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#691 blackbird86

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Posted 22 June 2012 - 07:07 AM

I don't know if these are triggers, per se, but I hate them and they make me extremely uncomfortable:

-- terms of endearment (especially from men)
-- hearing/reading anything about CSA (Sandusky trial, ugh)
-- tickling (double ugh)
-- anyone touching my ears (especially men)
-- anyone pinching/squeezing the fat on my belly or arms (especially men)

Edited by blackbird86, 22 June 2012 - 07:39 AM.

#692 Liz

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Posted 23 June 2012 - 12:41 PM

the smell of bleach
the smell of old spice or brut
people sneaking up behind me
twilight- when the sun goes down and it gets darker
old men with big belly

#693 flutefairy

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Posted 23 June 2012 - 11:15 PM

any sexual talk...or slang.....

r*pe scenes.....or s*x scenes.....

the words: "retarded, abnormal, freak"

people telling me that im lying. even if its about something stupid.

oh goodness i could be here for a week if i write anymore

adding to myself.

family guy.
being grabbed from behind.

fat men. (most were fat) :(


someone grabbing my wrist

any sexual talk at all

human sexuality and being a woman

(im getting worse :tear:

wedgies. i dont know why...

a melissa etheridge song......dont remember which. any songs that played during cookouts in the 90s.

#694 earthangel39

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Posted 26 June 2012 - 09:45 PM

Mine are:
being held down even whrn playing around
any music by journey
Bright dance rave lights
Techno music
being drunk (brings back the feeling of being drugged)
smell of pine cleaner
being touched without my permission
anything sexual.

Its been 5 years and I'm still messed up

#695 earthangel39

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Posted 26 June 2012 - 09:52 PM

Last week... in a dentist's chair, resulting in a full blown panic attack and thinking that I was crazy.

Were you given sedation of any kind. It happened to me in a dentist chair too. Weird huh?

#696 romany

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Posted 26 June 2012 - 10:01 PM

They're not really triggers as much, but still make me feel blecky:

-Bright colored decorating hearts, heart shaped boxes of chocolate, really anything valentines day related.
-Having my wrists held, or having my arms held above my head
-Pinching or specific special attention to my nipples especially
-Having to walk through slush or any kind of wet snow
-Any kind of rape or abuse in the media. I almost vomited while watching The Girl With the Dragon Tattoo.

#697 ~Lily

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Posted 26 June 2012 - 10:25 PM

anyone stroking, touching or playing with my hair

#698 flutefairy

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Posted 28 June 2012 - 11:36 AM

anyone stroking, touching or playing with my hair

that kind of bothers me too. i know it is kind of a natural thing to do if it is consentual.

honestly i dont know why it triggers me. just makes me feel small and guilty for complaining about hurts i guess....

#699 NicPY82

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Posted 05 July 2012 - 08:21 PM

I have a lot I'm realizing. And others are also appearing. Just all seem so strange because some are just words.

*Having my arms and hands restrained in any way. (docs tried this recently and I freaked out)

*Seatbelts, I feel trapped

*closed spaces in cars. (the 4rth of July, I rode to the fireworks with family member and they wanted to put me in the middel but I started panicking)

*R word or jokes..someone on twitter did this recently and I went off

*blaming abuse victims in any way

*the span*** word (can't stand to even hear a parent say it and I will go off)

* belts or hearing them come undone

* I now hate the word panties so bad

* loud cars

* being alone in the dark at times

* Being in a crowd

* men staring at me even if it is innocent

* loud noises

* yelling, even if it isn't yelling directed at me

* anger even if it's not directed at me (feel bad it seems my bf can't be in a bad mood or I get scared and upset)

* pain..even if it's some other kind of pain not dealing with what happened... makes me remeber the physical pain

* blood

*needles (I always had a phobia of needles but now it's even worse)

* lying on my stomach makes me freak out

* storms

* Now hands and that's the weirdest one

* some sex talk

I have sooo many I may add more later...I am still figuring out what some of mine are.

Edited by NicPY82, 05 July 2012 - 08:45 PM.

#700 happyydays

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Posted 10 July 2012 - 04:11 AM

I've been reading all these replies for almost half an hour... You have all have given me strength.
I never truly admitted to myself that I have 'triggers'.. but hopefully compiling a list and writing it down will help me be more aware of my thoughts/actions.

Spread legs
Open bedroom doors
Alcohol-laced breath
Paranoia about my parents having sex (a weird, new one that only started a few months ago)
Surprising physical contact (ie. a hug from behind)
Cigarette smoke
When a male walks around in only underwear (especially my father or brother)
Being alone at night
Beds, especially my bed and bunk-beds.

And in general, any male that has passed, or is currently in, puberty makes me uncomfortable.. I need to get past that one for sure :(

Edited by happyydays, 10 July 2012 - 04:11 AM.

#701 LBinON

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Posted 13 July 2012 - 02:02 AM

  • french blue sheets particularly with dark geometric patterns
  • beards (stubble is fine just not full beards and only if the beard touches me)
  • hiking boots with red laces
  • purple therma-rests
  • chrome barber style massagers

I have some others but these are my unusual ones

oh and it turns out ambulances with lights and sirens driving past me full tilt

Edited by LBinON, 19 July 2012 - 09:14 AM.

#702 relovelace

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Posted 18 July 2012 - 08:35 PM

Drunk men (I'm terrified to go out anymore)


A certain cologne

Laying down with my arms above my head

Dirty songs about sex

Guys talking about sex

I probably have more but this is the first time I've thought about it. Good idea!

Edited by relovelace, 18 July 2012 - 08:42 PM.

#703 WhoThought

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Posted 20 July 2012 - 12:59 AM

Mine are pretty specific:

- If I worry my underwear is peaking out of my pants
- Burgundy pickup trucks
- Sleeves of clear plastic cups
- Watching people lock doors from the inside (not with a key)
- Other people mentioning that they need to take a shower
- People spitting on things (not just spitting on the ground)
- Talk about the morning after pill
- People eating eggs at night

#704 flowergirl51

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Posted 21 July 2012 - 09:15 AM

Belts. Haven't been able to speak the word in 55 yrs.

#705 shatteredAli

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Posted 02 August 2012 - 10:36 PM

I am a 7 year survivor of rape. It was a stranger rape...3 men broke into the house.

For me...my triggers I don't think are weird but I still have flashes and nightmares. I just started dating again this year. Only one relationship has been past two weeks. My boyfriend now...he is amazing. So loving but I met him online. I am scared to meet him. I don't know how to tell him that but even him looking at me freaks me out. I am so scared.

*being touched especially by men
*talking about sex
*sexual scenes in movies
*people following me

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