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My husband and I were at a breaking point (literally) and I went online in search of a therapist. I screened a bunch online (I have had NO luck with insurance therapy) and sent requests through email. I set an appointment with the first who responded and off we went. Strangely enough fate has been good to me in situations such as this and I think she is a good fit personally AND philosophically (I need to know WHY this shit keeps happening and how I can stop it).
I have had 4 appointments and the first 2 were basic get to know you in the present kind of appointments and the second 2 were "tell me about your family and upbringing" sessions. Though we started at the beginning life is not linear; it's more of a spiral (in may ways circular) in that though you move forward you re-visit things.
Although the last 2 visits were about my family of origin we could not help but discuss my life with my ex-husband. I knew that my relationships with my parents brought me to my relationship with my ex. This was clear to me in the therapy I'd had after my split with my ex. Too be honest, I don't want to revisit my childhood and crap that happened there AND the crap that happened with my family as an adult. I feel like I have gotten past it. BUT it's intertwined with the stuff with my ex....