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#751 Growler

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Posted 02 May 2013 - 08:23 AM

- the smell of beer
- the who song 'behind blue eyes' he said it was about him and me (god i wish i didn't have his blue eyes)
- seeing girls sitting on their father's knee
- doors being slightly open at night
- the dark (so terrified of the dark)

#752 greeneggsandcam

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Posted 04 May 2013 - 08:31 AM

- rectangular fluorescent lights
- people touching or breathing on my neck (especially the back or left side)
- cuddling in beds
- blankets being pulled over my head
- people touching my left hip
- going to my friend's house where it happened
- seeing pictures of him
- sexual assault in movies
- skylights

I guess most of them aren't that weird, I dunno, but some days it's hard to take the train because of the lights.

#753 SugarCane

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Posted 21 May 2013 - 03:33 PM

For me the weirdest ones are older movies, Cleopatra, Ben Hur and Spartacus come to mind. That and certain churches.

#754 Lyssamay1989

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Posted 10 June 2013 - 09:33 PM

A car with a loud bass driving by. Ugh, it's happening now :(

#755 sagray

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Posted 08 July 2013 - 12:19 PM

I didn't realize this kind of thing happened to others as well. Thank you all for sharing. Some of my triggers would probably be:

Someone touching my hair
Being pushed or shoved
Being cornered
Being chastised or "called down", this involves anything where someone is correcting me for something
Any time someone tries to be intimate

These are the biggest ones for me

#756 nomifan

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Posted 08 July 2013 - 02:05 PM

Having stuff on my hands (wet or sticky, mud, etc)

#757 angel.heart

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Posted 21 July 2013 - 04:30 AM

ahh noms, yes..i hate that too.
being sticky in general triggers me, and i have no clue if it's because i simply don't like being sticky, or if it's something more.

-well, my most recent abuser's house is a bad trigger. bad things have happened there :( -shudders-
-things/humans behind me
-handcuffs, yes handcuffs, and other restraint-like objects.

i can't think of any others, but i know there are more. just weird things. not sure why i can't think at the moment.

#758 MyJourney00

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Posted 24 July 2013 - 05:25 PM

I'm so glad to hear that it is not just me! Sometimes I think I am well on my way to healing, until a trigger happens... and then I realize just how much I am really affected to this day.

Some of my triggers:
- people commenting on my body (good or bad)
- any type of pressure on my neck (necklace, blanket, arm, fully zipped up jacket)
- being alone
- people dismissing me when I am trying to say something I think is important
- swiss army knives
- when my mom doesn't back me up

Sometimes I feel like I REALLY lose it when these things come up. Like I have this burst of uncontrollable anger. Is that a normal response to a trigger?

Thanks for listening.

#759 LionessCub

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Posted 24 July 2013 - 11:17 PM

people who stand too close to me
men who hug far too close/too long
trees knocking at a window at night
nights when my husband is away and I have to lock up the house for the night
red hair
seeing little girls at the mall or church or whatever
people talking about the area where I grew up
anything related to the Catholic Church
people complaining about having an illness that feels pretty insignificant compared to what survivors go through
phone calls asking for money for various charities that help people with particular medical issues (never related to survivors or mental health)
the sound of gum being chewed
baseball bats
competitive sports on the television
being confined in a small area
plastic toy animals
leather belts
anything Irish

Yikes - that is more than enough for now......

interesting exercise.

#760 Bamama

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Posted 15 September 2013 - 10:27 PM

I've got a few weird ones;
-Being hugged, touched or trapped in anyway.
-Being in a car that is shaking.
-(the 'having my hands/arms held down above my head', that gets me too).
-Reaching orgasm.
-Name calling and faul language (either it's toward me or not).
-White skinny ish looking guys flirting with me.
-Someone calling me gorgeous or something similar (I guess I've kinda gotten over this one...).
-Someone starring at me.

The first one is a big one. Last year, a classmate came up to me and tempted a hug (congratulating me), I freaked out, hit him and said 'no', explaining to him that I don't like hugs and i was sorry for hitting him. After that, people teased me about it. People tried coming up to me to give me a hug at random times. But to me, it felt like they were shooting with belts every single time they did. Once, some guys went all around me and all at the same time, hugged me from all sides. I was squeezed and they wouldn't let go. So I started crying. In the middle of school. I felt terrible for doing so. After that, I explained to the guys a little; that I don't like hugs because I was 'abused with hugging'. That's all I said though. And they left me alone.

#761 nellbell

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Posted 17 September 2013 - 07:42 PM

For me it's cigarette smoke, blood,certain places, alcohol and some types of physical contact.

#762 greygin55

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Posted 17 September 2013 - 07:49 PM

First post since joining..
--I have a hard time with lists...people talking in lists.
--repetitive noise...like gum chewing, mouth sounds, pen clicking, soda bottle caps, etc.
--getting upset
--sun warming me in the morning
--a few songs
--stagnant, still air
--air temp in a space the same temp as the air I breathe in

#763 Understanding_Me

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Posted 03 October 2013 - 08:57 PM

I have a few.

hand(s) on my throat, even jokingly
stupid popular song by Robin Thicke (wanna strangle him for making it and whoever approved it)
uncovered windows (aka no curtain/blind) or blinds/curtain open
open/cracked doors
full hand brushes on my chest
anyone violent/angry

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Posted 11 October 2013 - 11:45 PM

I can relate to a lot of these. :(

#765 greygin55

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Posted 13 October 2013 - 02:55 PM

-(the 'having my hands/arms held down above my head', that gets me too).

You helped me realize something when you typed this... it helped me connect an issue with a PET Scan as they were staging my cancer and older 'stuff' where this position would have been involved. Thank you...

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