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So bored and lonely

Posted by radarlove , 11 July 2013 · 97 views


My one close friend, who is male, sometimes spends the night at my place. We usually share my bed and cuddle, but it never goes farther than that. I've told him i'm not interested. It's been like this for years.

But last night he fondled my fucking ass when I got into bed. It grossed me out so much. I told him not to do that and then he just dismissed my feelings and tried to act like it was "no big deal". I got annoyed and just laid back down and then he smacked my fucking ass!!!

I was so angry and grossed out so i just went to sleep on my couch.

Then he called me this morning to say he was sorry and asked if we were cool. I said yeah, just cuz I didn't want to get hung up on it, but it made me sad that he did that and was dismissive of my feelings and tried to make me think it was okay and that it wasn't what it was.

Now i feel pretty alone cuz i don't feel like I can trust him to share a sleeping space next to me anymore and generally just feel a bit violated by my only close friend.

Oh well....what's fucking new? :(



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Untangling-It-All
Jul 12 2013 06:27 PM
NOT okay what he did. I don't think he can be trusted after what he did. Not only the first time he touched you, but the second time on top of that.

For me, this kind of behaviour would be a red flag and also a deal breaker. I am sorry you had to go through that with him.
Thanks. It does feel like our friendship probably can't be the same. It sucks, cuz he's been my only close friend for so long :(/>

I'm gonna say no more sleep overs and probably only public outings. I guess most people would say to not hang out with him at all after that, but it's hard when you don't have many people to open up to.

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