Two weeks...and the nightmares continue
I was on pins and needles today because the rapist was scheduled for his video interview yesterday with the two detectives. They said he was looking forward to telling his side of the story (what side of the story??????). The owner of the Spa is an attorney so they shut down talking and cooperating so I was so happy that the suspect would submit to DNA which would seal the deal and we could get the DA to file the charges and move on. Then he didn't show. The detective called. The suspect got an attorney and "would not be making any statement, would not agree to DNA, and was no longer cooperating with law enforcement."
Now we await the evidence from the rape exam and the crime lab as they confiscated all of the Spa equipment they could. The Detective says we now require a judge to sign a search warrant, ordering the suspect to submit a DNA sample. From the photos from the night of the crime, the detective thinks an arrest will be imminent. I hope so. This is just one more nightmare. Truly, I worry more right now for my husband than for me. He faces terminal cancer and this has taken a toll on him that we can't afford. He worries so much about me and the injustice of it all is enough to push him over the edge.
So for the weekend, I've declared that we will escape. It is my husband's birthday. I have planned a surprise getaway at a local hotel. Dinner, time together, talking about ANYTHING but rape. Honestly, sexual relations left our life years ago with the cancer damage, but intimacy is so much more than sex. So I want a weekend of just holding his hands, feeling his arms around me, going for small walks, sharing a glass of wine, and treasuring the time we have together. The rapist stole alot from me in just 28 minutes. I feel he reached in and stole my heart and soul, but I will NOT let him steal one more minute of the precious time I have left from with my husband. He doesn't get that. That's ours. Ours to treasure. Time he can't take from us...and true, devoted love of 30 years that such an evil man will never know in his lifetime.
The rape changed me forever. It has taken so much. Now I'm fighting to hold on to what is mine....and what is mine is my incredible, supportive, loving husband and best friend. And this weekend, is just for him.