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Hmmmm...
Excema on hands and the feel of rough skin
Rape scenes on tv
Having my wrists held
Being 'trapped' under my duvet
And I'm sure their is more just eluding me at the moment!
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Anybody else have weird triggers? Want to list them? (yes, *trigger warn*)
#647
Posted 14 September 2011 - 11:37 AM
The Thomas the Tank Engine theme tune (yay, alliteration!), young girls playing with older women, and any situation in which I have to hug several people in a short amount of time (family gatherings are the worst... I have to hug around fifty people in five minutes, I absolutely hate it.)
#648
Posted 17 September 2011 - 07:25 AM
Swearing, particularly when someone is angry
Not feeling like I am in control
Cigarette smoke, I can't stand the smell
Pepsi the drink
Being outside at night either alone or surrounded by a number of people I don't know
Not feeling like I am in control
Cigarette smoke, I can't stand the smell
Pepsi the drink
Being outside at night either alone or surrounded by a number of people I don't know
#649
Posted 22 September 2011 - 05:22 PM
some of mine are:
Touching (even hugs)
Holding my wrists
Fingernails and hands that look delicate and not "very manly" (if that made sense)
Almonds
Chevy trucks
Motorcycles
Men+teen boys
Anything that makes me think of the situation or any of these things ive listed will make me uncomfortable. And at school especially if i daydream and think about it, it get awkward for me.
Touching (even hugs)
Holding my wrists
Fingernails and hands that look delicate and not "very manly" (if that made sense)
Almonds
Chevy trucks
Motorcycles
Men+teen boys
Anything that makes me think of the situation or any of these things ive listed will make me uncomfortable. And at school especially if i daydream and think about it, it get awkward for me.
#650
Posted 26 September 2011 - 05:37 PM
this is my first time posting so here goes
the smell of dying honeysuckles - it was that time of year
anything wet on my face, espcially someone licking me - think I know why
lying down in public (face down or face up)no idea why - it doesn't fit the scenerio
people telling me that something I am upset about isn't a big deal
anything on my neck
fooling around while standing up
not feeling like I am good enough and lots of compliments (its a hard place to be)
The movie Wild at Heart - there is a hotel room scene that made me run away
The songs "Yesterday" by the Beatles, "Time after Time" by Cindy Lauper and "Jaine's Got a Gun" - I have no idea why for any of them
Fake wood paneling especially in basements - that's where I was
Driving - I have no idea why
A co-worker - he creeps me out
Young girls playing outside without an adult around - I want to warn them
I feel like there are more - lots of things make me feel small but I never know what they are
the smell of dying honeysuckles - it was that time of year
anything wet on my face, espcially someone licking me - think I know why
lying down in public (face down or face up)no idea why - it doesn't fit the scenerio
people telling me that something I am upset about isn't a big deal
anything on my neck
fooling around while standing up
not feeling like I am good enough and lots of compliments (its a hard place to be)
The movie Wild at Heart - there is a hotel room scene that made me run away
The songs "Yesterday" by the Beatles, "Time after Time" by Cindy Lauper and "Jaine's Got a Gun" - I have no idea why for any of them
Fake wood paneling especially in basements - that's where I was
Driving - I have no idea why
A co-worker - he creeps me out
Young girls playing outside without an adult around - I want to warn them
I feel like there are more - lots of things make me feel small but I never know what they are
This post has been edited by jtberg2002: 26 September 2011 - 05:38 PM
#651
Posted 02 October 2011 - 11:53 AM
Now I'm not sure if all my triggers are from the most recent trauma or from my childhood trauma's...
-dark
-shadows
-walking up stairs at night
-hearing the light switch off
-hearing people walk around on the floor below me... huge problem since I now live in an apartment
-seeing young girls with older men
-the sound of zippers
-hearing diesel trucks
-hearing car doors shut
-seeing a red truck
-hearing someone in pain or trying to struggle... I'm a nurse so this is a problem
-dark
-shadows
-walking up stairs at night
-hearing the light switch off
-hearing people walk around on the floor below me... huge problem since I now live in an apartment
-seeing young girls with older men
-the sound of zippers
-hearing diesel trucks
-hearing car doors shut
-seeing a red truck
-hearing someone in pain or trying to struggle... I'm a nurse so this is a problem
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Posted 02 October 2011 - 06:20 PM
Lucretia, on 06 July 2008 - 11:26 AM, said:
Triggers:
watching children play softball (happens more than you think)
people touching me (only other adults, not kids)
any mention of abuse, sex, r*pe, violence
the smell of gas furnaces, especially the kind that blow air up from the floor
closed off spaces, sometimes basements
too much going on at once
men with long hair and beards
cigarettes, anything associated with them, smell, smoke, breath
watching children play softball (happens more than you think)
people touching me (only other adults, not kids)
any mention of abuse, sex, r*pe, violence
the smell of gas furnaces, especially the kind that blow air up from the floor
closed off spaces, sometimes basements
too much going on at once
men with long hair and beards
cigarettes, anything associated with them, smell, smoke, breath
sorry, but by the gas one do you mean heating vents?
#653
Posted 02 November 2011 - 01:42 PM
Adalaide_Girl - You mentioned Sex stuff on tv, magazines (like girl magazines and underwear catalouges), pop up internet screens.
This is me too, it's very odd...not only just seeing that stuff, but when my partner is looking at that stuff too.
This is me too, it's very odd...not only just seeing that stuff, but when my partner is looking at that stuff too.
#654
Posted 04 November 2011 - 03:56 PM
I can only think of one... my bf is asian and speaks mandarin ( i am asian too) with a thick accent so when I hear people speaking it, I get reminded of him and of it. I feel uncomfortable but not incapacitated. Not a panic attack, but just wanting to get away from it.
