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Today I was talking to a friend who lost her virginity recently. Her story was perfection and frankly I was jealous because mine was a nightmare. She doesn't know what happened to me, so she asked me if I was still a virgin.
I haven't actually been faced with answering this question since my incident. My attacker took my virginity and I haven't been with anyone since. I was almost speechless and starting tearing up before hesitantly saying yes.
How do I answer this? I feel wrong saying yes because in my mind I am not, but I don't want to be faced with answering truthfully. It left me shaken and she knew something was wrong but I told her I didn't want to talk about it.
Help? Suggestions?
Today I was talking to a friend who lost her virginity recently. Her story was perfection and frankly I was jealous because mine was a nightmare. She doesn't know what happened to me, so she asked me if I was still a virgin.
I haven't actually been faced with answering this question since my incident. My attacker took my virginity and I haven't been with anyone since. I was almost speechless and starting tearing up before hesitantly saying yes.
How do I answer this? I feel wrong saying yes because in my mind I am not, but I don't want to be faced with answering truthfully. It left me shaken and she knew something was wrong but I told her I didn't want to talk about it.
Help? Suggestions?
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I don't consider my "first time" as losing my virginity. To me, losing virginity implies a mutual consensual experience. It is ok for you to consider yourself a virgin, in my opinion. Rape is a physical act, but to me it is not the same as sex. You still own your body, and no one can take your first time from you. Eventually, you will have this experience, and it can be as nice as your friend's experience was 
endlessocean,
23 January 2013 - 03:33 AM
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