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#706 BeautifullyBroken2

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Posted 05 August 2012 - 05:41 PM

The smell of beer.
The smell of cigarette smoke.
Someone touching/holding my wrists or arms.
Any sound in the night.
Being alone at night.
Being alone in the dark.

Some of these are worse than others. I can "prepare" myself to deal with the smell of beer and smoke, but if I smell it unexpectedly I automatically see his face. I can tolerate being alone at night if I stay busy until pure exhaustion where I basically pass out, but have to sleep with a light or tv on. I can't be alone in the dark without thinking he or someone is going to get me. And no matter who touches or hold my wrists it causes the worst response. It's been 12 years since I have had an encounter, but I don't think I will ever be able to handle that one.

#707 s.j.

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Posted 17 August 2012 - 06:44 AM

The sound of fabric tearing
Taking a bath

#708 Abster

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Posted 17 August 2012 - 09:09 AM

The smell of incense or that musky smell old buildings have
Hearing hymns or chritmas carols
The smell of tea
Breakfast cereal
The feel of Satin or silk
Older men in their 60's / 70's especially if they have a beard. Its a weird one this as my abuser didnt have a beard.
Washing my face
Brushing my teeth
Having my hand stroked

#709 threetimes

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Posted 18 August 2012 - 07:36 AM

I keep finding new ones. Here's what I know of right now. There are others, but not related to SA.

Mustaches. With a beard or goatee is okay. Alone is a huge trigger.

Anything touching the front of my neck.

Roy Orbison music.

Sleeping in a bed.

Anyone close to my back.

“Three days growth” facial hair.

Bladder infections.

The word “lurk”.

The word “tease”.

The word “doll” as a term of endearment.

Hair being touched.

Being in someone's house.



Dancing. Me dancing where anyone can see.

Being told I am “safe”.

The game “Twister”.

Certain food items, ie hot dogs, bananas, large pieces of fruit.

Brushing my teeth is often a trigger. Sometimes the brush. Sometimes the toothpaste.

Martina McBride's song “I'm Gonna Love You Through It”.

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#710 spade1

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Posted 24 August 2012 - 01:16 PM

-Spreading my legs
-Removing my bra
-Demeaning comments about women
-Semen or reference to it

#711 BR26

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Posted 25 August 2012 - 12:05 PM

The strangest trigger of all for me is seeing or being around anything having to do with Native American culture. This makes me feel slightly horrible because I am not a racist/prejudiced person but it happens to be a gigantic trigger for me because my abuse situation centered around reference to Red Cloud the Sioux Chief. Hence, I cannot go to pow wows, casinos, Native American stores. Seeing hawks flying in the sky is also a trigger for me stemming from reference to them as "protection" over and over. Feathers bother me as well. Axes, knives, stones, dream catchers are included.

#712 chantel2012

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Posted 25 August 2012 - 02:50 PM

The video game Skyrim

Star Wars (or anything associated with it)

Breathing or being kissed on or around my neck (something I used to love... He ruined it for me... a**hole)

Sometimes being f**gered will REALLY trigger me

S*x in general is triggering although not as bad as it once was... It is weird, it is usually hard for me to have s*x or to "get started" but once we start it is tolerable but then at other times during the middle of it I will just FREAK out and like cry and start to shake or I will just "blank out" and go inside of myself. My response varies and I never know how I will react so it is hard for me to have it now because I never know how I will react and it is embarrassing. :cry:

Guys who look or sound a certain way (voice tone I mean)

Guys with a certain name.....


Domestic Violence

Mind control/abuse

I have to stop I am starting to trigger myself.... :scared:

Thanks for this thread by the way! ♥♥♥♥ :thumbsup:

Chantel ♥

#713 wrtm1278

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Posted 27 August 2012 - 10:11 PM

Smell of beer breath. Men in swimsuits. Blankets on the couch.

#714 s.j.

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Posted 28 August 2012 - 12:23 PM

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#715 Behind.My.Eyes

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Posted 01 September 2012 - 12:14 AM

Mini-trampolines but not big ones. Unfinished basements but not finished ones..

#716 Never_Again

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Posted 12 September 2012 - 09:57 PM

Ah triggers... What an excellent idea, to exorcise our trigers

The smell of menthol cigarettes
Black cars
Arrogant men
Bald men
Borken glass, plates, etc
Pool tables
White button down shirts
People touching me
People standing or walking behind me
Anything sexual: discussions, movie scenes, people kissing infront of me. Cant stand it. Its mostly the man aspect. I hate the thought of men kissing or grabbing. It makes me sick

#717 RaeOSL

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Posted 04 October 2012 - 08:37 PM

Being at the lake alone.
If i'm in a room, doors have to be closed.
People coming into the bathroom while i'm in the shower.
Big Red Gum.
Chocolate syrup.
Back massages.
My feet being touched.
My husband touching my breast.
Older men.
Two door cars.
UV Vodka.
Curtains on windows being open come evening.
Unlocked doors.

#718 burkeev

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Posted 06 October 2012 - 05:46 PM

Rap music. I wasn't expecting that to be a trigger and found out the hard way that it was.

#719 HopeRedefined

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Posted 13 October 2012 - 07:53 PM

*Blue eyed men
*Tall men (anyone over 5'10" I avoid unless it's work related)
*Men I don't know well invading my space
*Being called sexy or being complimented on my body
*Being intimate (gives me nausea)
*When people don't believe something I've said (makes me want to burst into tears)
*Someone grabbing my arm as I'm trying to walk away
*Being hugged from behind
*Being silenced by someone else's hand over my mouth
*Having my wrists held down
*People who come near me when I'm asleep (I wake up screaming)
*Men who touch me inappropriately at a club
*People staring at me
*Having anyone standing over me when I'm laying on my back
*Being kissed unexpectedly
*Extroverted men
*Men who are muscular
*Back massages
*When my weight drops below a size 2 (too much attention)
*Hearing heavy breathing
*New Years Eve
*Hearing someone describe someone else as weak

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Posted 10 November 2012 - 10:14 PM

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