#655
Posted 06 November 2011 - 10:34 PM
I don't know if I have any that are "weird"... probably pretty typical ones, I guess.
People - men only, really - that are mad/agnry/raising their vioce...
Certain types of guys - really aggressive guys...
Being touched anywhere around my neck.
There are a lot of triggers... occasionally, I encounter a new one - something i've not dealt with before and therefor didn't realize it would be a trigger...
People - men only, really - that are mad/agnry/raising their vioce...
Certain types of guys - really aggressive guys...
Being touched anywhere around my neck.
There are a lot of triggers... occasionally, I encounter a new one - something i've not dealt with before and therefor didn't realize it would be a trigger...
#656
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Posted 10 November 2011 - 02:24 AM
being touched or grabbed from behind
certain flavors of bubble gum
a closet being open when the room is dark
anybody saying 'let's play a game'
skittles used to be one but not really much anymore
people making out
and the really weird one is a major one too
hide and seek. it takes everything in me not to panic if asked to play (i volunteer with junior highers and used to work at a daycare)
certain flavors of bubble gum
a closet being open when the room is dark
anybody saying 'let's play a game'
skittles used to be one but not really much anymore
people making out
and the really weird one is a major one too
hide and seek. it takes everything in me not to panic if asked to play (i volunteer with junior highers and used to work at a daycare)
#657
Posted 19 November 2011 - 04:53 AM
Hi everyone I am new to Pandys. I think listing my trigger will be very helpful to my healing process.
*trigger warning please read with caution*
:trigger:/>
Some of these are also from a physically/emotionally abusive relationship.
-Red dodge dakotas
-Peas
-Tuna fresh or canned
-Bunk beds
-Red heads (males only)
-Churches
-Religion
-Christian/Gospel music (it was on during)
-Theological Colleges (especially the one "he" went to)
-Graduation tassels (it was hanging on "his" wall)
-White sheets
-21st Birthday
-Having my face touched (only two people can)
-Raised hands for any reason
-Having my face grabbed (an ex thought it was a good way to help get me over having my face touched) :tear:/>
-His first name
-Certain p*rn
-Driving with the windows down
-Joel Osteen (no offense to anyone but he really bothers me for some reason) :confused:/>
-Having to repeat myself
-Fake apologies
-Crowded spaces
-His apartment
-His cologne :)barf/>
-Target
-Iniating any types of affection including hugs :bawling:/>
-Discussions of the first time having s*x (including discussions of the first kiss can make me run out of a room) :bawling:/>
-People laughing around me
:trigger:/>
Thats all I can think of at the moment I am sure there is more.
This post has been edited by nolongeryours: 19 November 2011 - 04:57 AM
#658
Posted 20 November 2011 - 08:21 PM
I don't know that I really have any ones that are too weird.
But I don't like it when people stand in front of a light so all you can see is their silhouette. I don't like rough housing (and people never respect this). I don't like overly religious people or items that remind me of someone who's strongly Christian (I don't think he was, but his wife was and so their house was filled with that stuff). Dentists, and this one I've recently figured out after years of having no clue why :/
That's all I can think of right now.
But I don't like it when people stand in front of a light so all you can see is their silhouette. I don't like rough housing (and people never respect this). I don't like overly religious people or items that remind me of someone who's strongly Christian (I don't think he was, but his wife was and so their house was filled with that stuff). Dentists, and this one I've recently figured out after years of having no clue why :/
That's all I can think of right now.
#659
Posted 26 November 2011 - 02:36 AM
Parties
Uncooked Ramen noodles
Wet Jeans
Coach/greyhound buses
Any talk of the plan b pill
Any talk of GYNs
Anyone I went to high school with
Uncooked Ramen noodles
Wet Jeans
Coach/greyhound buses
Any talk of the plan b pill
Any talk of GYNs
Anyone I went to high school with
#660
Posted 11 December 2011 - 03:46 PM
trigger....
It's been 2 days and already found some.
- Pictures of him...like my birthday pictures from last year when we were friends and were dancing together...and I had to unfriend him on facebook.
- The thought of the nightclub I was at that night...I know that I'm in a picture with him, and it's getting uploaded by the club soon :/
- Car parks...I live near two and have to walk through one to get to the bus stop.
- Alternative guys (bad, seeing as all my friends are metallers, punks and emos)...he's an emo guy.
- Long dark hair on men...I've not watched TV in two days.
- I had sex with my partner last night, and we ended up in one of the positions he did to me...it was fine when it was just penetration but then when he was done and he tried to finish me off...I felt exposed and I cried...he was so sorry. :tear:/> and it wasn't even his fault, he just didn't know. I'm going to have to tell him about what I can't do now.
- Porn...I used to like it rough and I liked watching it...now I can't.
It's been 2 days and already found some.
- Pictures of him...like my birthday pictures from last year when we were friends and were dancing together...and I had to unfriend him on facebook.
- The thought of the nightclub I was at that night...I know that I'm in a picture with him, and it's getting uploaded by the club soon :/
- Car parks...I live near two and have to walk through one to get to the bus stop.
- Alternative guys (bad, seeing as all my friends are metallers, punks and emos)...he's an emo guy.
- Long dark hair on men...I've not watched TV in two days.
- I had sex with my partner last night, and we ended up in one of the positions he did to me...it was fine when it was just penetration but then when he was done and he tried to finish me off...I felt exposed and I cried...he was so sorry. :tear:/> and it wasn't even his fault, he just didn't know. I'm going to have to tell him about what I can't do now.
- Porn...I used to like it rough and I liked watching it...now I can't.
