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Adding friends - etiquette Not sure if there's a right way of doing this

#1 User is offline   JeremyM 

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Posted 28 March 2011 - 11:07 PM

This might sound like a stupid question, but is there a particular etiquette when it comes to adding friends to your profile? I mean do you just go ahead and push the 'add' button or do you ask first.....? I don't want to come across as pushy by just adding, but then don't want to ask in case the answer's no. I hate being rejected!!!

#2 User is offline   Susan 

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Posted 29 March 2011 - 09:42 AM

Hi Jeremy,

You're very nice to ask about this! You won't come across as pushy at all. Just push add. :)/>
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Take care,
Susan

#3 User is offline   MelK 

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Posted 31 March 2011 - 05:23 PM

To add to what Susan said, I think people can choose a setting not to have friends automatically added if they don't want that. Instead, they can see who's asking and then accept or not, like Facebook.

I don't think many people use the setting, and I think it's unlikely anyone would decline your request, Jeremy, but if they did I'm sure it would be for reasons that meant they would decline lots of requests rather than anything personal to you!

I really like it if someone adds me as a friend, I think most people would be pleased. I think go ahead and add, you might make someone's day.

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