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Top 10 Stupidest Comments
Posted 30 September 2012 - 04:19 PM
"Can't you just forget about it, and think about other things except this all the time"
"I bet you'd love to see him again wouldn't you?"
This was said after being asked if I had seen the guy who hurt me since it happened.
These were all also said by my current boyfriend who knows what has happened to me. The last one hurting the most.
Some people really have no idea :/
Posted 06 October 2012 - 05:49 PM
Thank you for that. I have never understood how people think that knowing how much worse the world can get, is supposed to make anyone feel better.
The stupidest comment I got was from my mom. I sent her a text message saying that it was all going to be okay and this wasn't the end of the world. Her reply: "Well that's easy for you to say." As if this wasn't about me at all.
Posted 13 October 2012 - 08:09 PM
"That would have never happened to me, I would have fought." -"Friends" (I did.)
"Are you sure it was rape and not just bad sex?" (From the police officer)
"It's your own fault for going to that party in the first place." (From my parents)
"Why did you let yourself be alone with him?"
"Are you sure it really happened?"
"Losing your virginity is overrated."
"You're a beautiful girl, you'll be just fine."
I was trapped in a room with my r*pist at a party. When my friend realized that something was wrong and that I wouldn't just randomly hook up with someone, she ran upstairs to try and get to me. His two friends chased her down, held her back and told her to let it happen. The direct quote was "he needs this."
Posted 29 October 2012 - 11:24 AM
" But apart from that he beaten you up in front of the kids, apart from that, hes a nice guy " My mother
" This is life. Get over it and move on " A relative
" You are 40 years old and still bothering about the old storys ? " My mother
so on so on.... :angry:/>
Posted 30 October 2012 - 02:53 PM
This is the one I hate hate hate-its been a little over 2 years for me, and I keep having people yell me-Just get over it already. That is the stupidest thing in this situation. Another is-You're still thinking about that? Don't you ever think of anything else?- Don't you realize that I live in a hell that won't stop, a reality that isnt safe anymore. I never leave my house unless I have to.....
Posted 01 November 2012 - 09:33 AM
Posted 03 November 2012 - 11:22 AM
"A mother would never do that kind of thing."
Really? Well, mine sure did.
That's maddening, http://www.pandys.org/forums/public/style_emoticons/default/mad.gif I've gotten similar statements about my 'father', 'he seems like such a nice guy, can't imagine he'd do something like that'....well, I don't have to imagine, I lived it!
Posted 10 November 2012 - 11:58 PM
Posted 04 December 2012 - 10:38 AM
Posted 04 December 2012 - 01:21 PM
Still don't know what to think about this one, I told someone (which doesn't happen very often) and he immediately made it about them, not me:
'I feel sorry for the guys who did this to you. They must regret what they did every day.'
This post has been edited by fiona: 04 December 2012 - 01:29 PM
Posted 04 December 2012 - 10:10 PM
My mother when I called her to tell her what my father had done "You're upset just because he went for you?".
My mother when I said I didn't feel like a real or complete human being and that I had to prove any worth through my job "I always thought you were like a brain box on legs".
My abuser when he said "I didn't know it was wrong" - he was a psychologist in the school system!