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#646 unicorn4

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Posted 20 November 2011 - 08:21 PM

I don't know that I really have any ones that are too weird.

But I don't like it when people stand in front of a light so all you can see is their silhouette. I don't like rough housing (and people never respect this). I don't like overly religious people or items that remind me of someone who's strongly Christian (I don't think he was, but his wife was and so their house was filled with that stuff). Dentists, and this one I've recently figured out after years of having no clue why :/

That's all I can think of right now.

#647 mrw13

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Posted 26 November 2011 - 02:36 AM

Parties
Uncooked Ramen noodles
Wet Jeans
Coach/greyhound buses
Any talk of the plan b pill
Any talk of GYNs
Anyone I went to high school with

#648 punkbabeh

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Posted 11 December 2011 - 03:46 PM

trigger....

It's been 2 days and already found some.

- Pictures of him...like my birthday pictures from last year when we were friends and were dancing together...and I had to unfriend him on facebook.
- The thought of the nightclub I was at that night...I know that I'm in a picture with him, and it's getting uploaded by the club soon :/
- Car parks...I live near two and have to walk through one to get to the bus stop.
- Alternative guys (bad, seeing as all my friends are metallers, punks and emos)...he's an emo guy.
- Long dark hair on men...I've not watched TV in two days.
- I had sex with my partner last night, and we ended up in one of the positions he did to me...it was fine when it was just penetration but then when he was done and he tried to finish me off...I felt exposed and I cried...he was so sorry. :tear: and it wasn't even his fault, he just didn't know. I'm going to have to tell him about what I can't do now.
- Porn...I used to like it rough and I liked watching it...now I can't.

#649 Singmetosleep

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Posted 13 January 2012 - 11:58 AM

Man on man got to love those triggers.
My biggest ones are seeing men that look like my attacker
Anyone not listening when I say no or please don't (in a romantic/sexual situation)
Anyone who might grab my wrists or arms, basically not letting me up
Crowds
People I don't know drinking around me
Certain songs
Oregon

I am getting so much better though, I just hope one day it isn't as crippling as it has been
Love to all

#650 sailingsal

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Posted 14 January 2012 - 08:26 AM

My triggers are vicks (used for colds), silk scarfs and certain music.

#651 scrawf

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Posted 21 January 2012 - 11:06 AM

the sound of vibrating phones, loud (sudden) noises, certain songs, the movie "blue valentine", talk/scenes of sex or anything intimate, not being able to move freely, being touched by people i don't know, etc

#652 Katy

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Posted 21 January 2012 - 11:16 AM

When someone says "Ssssshhhhh" (as in "be quiet").

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Posted 23 January 2012 - 12:40 AM

*having nothing in my mind going on
*being photographed or filmed (trying to get over it recently)
*law and order svu
*really young kids
*certain smells
*really bad hyperhidrosis moments where i cant do anything
*people having sex in front of me and couples with good relationships
*anything reminding me how empty i am
*when someone doesn't understand what i'm saying
*really innocent girls even ones my own age
*some older women

all i can think of right now.
i find learning about photography, sex etc makes me to look at things and just focus on technical aspects and distracts me from what happend, i dont talk about them though.
thanks for starting this

#654 *Belle*

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Posted 31 January 2012 - 09:34 AM

My Trigger,

Someone being nice to me, I feel like i am being set up, ready to be humiliated again.
This deosnt have to be in person, sometimes it happens when Im chatting online and a bloke gets too friendly.

Stupid huh..?!

#655 scrawf

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Posted 31 January 2012 - 10:16 AM

My Trigger,

Someone being nice to me, I feel like i am being set up, ready to be humiliated again.
This deosnt have to be in person, sometimes it happens when Im chatting online and a bloke gets too friendly.

Stupid huh..?!


this makes me nervous too

#656 Andalucia

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Posted 31 January 2012 - 10:40 AM

men with beards
crowds, esp. hostile or drunk crowds
people who act as though they don't believe me or care what I'm saying
people who are judgmental about the way women dress or their loose morals

#657 tweb

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Posted 31 January 2012 - 12:05 PM

yes, it sounds racist, but I'm working with it with my T

indian dudes, esp with mustaches. I have to work with one, reminds me of my attacker. It almost makes work too much at times.

white suv, his car

the street where his business is located

at times, not often, but sometimes, my own body, due to body memories, or just memories

news stories on s.a.

#658 OpheliaMT

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Posted 01 February 2012 - 02:12 PM

I had been doing pretty well with triggers, but some new ones have reared their heads lately. :-/ My usual ones though are...

- Certain scents of aftershaves / colognes.
- Being held down ( Being held down by my arms / wrists is especially triggering... ).
- Being belittled and ridiculed.

The worse one at the moment though has to be my ridiculous reaction to ejaculate... I know it's just cells... things floating in plastic bags almost if you will... but... it freaks me out too much at times to the point that I feel incredibly nauseated... I've tried working on it myself, but I've not told my boyfriend about it yet... I don't want to offend him or upset him. So... this is my next trigger to over come. Just not sure yet how to go about it!

#659 watchemilysing

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Posted 03 February 2012 - 06:34 PM

Glasses. My uncle wore this very particular style of glasses. I remember referring to them as "creepy glasses". They still haunt me.
Mineral water. Their water had a lot of calcium in it. I remember him bathing me in it a lot...it has a certain smell, believe it or not.
Red Caravan's.
Shaved pubic hair.
Being touched
Red walls
The color red in general
Closets
Bathrooms
Ripped towels
Uniforms


There's just so many. I could list them forever.

#660 future_truth

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Posted 05 February 2012 - 01:34 PM

Great idea for a post!!!

My two worst triggers are:

When I'm in a moving car and I can't see where it's going, or only being able to see the tops of street lights and trees go past.

And the sound a van's sliding side door makes when closing.


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