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Anybody else have weird triggers? Want to list them? (yes, *trigger warn*)
Posted 14 September 2011 - 11:37 AM
Posted 22 September 2011 - 05:22 PM
Touching (even hugs)
Holding my wrists
Fingernails and hands that look delicate and not "very manly" (if that made sense)
Anything that makes me think of the situation or any of these things ive listed will make me uncomfortable. And at school especially if i daydream and think about it, it get awkward for me.
Posted 26 September 2011 - 05:37 PM
the smell of dying honeysuckles - it was that time of year
anything wet on my face, espcially someone licking me - think I know why
lying down in public (face down or face up)no idea why - it doesn't fit the scenerio
people telling me that something I am upset about isn't a big deal
anything on my neck
fooling around while standing up
not feeling like I am good enough and lots of compliments (its a hard place to be)
The movie Wild at Heart - there is a hotel room scene that made me run away
The songs "Yesterday" by the Beatles, "Time after Time" by Cindy Lauper and "Jaine's Got a Gun" - I have no idea why for any of them
Fake wood paneling especially in basements - that's where I was
Driving - I have no idea why
A co-worker - he creeps me out
Young girls playing outside without an adult around - I want to warn them
I feel like there are more - lots of things make me feel small but I never know what they are
This post has been edited by jtberg2002: 26 September 2011 - 05:38 PM
Posted 02 October 2011 - 11:53 AM
-walking up stairs at night
-hearing the light switch off
-hearing people walk around on the floor below me... huge problem since I now live in an apartment
-seeing young girls with older men
-the sound of zippers
-hearing diesel trucks
-hearing car doors shut
-seeing a red truck
-hearing someone in pain or trying to struggle... I'm a nurse so this is a problem
Posted 02 October 2011 - 06:20 PM
watching children play softball (happens more than you think)
people touching me (only other adults, not kids)
any mention of abuse, sex, r*pe, violence
the smell of gas furnaces, especially the kind that blow air up from the floor
closed off spaces, sometimes basements
too much going on at once
men with long hair and beards
cigarettes, anything associated with them, smell, smoke, breath
sorry, but by the gas one do you mean heating vents?
Posted 02 November 2011 - 01:42 PM
This is me too, it's very odd...not only just seeing that stuff, but when my partner is looking at that stuff too.
Posted 04 November 2011 - 03:56 PM
Posted 06 November 2011 - 10:34 PM
People - men only, really - that are mad/agnry/raising their vioce...
Certain types of guys - really aggressive guys...
Being touched anywhere around my neck.
There are a lot of triggers... occasionally, I encounter a new one - something i've not dealt with before and therefor didn't realize it would be a trigger...
Posted 10 November 2011 - 02:24 AM
certain flavors of bubble gum
a closet being open when the room is dark
anybody saying 'let's play a game'
skittles used to be one but not really much anymore
people making out
and the really weird one is a major one too
hide and seek. it takes everything in me not to panic if asked to play (i volunteer with junior highers and used to work at a daycare)
Posted 19 November 2011 - 04:53 AM
This post has been edited by nolongeryours: 19 November 2011 - 04:57 AM
Posted 20 November 2011 - 08:21 PM
But I don't like it when people stand in front of a light so all you can see is their silhouette. I don't like rough housing (and people never respect this). I don't like overly religious people or items that remind me of someone who's strongly Christian (I don't think he was, but his wife was and so their house was filled with that stuff). Dentists, and this one I've recently figured out after years of having no clue why :/
That's all I can think of right now.
Posted 11 December 2011 - 03:46 PM
It's been 2 days and already found some.
- Pictures of him...like my birthday pictures from last year when we were friends and were dancing together...and I had to unfriend him on facebook.
- The thought of the nightclub I was at that night...I know that I'm in a picture with him, and it's getting uploaded by the club soon :/
- Car parks...I live near two and have to walk through one to get to the bus stop.
- Alternative guys (bad, seeing as all my friends are metallers, punks and emos)...he's an emo guy.
- Long dark hair on men...I've not watched TV in two days.
- I had sex with my partner last night, and we ended up in one of the positions he did to me...it was fine when it was just penetration but then when he was done and he tried to finish me off...I felt exposed and I cried...he was so sorry. :tear:/> and it wasn't even his fault, he just didn't know. I'm going to have to tell him about what I can't do now.
- Porn...I used to like it rough and I liked watching it...now I can't.