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My husband responded this way ~ Im almost certain it was a "fear" response as he really does not like to feel as though he can not control an outcome from a potentially dangerous situation where I could get hurt~ was that he feels I should become more "calloused" to such remarks & behaviours, rise above them, dont let them get to me.Even though such behaviour freezes me to the core & freaks the hell out of me.He knows that as he has seen the flashbacks & been through the nightmares.
I dont think that you can BE a survivor & become calloused.I dont think that no matter how far you are into healing that if someone came at you, you couldnt "rise above" it to the point where it wouldnt matter.
Just thoughts...Im sure that there will be more to this as I move into the new position..