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Top 10 Stupidest Comments
#31
Posted 11 March 2003 - 02:42 PM
OMG! (((((Crystal))))) That is just flat fucking horrible. I don't normally respond to every one of these, or the thread would be 49348753984 pages long, but the ignorance & cruelty there just astounded me.
#32 Guest__*
Posted 16 April 2003 - 12:10 AM
when i told a friend (9th grade)
did that happen in germany?
yes why?
then it must have been foreigners, a german man would never do something like that
(ever heard about the holocaust stupid #######? yes all germans are innocent)
did that happen in germany?
yes why?
then it must have been foreigners, a german man would never do something like that
(ever heard about the holocaust stupid #######? yes all germans are innocent)
my therapist when i was 15 and told about the r*pe where i was 9:
****T*****
are u sure at least one man put his p*nis in ur v*gina? it was no r*pe otherwise.
(yes sure i asked what they where using in the moment....)
#33
Posted 21 April 2003 - 01:21 PM
hows this for a corker then.
I go to T and im not allowed to leave on my own because of my SI so i need someone to pick me up. I asked my dad to and he wass fine with it then i had this cono with his arsehole girlfriend.
AHG- well you dont really need to go to therapy for that it was so long ago. You can just come and talk to me my sister was abused so i know al about it. Obviously her abuse was much much worse than yours.
hey thats great isnt it wish someone had told me earlier that I dont need T anymore because it was so long ago. ( is 9 years ago that long? )And great im sooooooooo going to talk to you about it you stupid cow.
I go to T and im not allowed to leave on my own because of my SI so i need someone to pick me up. I asked my dad to and he wass fine with it then i had this cono with his arsehole girlfriend.
AHG- well you dont really need to go to therapy for that it was so long ago. You can just come and talk to me my sister was abused so i know al about it. Obviously her abuse was much much worse than yours.
hey thats great isnt it wish someone had told me earlier that I dont need T anymore because it was so long ago. ( is 9 years ago that long? )And great im sooooooooo going to talk to you about it you stupid cow.
#34
Posted 01 July 2002 - 05:39 PM
Once a counselor in a clinic i was in who knew a little said:
'How were u dressed?'
'Had u been drinking?
"Why didn't u fight?'
'How were u dressed?'
'Had u been drinking?
"Why didn't u fight?'
like when i am drunk anyone can do whatever he wants?
#35 Guest__*
Posted 15 November 2002 - 10:30 AM
My god, SilentFlight. What an AWFUL experience! Grrrr at that Centre, I can't believe that they did that. :angry:
I have another stupid comment, don't think I've ever posted it here.
I recently told a new friend about what happened to me. I really respect him for his religious beliefs - I think his attitude toward life is one of the things that I enjoy most about him - but the way he applied that towards my revelation was truly disgusting.
He told me that maybe being raped was my karma - that it was my punishment because I had been a rapist in my last life, and what goes around comes around.
#36
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Posted 11 March 2003 - 07:42 AM
sorry all - another boost!
#37
Posted 16 April 2003 - 01:50 AM
OK, this really wasn't hurtful, but it's plenty stupid. I recently wrote a loooong letter to a friend in another state, and told her a little bit about the rapes (sans details)and about my healing - what progress I'd made, what I was working on, etc.
Her response?
"I'm sorry that happened to you" was sounding pretty good, until she tacked on "but at least you're over it now. I really don't want to think about that. Wouldn't it be best if we just forget about it?"
Ummmm....Okaaaaay. WTF?! Nice of her to notify me that I'm "over" it...
~Lynn
#39 Guest__*
Posted 30 June 2002 - 05:18 PM
actualy, away from what you're wearing on comments.
I'm kinda, ya know, touchy touchy (oooo touchy!!) with some of my girlfriends, and a few of my boyfriends.
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Friend: you shouldn't act like that.
Me: why?
Friend: cus you look like a slut.
Me: so I'm not suposed to be able to have fun with my boyfriend?
Friend: you just don't seem like you could be someone who's been raped.
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(ooo, I was pissed..... I wanted to just shoot him for that...)
(Edited by BleedingTears at 7:19 pm on June 30, 2002)
#40 Guest__*
Posted 01 July 2002 - 09:50 AM
These comments are the exact things I am afraid of, which is why I haven't told very many people... I'm sorry you all have to deal with such stupid people. They really can be insensitive sometimes, huh?
flautist
#41
Posted 02 July 2002 - 07:47 AM
Ok, I need to answer to that one to let some anger go out. This was the first comment of my mother after I told her that I've been abused by years by my uncle when I was younger and that I was doing a depression because of it :"Why you don't do your depression during summer time while you are in the USA with your friends?". Ok, mom, next time I will ask you when I can plan to be abused and do a depression about it to see if this is ok with you ...
#42
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Posted 11 November 2002 - 09:43 PM
The stupidest comment I ever got was from a local "counselling and support" center: I called and asked for help. I asked if they had any groups for male survivors, and was told "of course"... and promptly given an appointment. I arrived at the group, and sat down, and was introduced... there were quite a few men there besides myself... I thought maybe I wasn't so alone out here... then the moderator asked me if I had been arrested or if I had "come of my own accord"...
I asked "arrested for what?"... the moderator said "Child ab*se, mol*station, r*pe...", and I replied that I didn't realize that being abused was something you got arrested for. The moderator then told me "males are the perps and females are the victims." I am male: the group was for perps!
I asked "arrested for what?"... the moderator said "Child ab*se, mol*station, r*pe...", and I replied that I didn't realize that being abused was something you got arrested for. The moderator then told me "males are the perps and females are the victims." I am male: the group was for perps!
I hear all the time that males are not really victims of abuse. It's as ignorant as saying a female "asked for it." Unfortunately it's gender blind.
#43 Guest_lea_*
Posted 20 July 2002 - 07:32 PM
((grey))
God it's really shit when you get NO response whatsoever, 'specailly when it probably took a #### of a lot of courage for you to email her in the first place. Certainly a lot more courage than she had to say absolutely nothing, no matter how sympathetic you can be to why she didn't. Sorry you had to deal with that ((hugs)) - I've been in similar circumstances myself. Not a nice thing to contend with, I know.
Take care, luv Lea. :)
#44 Guest__*
Posted 02 November 2002 - 01:00 AM
An ex-girlfriend of mine, upon learning that I'd been raped: "Is that why you're a lesbian?"
Yes, that's it. I really was born liking men, but after that, I was just so afraid that I started liking women. Never mind that I liked women BEFORE that. Never mind that I was also raped and abused by a WOMAN. Wouldn't that make me asexual, then?
Yes, that's it. I really was born liking men, but after that, I was just so afraid that I started liking women. Never mind that I liked women BEFORE that. Never mind that I was also raped and abused by a WOMAN. Wouldn't that make me asexual, then?
#45 Guest_brandnewday012095_*
Posted 11 March 2003 - 08:17 AM
hmm.... lets see...
aren't you over this yet?
don't you know there are people who have had it worse off than you?
well, you always seem to put yourself in these situations..
rape can't be done by someone you know- i dont believe you- it happens with strangers only-
aren't you over this yet?
don't you know there are people who have had it worse off than you?
well, you always seem to put yourself in these situations..
rape can't be done by someone you know- i dont believe you- it happens with strangers only-
ish-
chaz
