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There is no need to make such a big deal of this.
For one thing, it's her issue, not mine.
There is no need to feel ashamed.
This does not mean she doesn't like me anymore.
I have done nothing wrong.
I should not feel embarrassed.
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I am not going to make such a big deal of this.
It's her issue, not mine.
I am not ashamed.
She still likes me.
I have done nothing wrong.
I am not embarrassed.
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Though, I am still hurt. And, in fact, I think it was rude of her. When someone says or does something that is rude and unwarranted to me, why do I shoulder the blame? I can't always try to please her or expect to always please her 100%, so why should I put so much effort into it? I did not deserve to feel this way all day, and should not worry about how she feels about me in this respect. Not pleasing someone does not always equal failure. In this case, I did not live up to her unrealistic expectations, and should, therefore, not feel bad about failing to do so.
I feel like I am in a brutal battle with my brain right now. All I want to do is to submit to just feeling sad. Over and over again today, I have ruminated on this scenario, and in the process, have gotten angry or sad over and over again. I feel like I am just barely staying afloat over sinking into depression. I am set off so easily, but I'm not here to talk about that, and get to sadness via a different route of defeat.
Focus on what is happening in my head right now. I am going to do it this time. I am not going to obsess over this. I am not going to bring it up to him tomorrow to try to make him make me feel better. This is going to come from within me this time, and I'm not going to submit. I'm not going to even think about this tomorrow. It has taken up more than enough of my mental energy.
I don't need this pointless sadness in my life.
For one thing, it's her issue, not mine.
There is no need to feel ashamed.
This does not mean she doesn't like me anymore.
I have done nothing wrong.
I should not feel embarrassed.
--------------------------
I am not going to make such a big deal of this.
It's her issue, not mine.
I am not ashamed.
She still likes me.
I have done nothing wrong.
I am not embarrassed.
---------------------------
Though, I am still hurt. And, in fact, I think it was rude of her. When someone says or does something that is rude and unwarranted to me, why do I shoulder the blame? I can't always try to please her or expect to always please her 100%, so why should I put so much effort into it? I did not deserve to feel this way all day, and should not worry about how she feels about me in this respect. Not pleasing someone does not always equal failure. In this case, I did not live up to her unrealistic expectations, and should, therefore, not feel bad about failing to do so.
I feel like I am in a brutal battle with my brain right now. All I want to do is to submit to just feeling sad. Over and over again today, I have ruminated on this scenario, and in the process, have gotten angry or sad over and over again. I feel like I am just barely staying afloat over sinking into depression. I am set off so easily, but I'm not here to talk about that, and get to sadness via a different route of defeat.
Focus on what is happening in my head right now. I am going to do it this time. I am not going to obsess over this. I am not going to bring it up to him tomorrow to try to make him make me feel better. This is going to come from within me this time, and I'm not going to submit. I'm not going to even think about this tomorrow. It has taken up more than enough of my mental energy.
I don't need this pointless sadness in my life.
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