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Anybody else have weird triggers? Want to list them? (yes, *trigger warn*)
Posted 02 December 2012 - 07:38 PM
my boyfriend raising his eyesbrows (like he wants to be naughty)
fat/large male hands
my pets grooming themselves, i dont know why but i absolutely hate the noise it makes.(may have nothing to do with it)
being in a large group of people, like a party where i know them.
i bet there are more but thats all for now
Posted 03 December 2012 - 12:27 AM
Sides of houses (like backyard)
Some kinds of acne scars (which sucks because I have some of those scars)
Certain types of cars
Specific smell (wish I knew what it was…)
Feeling pinned down (like if someone is laying on top of me)
Anyone that really looks like him (which kinda goes with the pasty skin)
So not so bad. :)/>
Posted 06 January 2013 - 07:53 AM
Not being able to write neatly
People with his name
His relation to me (family)
Rape scenes in movies
Hands on my neck
Things tied around my neck
Yankees baseball team
People who think they know it all
People who judge and label
Talking about what happened
Reading about rape
People who bully others
People who think they're God's greatest gift to mankind
People who are in a position to help but choose not to
People who take advantage of others
Always looking for the exit and/or quickest way to get out of a building
White t-shirts (solid color or with designs)
There are more, but that's all I can think of for now.
I noticed a few mentioned the band Insane Clown Posse. I'd like to talk about them real quick.
I am a die-hard fan, aka Juggalo for life. I first started listening to the group at the age of thirteen. I'm almost thirty now. A lot of people hate their music because the level of violence. But that's not what all their music is, which goes for any other artist on Psychopathic Records. If it wasn't for ICP, Twiztid, Blaze, ABK, Dark Lotus, Esham, Natas, Tech N9ne, etc. (I'd like to add in Slipknot, Stone Sour, and Metallica to the list) I wouldn't be alive. Their music got me through the worst times and saved my life. There's a much deeper and positive message in and behind their music. You have to be in the world to know what it's all about. Being a Juggalo is who I am, with every breath I take until my dying day.
Posted 09 January 2013 - 07:06 AM
Exception: Planned Parenthood - I've always felt safe there. And good when I leave.
My son is two and he has yet to see a doctor. Ever. He was born with a midwife and room full of family, doula's, and friends a mile from the hospital.
Cops. I used to start shaking when I encountered cops. I'd shut down to the point where I couldn't communicate. Now I just feel sick and angry and it sets me on edge for a day or so.
Any mention of military schools.
boy's mountain bikes (kid sized) but only if they are black
Some extremely skinny women, particularly if they're blond, short haired, and sorta punk rock.
Ticky Tacky Houses - particularly if they are all white.
This post has been edited by ray1986: 09 January 2013 - 07:07 AM
Posted 09 January 2013 - 07:57 PM
Yelling. Name calling. My husband has this really bad habit of trying to sound mean and macho to the pets when he's mad at them (usually after he's been working out) and I find that incredibly triggering.
Posted 18 January 2013 - 12:36 AM
These are my triggers
Polo, Eternity and another cologne
all of the houses where the abuse took place with all of the abusers
the color blue
the color orange
facial hair in all its forms - my ex tried them all but the worst was a full beard and the half moustache and goatee
when someone says "oral" or "anal" sex - triggers rage
seeing scantily clad people pop up on my computer when I don't want it and I don't
certain names that were called to me
the name of a certain flower
sometimes spiritual things
seeing or thinking of farm animals
men grouped together
seeing pregnant women
Did I say facial hair? That's been a very big one. I didn't realize how big until lately but getting better. I particularly picked a therapist who looked a little similar to ex in order to work through my fears.
Therapist himself just because of his age (about when my ex left and the worst abuse happened and same height and facial hair and color of hair). Lot of projection going on lately.
Certain foods - bananas, zucchini, phallic shaped
There's more but that's all for now. They are weird enough to me.
Posted 22 January 2013 - 10:23 PM
This post has been edited by jlandrith: 22 January 2013 - 10:23 PM