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Anybody else have weird triggers? Want to list them? (yes, *trigger warn*)
#738
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Posted 01 September 2012 - 12:14 AM
Mini-trampolines but not big ones. Unfinished basements but not finished ones..
#739
Posted 12 September 2012 - 09:57 PM
Ah triggers... What an excellent idea, to exorcise our trigers
The smell of menthol cigarettes
Black cars
Arrogant men
Bald men
...men
Borken glass, plates, etc
Pool tables
White button down shirts
People touching me
People standing or walking behind me
Anything sexual: discussions, movie scenes, people kissing infront of me. Cant stand it. Its mostly the man aspect. I hate the thought of men kissing or grabbing. It makes me sick
The smell of menthol cigarettes
Black cars
Arrogant men
Bald men
...men
Borken glass, plates, etc
Pool tables
White button down shirts
People touching me
People standing or walking behind me
Anything sexual: discussions, movie scenes, people kissing infront of me. Cant stand it. Its mostly the man aspect. I hate the thought of men kissing or grabbing. It makes me sick
#740
Posted 04 October 2012 - 08:37 PM
Being at the lake alone.
Tahoes
If i'm in a room, doors have to be closed.
People coming into the bathroom while i'm in the shower.
Big Red Gum.
Chocolate syrup.
Back massages.
My feet being touched.
My husband touching my breast.
Athority.
Older men.
Two door cars.
UV Vodka.
Curtains on windows being open come evening.
Unlocked doors.
Skirts.
Tahoes
If i'm in a room, doors have to be closed.
People coming into the bathroom while i'm in the shower.
Big Red Gum.
Chocolate syrup.
Back massages.
My feet being touched.
My husband touching my breast.
Athority.
Older men.
Two door cars.
UV Vodka.
Curtains on windows being open come evening.
Unlocked doors.
Skirts.
#741
Posted 06 October 2012 - 05:46 PM
Rap music. I wasn't expecting that to be a trigger and found out the hard way that it was.
#742
Posted 13 October 2012 - 07:53 PM
*Blue eyed men
*Tall men (anyone over 5'10" I avoid unless it's work related)
*Men I don't know well invading my space
*Being called sexy or being complimented on my body
*Being intimate (gives me nausea)
*When people don't believe something I've said (makes me want to burst into tears)
*Someone grabbing my arm as I'm trying to walk away
*Being hugged from behind
*Being silenced by someone else's hand over my mouth
*Having my wrists held down
*People who come near me when I'm asleep (I wake up screaming)
*Men who touch me inappropriately at a club
*People staring at me
*Having anyone standing over me when I'm laying on my back
*Being kissed unexpectedly
*Extroverted men
*Men who are muscular
*Back massages
*When my weight drops below a size 2 (too much attention)
*Hearing heavy breathing
*New Years Eve
*Hearing someone describe someone else as weak
*Tall men (anyone over 5'10" I avoid unless it's work related)
*Men I don't know well invading my space
*Being called sexy or being complimented on my body
*Being intimate (gives me nausea)
*When people don't believe something I've said (makes me want to burst into tears)
*Someone grabbing my arm as I'm trying to walk away
*Being hugged from behind
*Being silenced by someone else's hand over my mouth
*Having my wrists held down
*People who come near me when I'm asleep (I wake up screaming)
*Men who touch me inappropriately at a club
*People staring at me
*Having anyone standing over me when I'm laying on my back
*Being kissed unexpectedly
*Extroverted men
*Men who are muscular
*Back massages
*When my weight drops below a size 2 (too much attention)
*Hearing heavy breathing
*New Years Eve
*Hearing someone describe someone else as weak
#743
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Posted 10 November 2012 - 10:14 PM
gold charm bracelets
#744
Posted 13 November 2012 - 02:07 PM
webcams, any phone conversations, anyone talking about sex/intimacy, being called 'sexy', car back seats :(/>
#745
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Posted 16 November 2012 - 07:19 AM
Some of these hardly seem "weird" to me, but really I guess everything seems weird from close up from the perspective of the people sharing because they know they otherwise wouldnt have had a reaction to those things.
Here mine, thankfully they are fairly benign and perhaps even quirky.
Walking or standing on a "hollow" feeling surface bothers me, but mainly if its a metallic one, like standing on an overturned bucket or standing on the roof of a car.
Also, bare feet in general irks me a lot, and seeing or thinking about my own feet when not wearing shoes and socks makes me feel guilty or unclean.
Here mine, thankfully they are fairly benign and perhaps even quirky.
Walking or standing on a "hollow" feeling surface bothers me, but mainly if its a metallic one, like standing on an overturned bucket or standing on the roof of a car.
