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#781 sueb0311

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Posted 17 February 2014 - 07:16 PM

Crowded places
Men with a moustache
Wooded areas
Lighters

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Posted 18 February 2014 - 08:06 AM

crowded places and men with moustaches both me too sue. my abuser had a moustache and crowded places just make me nervous so I get more upset about everything.

#783 sueb0311

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Posted 18 February 2014 - 12:02 PM

My repeat abuser and scariest abuser had a moustache. I'm with you 8888.

#784 Unhappy

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Posted 19 February 2014 - 01:12 AM

I feel like my triggers are odd a few of mine are:

• Handcuffs

• Large Power Lines

• Strong Winds

• Can’t be pinned down or my wrists touched

 

• But my most bizarre trigger are satellite dishes

I panic and completely and freak out when I get within a few yards
of one…..my fear is so intense I have ripped my husband’s shirt trying to get away.  My T thinks I have taken all my feelings that I felt a child and switched them on to an object such as a satellite dishes…the bigger the satellite dish the worse it becomes



#785 tennismom

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Posted 20 February 2014 - 03:00 PM

Unhappy:  I struggle with being pinned down and having my wrists touched too!  Just freaks me out.

 

Others:

* Father figures - males 65+ with domineering personalities

* smell of tobacco burning in a pipe

* wig pins

* having the back of my head touched -- hair cuts are tough

* pro-wrestlers

* sexually violent movies and any type of pornography

* spiked high heels



#786 Saevio

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Posted 20 February 2014 - 04:02 PM

High School letterman jackets.  If I see one I can't even breathe for a moment.

The feel of breath anywhere on my skin.



#787 lissastar22

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Posted 07 March 2014 - 10:11 PM

I know it's a bit off topic, but I straight away thought of two triggers I fixed : 1) white socks  2) tea.

 

Once I worked out the socks were a school uniform thing they stopped bothering me. Also, I realised that my tea used to be spiked with tranquillizers.The sugar was used to cover the taste, but it never fully worked. So if I tried to drink any tea I could still 'taste' medicine, years after I had been free of my abusers. I had a lot of re-living/remembering stuff that had happened and many tears were shed, but after that I was okay.

 

After they stopped being triggers I had a few weeks were I walked around every day in white socks, drinking tea and being cheerful as anything because I'd won! thumbup.gif

 

I still can't be touched when I'm upset - I get enraged by it.

 Old people sometimes freak me out - especially the eyes.

And having to go into Banks? !! very weird!



#788 lucy

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Posted 10 March 2014 - 09:52 AM

Hello lissastar22,

 

It is amazing that you have been able to process your triggers and reclaimed them for yourself - you are amazing! :)

 

I am really glad that you have posted about having to go into banks I thought that one was just a quirk of my personality! The other day I had to wait 30 minutes in the bank - needless to say I was wreck leaving there! I am thankful that having to go in to a bank is rare for me, I love internet banking :P

 

Anyways! I think that you have done amazing!

 

Lucy x



#789 free2speak

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Posted 11 March 2014 - 01:11 AM

I can't stand mustaches at all.  My abuser had one.  When I was very young, my dad adopted a mustache of his own, and I went hysterical.  Still don't like them.



#790 jmccoy9194

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Posted 11 March 2014 - 01:27 PM

Older men

 

 

A certain phrase of words  


Edited by jmccoy9194, 11 March 2014 - 03:34 PM.


#791 Woosje

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Posted 11 March 2014 - 01:56 PM

Rooms with a lot of white, especially when the sun is shining on the walls.



#792 Rodean

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Posted 11 March 2014 - 11:27 PM

Anyone walking directly behind me

a child crying

the smell of ivory soap

anything around my wrists

hats, or anything on or near my head or face

rabbits

the sound of metal clinking



#793 xsecretxsquirlx

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Posted 13 March 2014 - 12:04 PM

when i think of my triggers i sometimes think where do i start so here it goes 

body hair 

the smell of a old diesel cars

the smell of certain soaps 

the way men smell as they get older

oldspice aftershave

having weight on top of me while i lie down

being cold

overcooked veggies

stubble rubbing against my skin

porn

sex talk of any kind

seeing young girls with older men

being in crowded places

drunk men

the smell of certain drugs being burnt (the smell of this is quite close to some cleaning products its not that im still around them)

ford cars

toilet cubicles with tiles

being called by my full name

sleeping bags

feather filled duvets pillows

trailor tents

certain soaps on tv 

thankfully ive worked out ways to avoid most of my triggers and im working on the rest with the aid of my ipod helping to drown out the world.



#794 Dani_N

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Posted 14 March 2014 - 02:20 AM

Triggers, I swear I discover a new one every week but I guess that's too be expected when you can't remember much of your childhood mellow.png

  • Old men
  • Hands, especially older men's hands
  • People touching me at all
  • People behind me
  • Certain church songs
  • Being tickled - one of my biggest triggers
  • Night time in general
  • Darkness - especially having a light turned off when I'm not expecting it
  • Games (innocent ones) father's or uncles play with little girls
  • Attending my old church or going near his old house
  • Affection
  • Hearing his name
  • A certain kids camp
  • Caravans
  • Certain Christmas cookies
  • A certain kind of car - the 'mini'
  • Any sound in the night
  • Being touched on my stomach
  • Not being able to see around corners or doors
  • Church elders
  • Lately certain types of windows?

I know there's more but can't think of any more right now



#795 jessecax

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Posted 14 March 2014 - 08:24 AM

  • Being in a car with older men(even my step-dad..)
  • Being pulled onto someone's lap
  • Family functions
  • The street I used to live on..



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