing a commerical
Seeing a Taco Bell ad or garbage
loud noises (of course)
Having to wait in my car for someone or something
When I reach for something, someone yanking it away
The sound of a lighter being flicked
My grandfather (I was not abused by him, though)
Homeless men (serious trigger)
Anyone coming up to my driver's side window
Many many more...
I'm a mess. :D/>
#79 Guest_loveless aphrodite_*
Posted 05 August 2004 - 04:39 PM
I have scary thoughs of the thought "family". Whenever I see a brother and a sister hug, watch TV alone, or just know that the are close. I get chills and wonder if there ever was any type of sexual contact among them. That is wierd! But my brothers molested me when I was a kid. Iguess I figuered my dad did worse so it must not be that bad.
Of course, to see a father and daughter together creeps me out but at the same time I kinda feel envious of their relationship.
Also, I too have a scene on a movie that I hate and is so scary to me. In The Color Purple.... when the main character has sex w/ 'her husband'.... it just gives me a feeling of disgust for all men.
I am the only person in my office and I hate to have to deal with having a man in there with me alone. In my line of work I run background checks for anyone that comes through my doors and it is really scary when there is a sex offender alone with me in there.
Showing too much of my body - although I don't wear anything skimpy.
Sure there are other things, but these are my wierdest and scariest.
Of course, to see a father and daughter together creeps me out but at the same time I kinda feel envious of their relationship.
Also, I too have a scene on a movie that I hate and is so scary to me. In The Color Purple.... when the main character has sex w/ 'her husband'.... it just gives me a feeling of disgust for all men.
I am the only person in my office and I hate to have to deal with having a man in there with me alone. In my line of work I run background checks for anyone that comes through my doors and it is really scary when there is a sex offender alone with me in there.
Showing too much of my body - although I don't wear anything skimpy.
Sure there are other things, but these are my wierdest and scariest.
#80
Posted 05 August 2004 - 11:47 PM
male nurses
the words "suicide", "psych ward", or "15 minutes"
the hospital smell
the movie "Gothica"
anyone touching or holding onto my wrists
laying in bed with my ears uncovered
anyone telling me I'm a "bad girl"
the city where it happened
halloween
talking to a certain one of my guy friends
seeing the people that left me alone in the place it happened
oddly enough the biggest one for me recently was being pulled over and getting a speeding ticket
the words "suicide", "psych ward", or "15 minutes"
the hospital smell
the movie "Gothica"
anyone touching or holding onto my wrists
laying in bed with my ears uncovered
anyone telling me I'm a "bad girl"
the city where it happened
halloween
talking to a certain one of my guy friends
seeing the people that left me alone in the place it happened
oddly enough the biggest one for me recently was being pulled over and getting a speeding ticket
#81
Posted 12 September 2004 - 03:09 PM
For me it's mostly smells.
*cheap "protien & balsm" shampoo like Suave or V05
*the smell of freshly cut grass
*weepy willow trees (he had a huge one in his yard),they smell weird
*Marshal Mathers aka; Eminem because he looks EXACTLY like him. Or did.
*People snaeking up on me. I know they think it's just a joke but that's a huge trigger for me and I've tried to beat the crap outta people for doing it.
*cheap "protien & balsm" shampoo like Suave or V05
*the smell of freshly cut grass
*weepy willow trees (he had a huge one in his yard),they smell weird
*Marshal Mathers aka; Eminem because he looks EXACTLY like him. Or did.
*People snaeking up on me. I know they think it's just a joke but that's a huge trigger for me and I've tried to beat the crap outta people for doing it.
#82 Guest_Flossy_*
Posted 15 September 2004 - 01:54 AM
Hi this is a good idea, Ive not thought about listing them before;
Blue trackies
Drunk men
Any of those scenes on tv
Boyf saying my name during sex
Autum and leaves falling from trees
Boyf kissing my kneck
eating chilli!
noises in the night when trying to sleep
the bedroom door being open at night
walking down stairs in the dark
orange street lights at night
Mist
Police vans, cars, people...
blue n white trainers, red fleece jacket, black lace dress...
I could go on, a very helpful exercise, thanks.
New here, Laura
Blue trackies
Drunk men
Any of those scenes on tv
Boyf saying my name during sex
Autum and leaves falling from trees
Boyf kissing my kneck
eating chilli!
noises in the night when trying to sleep
the bedroom door being open at night
walking down stairs in the dark
orange street lights at night
Mist
Police vans, cars, people...
blue n white trainers, red fleece jacket, black lace dress...
I could go on, a very helpful exercise, thanks.
New here, Laura
#84
Posted 15 September 2004 - 05:28 AM
My triggers:
White cars/vans - this one FREAKS me out!!!!!!
Cars - esp white - pull up next to me on the street
His car/s make/s
His very common first name
His last name
Any topic on r*pe/abuse
the "r" words or other words
People not listening to me when i say "no!"
Men...
Boys....
Young, happy, innocent girls!!!