Also, bare feet in general irks me a lot, and seeing or thinking about my own feet when not wearing shoes and socks makes me feel guilty or unclean.
This post has been edited by Roaring_Gryphon: 16 November 2012 - 07:59 AM
#746
Posted 27 November 2012 - 07:45 AM
Sleeping with the windows open
Listening to music while trying to go to sleep
Listening to music while trying to go to sleep
#747
Posted 27 November 2012 - 11:26 PM
This thread is a great idea. Just so happened this weekend two things majorly triggered me. Belts and tv/movies that have r*pe or AS in them
others:
Bars/clubs
Being alone in a house at night
alcohol
Bathtubs..i know its weird
Loud noises/startling noises
Yelling
Barbies..sometimes
People touching me
Cold/hard surfaces especially against face
knives
ropes
Being held down
Certain words, especially abuse, victim, SA, and r*pe
Sleeping
Thats all for now
others:
Bars/clubs
Being alone in a house at night
alcohol
Bathtubs..i know its weird
Loud noises/startling noises
Yelling
Barbies..sometimes
People touching me
Cold/hard surfaces especially against face
knives
ropes
Being held down
Certain words, especially abuse, victim, SA, and r*pe
Sleeping
Thats all for now
#748
- spinning between constellations and dreams
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Posted 27 November 2012 - 11:30 PM
unfortunately i have to add more
the guitar ( a bit.)
veggie tales
religious drawings.
the guitar ( a bit.)
veggie tales
religious drawings.
#749
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Posted 30 November 2012 - 06:44 AM
Boys shouting/fighting.
The indoor smell of some rooms.
Ballet music.
Quince bushes.
Empty buildings with wooden floors like community halls etc.
Facial hair esp moustaches.
Motorbikes.
Cold baths.
Intimacy.
Kissing.
Watching people kiss.
Being touched unexpectedly (I even react when my kids do it, which I then feel horrible about).
Having my nipples touched.
Or sometimes, just being touched in any way.
Some fabrics (some cos of texture, some cos of pattern - I am esp not good with white material with blue flowers on it).
Some types of sunglasses.
People being too close to me.
Being locked in anywhere.
Being locked in a car is twice as bad.
Sleeping with someone else near me.
Someone standing behind me.
People watching me.
Not being able to see the exit, or not being able to see a clear path to it.
White rum.
Peach air freshener.
There are also some streets/buildings that I can't even walk past.
And probably too many sexually-linked ones to list here....
The indoor smell of some rooms.
Ballet music.
Quince bushes.
Empty buildings with wooden floors like community halls etc.
Facial hair esp moustaches.
Motorbikes.
Cold baths.
Intimacy.
Kissing.
Watching people kiss.
Being touched unexpectedly (I even react when my kids do it, which I then feel horrible about).
Having my nipples touched.
Or sometimes, just being touched in any way.
Some fabrics (some cos of texture, some cos of pattern - I am esp not good with white material with blue flowers on it).
Some types of sunglasses.
People being too close to me.
Being locked in anywhere.
Being locked in a car is twice as bad.
Sleeping with someone else near me.
Someone standing behind me.
People watching me.
Not being able to see the exit, or not being able to see a clear path to it.
White rum.
Peach air freshener.
There are also some streets/buildings that I can't even walk past.
And probably too many sexually-linked ones to list here....
This post has been edited by Wil: 11 December 2012 - 03:09 AM
#750
Posted 01 December 2012 - 03:59 PM
i have so many triggers; these are the worst:
-not being able to breathe when i'm sick with a cold or flu
-being held down
-the sound of heavy breathing
-the sound of loud heavy coughing
-cigars, cigar smoke
-old white farmhouses, old red barns - wooden floors, hay bales, corn fields, just a big mess of farm triggers..
-snakes
-bathrooms
-old men with white hair
-people standing behind me
-feeling trapped in rooms or cars or crowds
-screaming or violent anger
-smell of beer and weed smoke
-Christmas
-Valentine's Day
-my birthday (the day after Valentine's Day)
-sexual related stuff
-not being able to breathe when i'm sick with a cold or flu
-being held down
-the sound of heavy breathing
-the sound of loud heavy coughing
-cigars, cigar smoke
-old white farmhouses, old red barns - wooden floors, hay bales, corn fields, just a big mess of farm triggers..
-snakes
-bathrooms
-old men with white hair
-people standing behind me
-feeling trapped in rooms or cars or crowds
-screaming or violent anger
-smell of beer and weed smoke
-Christmas
-Valentine's Day
-my birthday (the day after Valentine's Day)
-sexual related stuff
