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Anybody else have weird triggers? Want to list them? (yes, *trigger warn*)
Posted 13 January 2012 - 11:58 AM
My biggest ones are seeing men that look like my attacker
Anyone not listening when I say no or please don't (in a romantic/sexual situation)
Anyone who might grab my wrists or arms, basically not letting me up
People I don't know drinking around me
I am getting so much better though, I just hope one day it isn't as crippling as it has been
Love to all
Posted 23 January 2012 - 12:40 AM
*being photographed or filmed (trying to get over it recently)
*law and order svu
*really young kids
*really bad hyperhidrosis moments where i cant do anything
*people having sex in front of me and couples with good relationships
*anything reminding me how empty i am
*when someone doesn't understand what i'm saying
*really innocent girls even ones my own age
*some older women
all i can think of right now.
i find learning about photography, sex etc makes me to look at things and just focus on technical aspects and distracts me from what happend, i dont talk about them though.
thanks for starting this
Posted 31 January 2012 - 10:16 AM
Posted 31 January 2012 - 12:05 PM
indian dudes, esp with mustaches. I have to work with one, reminds me of my attacker. It almost makes work too much at times.
white suv, his car
the street where his business is located
at times, not often, but sometimes, my own body, due to body memories, or just memories
news stories on s.a.
Posted 01 February 2012 - 02:12 PM
- Certain scents of aftershaves / colognes.
- Being held down ( Being held down by my arms / wrists is especially triggering... ).
- Being belittled and ridiculed.
The worse one at the moment though has to be my ridiculous reaction to ejaculate... I know it's just cells... things floating in plastic bags almost if you will... but... it freaks me out too much at times to the point that I feel incredibly nauseated... I've tried working on it myself, but I've not told my boyfriend about it yet... I don't want to offend him or upset him. So... this is my next trigger to over come. Just not sure yet how to go about it!
Posted 03 February 2012 - 06:34 PM
Mineral water. Their water had a lot of calcium in it. I remember him bathing me in it a lot...it has a certain smell, believe it or not.
Shaved pubic hair.
The color red in general
There's just so many. I could list them forever.
Posted 05 February 2012 - 01:34 PM
My two worst triggers are:
When I'm in a moving car and I can't see where it's going, or only being able to see the tops of street lights and trees go past.
And the sound a van's sliding side door makes when closing.
Posted 07 February 2012 - 10:15 PM
Posted 07 February 2012 - 10:26 PM