Some songs
His voice
Once when his last name appeared randomly on a very boring grammar test at school
the night
the dark
the cold
alleys
dark streets
White cars/vans - this one FREAKS me out!!!!!!
Cars - esp white - pull up next to me on the street
His car/s make/s
His very common first name
His last name
Any topic on r*pe/abuse
the "r" words or other words
People not listening to me when i say "no!"
Men...
Boys....
Young, happy, innocent girls!!!
Some songs
His voice
Once when his last name appeared randomly on a very boring grammar test at school
the night
the dark
the cold
alleys
dark streets
#85
Posted 15 September 2004 - 09:45 AM
ok i have some weird triggers
having an orgasm
my nurses uniform
small white vans
beards
the smell of tobacco
red rugs
anythign on tv about r*pe
been grab on my arm
old men
i could go on forever but i won't
having an orgasm
my nurses uniform
small white vans
beards
the smell of tobacco
red rugs
anythign on tv about r*pe
been grab on my arm
old men
i could go on forever but i won't
#86 Guest_Willow White_*
Posted 19 September 2004 - 01:22 PM
Hearing birds chirping in the early morning (serious trigger)
Being naked
Body odor
Hearing someone scream
Foggy mornings
White shirts
And a few more
Being naked
Body odor
Hearing someone scream
Foggy mornings
White shirts
And a few more
#87 Guest_absynthe_*
Posted 29 September 2004 - 09:24 PM
I am glad and saddened there are so many others with as many triggers... great post idea
hospital tests;mri's, c.t's, echo's, etc
nylon jackets
jagermeister
lying flat on my back
spiderman
overexaggerated mafioso dialects
cologne
the dark
a stream of light
rape scenes or innuendos
constriction
scarfs
earmuffs/hoods/hats
having my face covered
grocery stores
being told i'm beautiful :sleepy:/>
hospital tests;mri's, c.t's, echo's, etc
nylon jackets
jagermeister
lying flat on my back
spiderman
overexaggerated mafioso dialects
cologne
the dark
a stream of light
rape scenes or innuendos
constriction
scarfs
earmuffs/hoods/hats
having my face covered
grocery stores
being told i'm beautiful :sleepy:/>
#88 Guest_dolf_*
Posted 30 September 2004 - 01:24 AM
being naked especially laying down and being looked at when i'm naked. it makes me feel so vulnerable, cheap, ugly, used...
whenever i was in bed with my (ex) partner he had gotten so used to it that when he wanted to give oral (another trigger for me) he would cover my top half before uncovering my lower half. [i used to say i was cold :P/> but niether of us believed that]
it's a huge issue in any thoughts of meeting someone new...that i'll have to let them know somehow :P/>
whenever i was in bed with my (ex) partner he had gotten so used to it that when he wanted to give oral (another trigger for me) he would cover my top half before uncovering my lower half. [i used to say i was cold :P/> but niether of us believed that]
it's a huge issue in any thoughts of meeting someone new...that i'll have to let them know somehow :P/>
#89 Guest_Chantelle_*
Posted 07 November 2004 - 08:47 AM
some of my triggers:
being yelled at or hearing people yell or argue or fight etc
hearing his name
open paddocks
having my hands held unwilling
anything around my neck
rape scenes in movies
anything that looks smiliar to what i or he was wearing
deep voices on males
the word biatch
the movie from hell
any pain i feel down there
being alone
screaming
being touched
any talk of sex or things to do with sex
pat rafter (same name and looks like him)
being criticized
enclosed and dark places
the smell of grass
innocent young girls, I wonder if it will ever happen to them or if they are being abused especially when I see them around men and worry that I can’t protect them.
Rape jokes
People walking outside my bedroom while trying to sleep
Weird a lot of them I know
being yelled at or hearing people yell or argue or fight etc
hearing his name
open paddocks
having my hands held unwilling
anything around my neck
rape scenes in movies
anything that looks smiliar to what i or he was wearing
deep voices on males
the word biatch
the movie from hell
any pain i feel down there
being alone
screaming
being touched
any talk of sex or things to do with sex
pat rafter (same name and looks like him)
being criticized
enclosed and dark places
the smell of grass
innocent young girls, I wonder if it will ever happen to them or if they are being abused especially when I see them around men and worry that I can’t protect them.
Rape jokes
People walking outside my bedroom while trying to sleep
Weird a lot of them I know
#90
Posted 25 November 2004 - 03:22 AM
Eminem and Ja Rule(for those who may not know. Eminem is a white rapper and Ja Rule is a black rapper)
The color white
Stainless steel
Tables without chairs
Stethoscopes
Cotton Balls
Flies
Carrots
Bald men
Churches
Crosses
Belts
Any kind of rope or string or chain
When someone touches my sides
Cloves
Calloused hands
Chewing tobacco breath...
The color white
Stainless steel
Tables without chairs
Stethoscopes
Cotton Balls
Flies
Carrots
Bald men
Churches
Crosses
Belts
Any kind of rope or string or chain
When someone touches my sides
Cloves
Calloused hands
Chewing tobacco breath...
