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Donna Mae DePola - Guest Speaker Chat ...May 25th 2013 ... for more information please read this!
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Haven't done this exercise before, but have seen others do it and have wanted to make one myself. Here goes :)/> .
Dear classmate
No, I'm not "frigid", I'm traumatized, I've got boundaries that are tighter than most others, but there's a bloody reason why. I will try and push you away if you harrass me, and you can be damned certain I will make sure it has consequences for you later. Stop making fun of me when you don't even know what happened. Walk a mile in my shoes before you judge me. You're enrolled in a bachelor social work course -- at least pretend to care about people other than yourself.
Dear DJ
Have you thought about how many people are traumatized in various ways by SA and SA-related experiences? Do you know what happens in our heads when you play songs like "All who don't dance are rapists" in a public place where people are trying to have fun?
Seriously, if you're going to be in charge of music, at least try to put two cents worth of thinking behind what tracks you choose to put on.
Dear survivor
I don't find jokes about rape funny, and you of all people should understand that. Sorry, but I will take offense when you say things like "if you don't stop that, I'll ram something up your ass", and no, that's not a "completely innocuous thing to say". Get a ******* grip and a sense of empathy and start caring a tiny bit about other people than yourself. Please.
Dear friend of another survivor
Look, pal, SA survivors are all different, and they don't have to be making up stories just because they don't fit your idea of what survivors should be like -- and if you don't believe her, fine, but keep it to yourself.
Dear dad
Please, just give it up already. I want you to divorce my mom, move away, and leave us alone ...and then go kill yourself, for good measure.
Seriously, stop being so bloody nice to me in every way when I'm around. I hate you. You know that. That ain't gonna change.
Dear classmate
No, I'm not "frigid", I'm traumatized, I've got boundaries that are tighter than most others, but there's a bloody reason why. I will try and push you away if you harrass me, and you can be damned certain I will make sure it has consequences for you later. Stop making fun of me when you don't even know what happened. Walk a mile in my shoes before you judge me. You're enrolled in a bachelor social work course -- at least pretend to care about people other than yourself.
Dear DJ
Have you thought about how many people are traumatized in various ways by SA and SA-related experiences? Do you know what happens in our heads when you play songs like "All who don't dance are rapists" in a public place where people are trying to have fun?
Seriously, if you're going to be in charge of music, at least try to put two cents worth of thinking behind what tracks you choose to put on.
Dear survivor
I don't find jokes about rape funny, and you of all people should understand that. Sorry, but I will take offense when you say things like "if you don't stop that, I'll ram something up your ass", and no, that's not a "completely innocuous thing to say". Get a ******* grip and a sense of empathy and start caring a tiny bit about other people than yourself. Please.
Dear friend of another survivor
Look, pal, SA survivors are all different, and they don't have to be making up stories just because they don't fit your idea of what survivors should be like -- and if you don't believe her, fine, but keep it to yourself.
Dear dad
Please, just give it up already. I want you to divorce my mom, move away, and leave us alone ...and then go kill yourself, for good measure.
Seriously, stop being so bloody nice to me in every way when I'm around. I hate you. You know that. That ain't gonna change.
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