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#736 unicorn4

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Posted 09 January 2013 - 07:57 PM

Dentists. Brushing my teeth (sometimes, not all the time), mostly because I don't like the toothpaste in my mouth...it makes me gag.

Yelling. Name calling. My husband has this really bad habit of trying to sound mean and macho to the pets when he's mad at them (usually after he's been working out) and I find that incredibly triggering.

#737 seedbecomesarose

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Posted 18 January 2013 - 12:36 AM

Okay, I just read the rules for triggering so I will add that to mine. This may trigger as some of mine are related to RA.
These are my triggers
Polo, Eternity and another cologne
"white" conditioner
white lotions
all of the houses where the abuse took place with all of the abusers
funeral homes
the color blue
the color orange
certain names
facial hair in all its forms - my ex tried them all but the worst was a full beard and the half moustache and goatee
when someone says "oral" or "anal" sex - triggers rage
seeing scantily clad people pop up on my computer when I don't want it and I don't
certain names that were called to me
the name of a certain flower
sometimes spiritual things
seeing or thinking of farm animals
men grouped together
chauvinistic men
throw up
dirty jokes
seeing pregnant women
Did I say facial hair? That's been a very big one. I didn't realize how big until lately but getting better. I particularly picked a therapist who looked a little similar to ex in order to work through my fears.
Therapist himself just because of his age (about when my ex left and the worst abuse happened and same height and facial hair and color of hair). Lot of projection going on lately.
Certain foods - bananas, zucchini, phallic shaped
There's more but that's all for now. They are weird enough to me.

#738 tootsyjlm

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Posted 18 January 2013 - 10:35 AM

Peeling potatoes!

#739 LionessCub

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Posted 22 January 2013 - 07:00 PM

birthdays :bawling:

#740 ShawnCrane

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Posted 22 January 2013 - 10:10 PM

People who stare.

#741 jlandrith

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Posted 22 January 2013 - 10:23 PM

Pregnant women. The woman who did it was pregnant. She made me fear something that should be seen as beautiful. I'm getting better with this one over time. I no longer recoil as I once did, but I will experience varying levels of anxiety in their presence. I will quickly spot and focus on a pregnant woman in any given environment (room, mass transit, etc.) before I even know that is what is happening. I guess that is some form of mental self-defense.

Edited by jlandrith, 22 January 2013 - 10:23 PM.

#742 Roaring_Gryphon

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Posted 29 January 2013 - 02:54 PM

Taking off my shoes, or being told to do so.

There, I said it.

#743 heaeliper

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Posted 02 February 2013 - 11:15 AM

some of mine:

Irish Spring Soap
Orange Juice
The Super Bowl
Memorial Day
Crowded Spaces
a 90s Hairdo

#744 roberteggleton

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Posted 02 February 2013 - 09:05 PM

I'm a survivor, psychotherapist, and author. Proceeds of my first novel are donated to prevent child abuse in West Virginia, U.S. (It was published in Leeds.) Anyway, sometimes, even if the scene doesn't have the slightest thing to do with violence, even when it is laugh-out-loud funny, I get triggered, almost like I feel guilty for having gotten rid of my shame and anger. Weird, huh?

#745 seastar

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Posted 03 February 2013 - 06:17 PM

Here are some of my triggers...I don't understand them all as my memories aren't very clear.

  • Songs from the 60s and 70s...particularly the song "Honey Honey, Sugar Sugar"
  • When my T (an older man) says my name
  • certain sexual acts that I cannot do
  • Gentle sex that involves caressing
  • Hearing certain words that pertain to being disciplined (i.e. sp-nk, nau--ty, b-d girl, etc.)
  • The tone of voice of an angry man
  • Seeing a naked female baby or toddler
  • Feeling like I am being watched
  • Kissing
  • hearing his name

I am sure there are more but these are at the top of my head. Thought I would share. Helps to read others`.

#746 purplegiraffe

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Posted 18 February 2013 - 10:11 AM

Rap music. I wasn't expecting that to be a trigger and found out the hard way that it was.

yes, for me too.
certain songs specifically, or bands.

also talk of violence and terrorism.

#747 chantel2012

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Posted 19 February 2013 - 10:21 AM

The video game Skyrim

Star Wars (or anything associated with it)

Breathing or being kissed on or around my neck (something I used to love... He ruined it for me... a**hole)

Sometimes being f**gered will REALLY trigger me

S*x in general is triggering although not as bad as it once was... It is weird, it is usually hard for me to have s*x or to "get started" but once we start it is tolerable but then at other times during the middle of it I will just FREAK out and like cry and start to shake or I will just "blank out" and go inside of myself. My response varies and I never know how I will react so it is hard for me to have it now because I never know how I will react and it is embarrassing. :cry:/>

Guys who look or sound a certain way (voice tone I mean)

Guys with a certain name.....


Domestic Violence

Mind control/abuse

I have to stop I am starting to trigger myself.... :scared:/>

Thanks for this thread by the way! ♥♥♥♥ :thumbsup:/>

Chantel ♥

Okay, well I now have more... I was r*ped again back in September of 2012 and all of the prior triggers were from December 2011 and before.

Anyway here's new triggers:

His name

The 'cabin' (where it took place)

Anything that reminds me of him (my dad is best friends with him. Still...)

The numbers 22 and 29. (They are dates.) 12/29/11 and 09/22/12...

Just, lately I have this 'feeling' of something in my head that needs to be known and I can almost sense it but it's not there. I KNOW that probably made no sense at all haha.

I don't know, there are others... I'll add more later.

Oh, belts sometimes and tickling sometimes. Just a lot of spontaneous and unpredictable things.

#748 Cherline

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Posted 06 March 2013 - 07:11 AM

I have a new one. I looked twice to the TV series Alcatraz, and both times some scenes were triggering, which caused me to have huge and horrible nightmares. Now hearing the TV presenter announce Alcatraz is enough to let me get an anxiety attack. Had one last night, and my little One was so anxious that she curled up in a corner, sobbing.
I get nightmares of prisoners of Alcatraz appearing randomly anywhere. :unsure:

And now, some kind of bald heads too.

#749 MoltenFlower

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Posted 30 April 2013 - 03:02 AM

- Long finger nails
- Dirty finger nails
- Female crying in porn
- Any sexual assault in movies
- Cheap beer in metal cans
- Any sign that I might have a UTI or yeast infection.

#750 soulconstance

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Posted 30 April 2013 - 12:56 PM

"Repetitive motion" -- not sure if it's a trigger, but it makes me want to run and scream from the room so it probably is... but if someone say, rubs my arm, by too long it starts to feel really bad.
Mazdas.... or green cars --- Green is my favorite color, but now green cars remind me of my x-husband
The phrase "I'm crazy about you".... reminds me of being assaulted the 3rd time in my teens
Laying down to bed, especially if I'm not tired --- this probably sounds weird... but more often then not, I trigger when I lay down to sleep....... beds in general can be a serious trigger
Being around children who were the age I was when I was abused.

.... I probably have a lot more to add, but that's all I can say right now.

Edited by soulconstance, 03 May 2013 - 12:20 PM.

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