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What are your healing ACCOMPLISHMENTS? give me at least one - you can do ir
Posted 01 September 2004 - 11:18 PM
2. I accomplished so many incredible things in my life, in spite of his attempt to destroy what I was capable of doing.
3. I was able to see that all men weren't horrible and didn't become bitter towards *too* many of them.
4. I have, in part, been able to say "screw it" about other's opinions about it and me.
Biggest so far:
4. I have entered into a journey of being willing to deal with it and work through it. To me that is the biggest accomplishment so far, because it takes so much courage.
Posted 05 September 2004 - 02:06 PM
*worked through the first 150 pages of The Courage to Heal. Hard but definitely worth it. Only 250 to go lol.
*came out of denial concerning the first assault
*wrote down my story (big one)
*allowed myself to hurt and *cry*
*started to reclaim my life, thought about reporting.
Yay for this thread, and thanks for opening my eyes and making me see my accomplishments, Shell. :)/>
Posted 20 September 2004 - 10:31 PM
found my long lost emotions
allowed myself to cry
graduated from high school and started college
told two people the events of that night (my t and best friend)
reached out to others when they need help
learned to ask for help
Posted 25 July 2005 - 03:02 PM
I learnt how to talk about my feelings. With my T, and even with others. That's one amazing step for me, considering I have never been able to do it before.
(((Shell))) Thank you once more for this thread.
Posted 27 July 2005 - 10:54 AM
1. I've stayed alive.
2. I understood that I had been sexually abused.
3. I admited that it wasn't my fault.
4. I stopped dating and being friends with the abusive guy and admited that at least sometimes, I hate him.
5. I joined Pandys.
6. I wrote and posted about my bad relationship here and another site.
7. I don't feel so ashamed of being weak, having panic attacks and crying sometimes than I used to be.
8. I've been to a psychiatrist and tried to get to therapy.
9. I told about my experiences and problems to strange professionals.
10. I also told some of it to my friends, mother and Grandma.
11. I could begin a new relationship with a wonderful guy (though the relationship ended later).
12. I've been able to enjoy another person's closeness a little.
13. I've learnt to trust people more than before.
14. I've helped some other people with problems giving them a little comfort and/or advice.
15. I was accepted to a school to study arts and media although I haven't recovered from the abuse and some other things and felt sick and sad in the test.
16. I draw well and write too, both about the abuse and other things.
17. I'm rediscovering my sexuality and learning to like it instead of being ashamed of it.
18. I'm looking forward to really being able to enjoy sex with a person I love.
19. Sometimes I can smile.
This post has been edited by Elfstar: 27 July 2005 - 11:00 AM
Posted 28 July 2005 - 01:28 AM
I've told my husband (almost) everything that happened.
I've stuck it out with T even though I thought I couldn't.
I've shared my story on Pandy's.
I'm starting to deal with it rather than trying to push it aside.
I know that I want to live.
I have reported.
I went to a doctor...even if it was a couple of weeks later.
I'm starting to recognize my triggers.
I'm starting to learn how to handle/work through my triggers.
I think that's all I have for now...but I'm shocked looking at this list at what I have accomplished so far.
Posted 26 February 2008 - 01:47 PM
I finally managed to tell my story out loud, including saying the R word, which i've never been able to do before. It took hours and i still have to get the last little bit done, which i will do sometime this week or next, then i can move on a bit hopefully, its only taken about 18 months :P/>
Posted 10 March 2008 - 01:14 PM
I've been able to let my male friends and family members hug me and not get freaked.
My now former co-worker R is going off to college next week, and he said he wouldn't see me next wek and he asked if he could give me a :hug:/> and I was ok with it.
This post has been edited by blondie2002: 26 April 2009 - 12:10 AM
Posted 10 March 2008 - 02:10 PM
Anyway with all this rambling, the most healing thing I've found is being able to help other women who've been assaulted. It's been 27 years next month and in that time I've talked to dozens of women. I no longer have any reservations about sharing my story. It wasn't my fault-which I've always known but the feeling of being "dirty and different" was still there. That's long gone-it's now just another thing that happened in my life, bad but not the worst thing as far as lasting effects.
Posted 05 August 2008 - 10:37 AM
I feel free, I feel joy, I feel passion and I feel in control.
I've pushed myself with amazing results.
I trust myself.
I am straight forward and honest about my feelings and am able to ask for what I need.
I have conqured my fear.
I have conqured my shame.
I honour myself in little ways everyday, especially when I don't feel like it. (spa treatments, climbing trees, swimming, dancing! etc.)
I take care of my body, my health, and I am gentle with myself in every way. (Meditation, working out, eating well, yoga etc.)
I am working towards the life I want and I am enjoying it!
I am able to enjoy physical contact with males and trust myself enough to relax.
I ended and stopped my abuse, by myself, I took care of myself.
I've reclaimed my sexuality, even after being r**** countless times and abused in many ways, including as a child.
I think I'm amazing!
I love my body!
I love fun!
I've developed my spiritual side!
I'm happy, I'm at peace, I'm calm. I'm no longer in chaos!