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Anybody else have weird triggers? Want to list them? (yes, *trigger warn*)
Posted 11 November 2007 - 12:58 AM
yelling at me or just around me
the smell of alcohol
rape scenes in movies or tv
physical abuse of children in movies or tv
scary movies- i can never watch nightmare on elm street
the dark of night
3 am in the morning :tear:/> it always happened at that time
too many... i cant write anymore
Posted 11 November 2007 - 05:56 AM
Having my period (not necessarily a bad thing but a reminder)
Being pinned down with arms above my head
Not being able to move my arms or legs
Being strangled or seeing someone strangled (in films maybe)
Males standing very close behind me
Anyone who looks at me funny (staring at me)
Tickling or hitting 'fights'
Talk about sex / oral sex
Hearing a male make sexual noises
Perverted male jokes
Films with rape/violent scenes
Any loud sounds or creaky noises (espec. at night)
Young innocent girls (I want to protect them / wish I could go back to their age)
Talk about Lebanon or Beirut
Being in a quiet room (I need to listen to music or have someone talking)
Anyone saying anything about men being superior to women (e.g.: men are better drivers than women, women are only good for cooking, cleaning and sex etc.)
The word “shaytan” (the devil in Arabic)
Not being able to see
Anyone who looks like him
Holidays (Christmas time, half terms and summer espec.)
Thinking I’ve let someone down / upset someone
Not being perfect
Being in “no way out” situations
People who say sorry and dont mean it
Sorry its so long, the list is endless!
And great to see lots of you sharing the same triggers as me xxxx
Posted 11 November 2007 - 04:24 PM
*scenes in movies or passages in books involving decpitation
*being touched in general
*the young girls thing is starting to trigger me as of late too, though it does not have to be young as in the innocence, but teenage girls really can get me. Especially ones who obviously have an **attitude** they remind me of me when I was 15. It makes me wonder why they have the attitiude and I wanna go up to them and tell them it's all right. I want to tell them NOT to hold it in for so long. Than it could poison them if they do...
oh gotta go but I have more
Posted 11 November 2007 - 07:25 PM
- the smell of axe phoenix
- flannel sheets
- bad scenes in movies (you know what i'm talking about)
- my breasts being touched
- my daughter
- conversations about abortion/adoption
- pregnancy tests
- really skinny guys
- arm-wrestling (but it's ok as long as nobody challenges me)
- when a guy friend is sad (once again, i hate this cuz it's not fair)
- sometimes being hugged sets me off
- if i'm having a bad day, anything sexual
Posted 20 November 2007 - 10:17 PM
Posted 22 November 2007 - 11:36 PM
*black interiors in cars* (any model/make)
*having somebody hold my hands above my head or behind my back*
*guys giving me compliments*
*pet names like swtie and hunni (only by ppl who i am not comfortable with)*
im sure there are others that im just not remembering right now
thanks for listenin
Posted 24 November 2007 - 02:46 PM
cold wet fabric
phlegm or any kind of oral secretion, spit etc
brushing my teeth
people with rotten front teeth
any man that i know is mentally ill or at least appears to be so
being in groups of mentally ill people (men or women) or some kind of support group
the words diary or journal
being locked out or locked in somewhere
being told my intentions (like you meant to do that)
having breasts, body hair esp when mentioned by a man
laying down or sleeping in front of other people
city limit signs
certain colors, like seafoam green/blue
talk of the supernatural, ghosts, magic, satan (if meant seriously - harry potter and casper are fine)
The older elvis look, sideburns and dark hair
being asked to be seductive
directional lights like spotlights
jewelry except stud earrings
people who talk in circles or convoluted
water at times
the suggestion that I have sex
laying on my stomach
Chuck Berry's My-Ding-A-Ling song
Half of those I have no idea why they set me off. Some I can guess but I dont remember.
Posted 09 December 2007 - 04:59 PM
anyone touching any part of my legs.
anyone making sudden movements in my direction.
I think those were all fairly normal.
The scent of chlorine,
thinking of manmouth university,which includes seeing the film annie,
seeing a copy of Moment (a jewish magazine)
Teenage emo hispanics.
Posted 09 December 2007 - 07:55 PM
Me too..:(/>...and i think cuz i worry abt them too..
-- really dark black men esp. with square shaped heads
-- Any conversation on swimming in general
-- Swimming pools
-- Ikoyi Club (where I took lessons)
-- One particular girl (I fear it happened to her too cuz think he gave her lessons too)
-- Light blue and/or black swimming shorts (men's)
-- For a while but not so much now...guys (incl. my male friends) holding me against them with their hands around my waist.
-- Fingers especially mens
-- Men with long fingernails...or not cut short of any length.
-- Books, Films, anythng on sexual assault of any kind especially child abuse.
-- my 'die' days
-- Conversations with friends telling me about their what they get up to in their relationships.
-- I just found this out with my ex (which makes sense as he's my first proper boyfriend)... bare hand on my stomach region...i dont know rili know why...have i suppressed some memories?? i can't take nemore id rather die than know for sure :down:/>
This post has been edited by UnsnatchableTreasure: 10 December 2007 - 06:57 AM
Posted 30 December 2007 - 12:00 AM
also hands on my stomach area
hands (only certain types)
when people say things like "it's okay, we're all girls" as an excuse for being open about sexual things
elastic straps or bands of clothes
Posted 30 December 2007 - 01:26 AM
-those yellow security jackets,
-any sex scenes on tv/ movies,
-anyone touching my throat
-holding my arms down (hugs sometimes too)
-smell of alcohol
-very tall men
-people playing with my hair
-any men close to me
-friends talking bout sex and their relationships
there are so many now that i think of it :(/>
This post has been edited by megan123: 30 December 2007 - 01:29 AM
Posted 31 December 2007 - 01:01 PM
What makes that wierd is the fact that I can sing that song myself as much as I want and never be triggered by it. But listening to it on CD gets me every single time.
I find that a little freaky, personally.