Guest Posted July 7, 2001 Share Posted July 7, 2001 *T* for those words. I see so many people questioning Do I Deserve to Be Here? Let's settle this. If someone has sexually assaulted you, you deserve to be here. If it was attempted rape, you deserve to be here. If it wasn't rape, if it was unwanted and inappropriate touching, you deserve to be here. If you are a man who has been sexually assaulted, you deserve to be here. If it happened ten or twenty or thirty years ago, you deserve to be here. If it was incest, you deserve to be here. If you barely remember it, you deserve to be here. If you were sexually harrassed, you deserve to be here. If you are someone who supports, you deserve to be here. That's all there is to it. I've seen a few people who have the feelings that their rape was not a particularly "bad rape". My rape was not a particularly violent rape I was only concious of being raped for about one second and when I realized I was being raped, my boyfriend handed my rapists ass to him. My rapist was the only one who got hurt. It didn't make any difference to me. I had still been raped. It still hurt on the inside. I deserve to be here. The degree of the rape, abuse, assault doesn't matter. We feel many of the same feelings. And we all deserve to be here and to help and to be helped. I think that everyone will agree with me, so I'll get off my soap box now. Thanks for reading. Mistral Mistral is now Jes Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted July 7, 2001 Share Posted July 7, 2001 Thankyou Mistral God, but you can write! love Rachel xx Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted July 7, 2001 Share Posted July 7, 2001 Mistral, Good job, dear. Take care, Shaina Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted July 8, 2001 Share Posted July 8, 2001 Good post - amd a very reassuring one too. Guess we are all a little paranoid - at least I know I am - I actaully got banned from one place cos I complained about someone who said that they "found it difficult to belive that I hadn't said anything". Couldn't go through something like that again so I wanted to check before I started to talk about stuff. Anyway - glad to have found this place - Kiera Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Fae Poetress Posted July 8, 2001 Share Posted July 8, 2001 thank you, i wasn't certain if i deserved to be here, i mean i barely remember it, it was so long ago, and wasn't sure if it was quite rape, but thank you again, your words are so reassuring Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest crying angel Posted July 16, 2001 Share Posted July 16, 2001 Mistral This is so cool! I just wanted to add another post to push this to the top again - hope that's ok. Take care guys *safe hugs* Crying Angel Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted July 16, 2001 Share Posted July 16, 2001 Mistral, You always write so good!! Thank you for your words! (((safe hugz))) Juli Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted July 18, 2001 Share Posted July 18, 2001 Mistral, WELL PUT. YOU HAVE MADE A LOT OF PEOPLE MUCH MORE COMFORTABLE BY SPELLING IT OUT SO PLAIN. THANK YOU. Mother Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Monika Posted July 18, 2001 Share Posted July 18, 2001 Well said! ((applause)) And..since this came up in a different post, I thought I'd add another post (as someone else did a while back) to push it back up to the top ((Safe hugs to all)) Rain Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted July 18, 2001 Share Posted July 18, 2001 This is a very important thread that all survivors and supporters here need to read, in my opinion. Thank you, Mistral. (((safe hugs))) Natasha Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted July 18, 2001 Share Posted July 18, 2001 Couldn't agree more...with everyone!! =) ~lostsoul Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted August 19, 2001 Share Posted August 19, 2001 thanks *snifles* I'm so glad that you care enough to post this... thanks again Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Moon Sprite Posted August 19, 2001 Share Posted August 19, 2001 Oh, thank you... that's great to hear, thanx for making me feel like I belong, and like I'm wanted. Right now, that's the greatest feeling in the world! Stay safe, stay strong- Moon Sprite Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted August 19, 2001 Share Posted August 19, 2001 Hey, always great to read something like this It shows the true love of all the people here, and that's just a great thing. We all are family here, that's what it feels like, real family! I WOULDN'T HAVE IT ANY OTHER WAY! ------ Jen Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted November 28, 2001 Share Posted November 28, 2001 As I registered, I wondered if I truly deserved to be here...thank you for showing us what it is to have a right to be somewhere. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted December 10, 2001 Share Posted December 10, 2001 Thanks so much for your post. We're all friends here and we have a right to share our experiences and benefit from them! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted December 12, 2001 Share Posted December 12, 2001 Mistral, Thank you. I need to hear that so badly. Donna Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mingo Posted December 23, 2001 Share Posted December 23, 2001 thank you for this post, it was one of the ones tht was instrumental to my feeling comfortable enough to register. I read so much here and the other posts that I identified with, but it happened so long ago and I burried so much of it that sometimes all I feel is extreme uncomfortableness and sometimes I can't even identify what caused it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted January 1, 2002 Share Posted January 1, 2002 Good post. Makes me feel a little better about being here, ty. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Laney Posted January 17, 2002 Share Posted January 17, 2002 boosting for new friends =) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Em Posted June 1, 2002 Share Posted June 1, 2002 boosting again for new friends. You are ALL welcome here. Emma Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mouseisa Posted June 3, 2002 Share Posted June 3, 2002 Mistral (Jes), Thank you for the post... I've been here for almost a month and I'm finally, just in the last few days, beginning to feel ok about being here (nothing anyone did or anything, just my own insecurities). Your post and trying out being in a chat room (two times now ) have helped me to feel better and reading and relating so much to what people say here at Pandy's have made me see I do belong here. Thanks again... Mouseisa Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted June 26, 2002 Share Posted June 26, 2002 you know, i really do not know the internet very well, so please forgive me if i screw this up. i just registered on this site moments ago. i have read some of these posts and just need to know if typing out your stories have helped you? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted July 22, 2002 Share Posted July 22, 2002 Thank you so much for posting this, Mistral. It was only a few days ago that I found this board. I was undecided as to whether or not I should post, but after seeing this post of yours I made up my mind. Right now I am starting to deal with what happened to me. I do not want to accept what happened, nor do I want to deal with how it's affected me. There is a part of me that thinks that I am not justified in feeling how I do and that what happened should not affect me as much as it does because, in relation to what others have experienced it seems like almost nothing. The logical, thinking part of me knows that I need to accept what happened, accept and believe that it's okay for me to be as hurt as I am over this, and to accept that I have to deal with what happened. The rest of me is fighting the logical part of me and does not want to listen. I am 19 years old and I have a history of depression, and am currently depressed and on medication. At this point I don't even have all of my feelings and thoughts sorted out. I'm confused, scared, and hurt (emotionally). As far as support goes, I have a wonderful boyfriend who is very encouraging and supportive and willing to do anything I ask of him. He has and is encouraging to deal with this, yet is not pushing me to do so. He realizes and understands that I may not be ready to take certain steps yet. I also have a few other very close friends who are supportive and encouraging and willing to do anything they can for me, and many other good friends as well. My parents know what happened, but they don't know much more than that. I don't really discuss this with them so they don't talk about it. Thank you again, Mistral, for your post. Pamela aka 'Lizard' Quote: from mistral on 4:09 pm on July 7, 2001 *T* for those words. I see so many people questioning Do I Deserve to Be Here? Let's settle this. If it wasn't rape, if it was unwanted and inappropriate touching, you deserve to be here. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Yeowly Posted August 8, 2002 Share Posted August 8, 2002 Thank you for the awesome post- I think you are right though- I think all of us question our degree of assault. It's one of those things that like the questions "did I fight hard enough?" or "why didn't I fight" or "why didn't I go to the police?" etc. I get so sick of questioning myself= but still I continue to do it. This is great affirmation that we are all important, our experiences do matter, and that we are ALL valuable- thank you!! Kelly Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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