go to your control panel and then 'edit your profile'. There is an option that offers you to enter the url of a picture. You need to have one uploaded to some server space and then you just type its url into that box. If you don't have any uploaded, feel free to email it to email one to me and i'll do it for you.
I am not an expert, but i'd say feel free to use a goldfish
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